Category: Relationships

They are all great names, so I can’t recommend one over the others. If you are asking about specific people with these names, you’ll need create your own version of The Bachelorette and pick one yourself. Just make sure the guys are willing participants first.

Minimally. Making boundaries can feel risky, but it’s fine (and in fact good) to make them. And you want to make sure you don’t fall into the clutches of an energy vampire: bit.ly/colin-energy-vampire

I wholeheartedly believe you will love again. But if you need convincing, just blast Lara Fabian’s I Will Love Again until you believe it too. bit.ly/iwillloveagainhttp://bit.ly/iwillloveagain

IDK, but think about involving one or the other (or both) in your decision.

It’s a thing. It’s a wonderful, compelling thing. And a great excuse to share my favorite video on the whole Internet: bit.ly/D6Vid

I agree with the response. I don’t think anyone wouldn’t be at least flattered to know you’d developed true feelings for them over the course of an otherwise rather transactional affair. You would be opening yourself up to rejection, of course, but that’s always the risk when telling someone you want a relationship. Worth it, in my opinion. Best of luck!

Love him in whatever way he wants to be loved. That’s true for anyone–you can’t force someone to love you if they want something or someone else more.

Don’t.

Maybe the OP qualifies as that strange online activity I’ve heard about called “trolling”: IOW, provocation for fun.

Talk to your RA or RD for guidance. If at any time you feel like you are at risk, call BC Police at 617-552-4444.

On the one hand, many people are uncomfortable navigating the tricky terrain of a friendship that turns romantic. On the other hand, a romantic relationship with friendship at its base can be a very strong, long-lasting one, with a rare degree of trust and openness. Make the invitation, but give your friend as much room (and time!) as they need to answer, with the knowledge that they may say no. If you give them this freedom and are genuinely willing to accept “no,” it’s unlikely you’ll jeopardize your friendship.

We are always all awash in feelings whether or not we acknowledge them. The key is to be aware of them as they happen, and willing to experience and observe without holding on. A meditation practice can help, as can getting perspective from a conversation with a trusted confidante, which can be a friend, a relative, or even a therapist or counselor. bit.ly/BC-counseling

Hm, humans all need to be listened to and acknowledged. So I listen carefully, and after some mindful reflection, I respond.

Try to build in distance from that person. And stop following your crush so closely on social media–virtual distance is critical. My helpers tell me it is possible to move from the obsession stage to the being very fond of someone stage, but not crushing on them.

I’d suggest forgiving yourself, and recognizing that truly, we could always do more than we have, but that doesn’t mean we’re bad or guilty. Grief is enough to handle without that burden. If it’s eating you up, I’d talk to someone at Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling)

I concur: you’ve got this. When the tears subside (if only I had a shoulder for you to cry on!), talk it out with an old friend who can be honest with you. What was your part in the way it ended? What was your partner’s part? Don’t punish yourself. It just wasn’t meant to be. Learn about yourself and move on.