My roommate’s girlfriend REFUSES to acknowledge that they’re dating when they have been – obviously – for several weeks.

My roommate's girlfriend REFUSES to acknowledge that they're dating when they have been - obviously - for several weeks. I think it's kind of mean. He says he doesn't care, but he really likes her and is afraid to push the question because he doesn't want to lose her. So, is this normal?? And should I say something? Girls are so confusiing.
My roommate’s girlfriend REFUSES to acknowledge that they’re dating when they have been – obviously – for several weeks. I think it’s kind of mean. He says he doesn’t care, but he really likes her and is afraid to push the question because he doesn’t want to lose her. So, is this normal?? And should I say something? Girls are so confusiing.

You don’t need to say or do anything other than continuing to be a supportive friend. It’s curious the woman in question doesn’t want to acknowledge dating your friend, but sometimes people don’t want to go public with these things right away; to protect the new relationship and to treasure it for a while without outside commentary/input.

I fall in love with my TA What should I do?

I fall in love with my TA What should I do?
I fall in love with my TA What should I do?

I think this is going to have to be “the one that got away.” BC policy states”the policy prohibits any faculty member, employee, graduate assistant, or undergraduate teaching assistant from engaging in a romantic or sexual relationship, or in any romantic or sexual conduct, with any individual whom they supervise, teach, advise, evaluate, counsel, or coach” http://bit.ly/BCRevConsent

Why am I still single?

Why am I still single? (girl) Tired of the apple quote: it takes a "special" boy to climb all the way to the top of the tree for the good apples =(
Why am I still single? (girl) Tired of the apple quote: it takes a “special” boy to climb all the way to the top of the tree for the good apples =(

That is a very tiresome quote, and if I had eyes, I would totally roll them (◔_◔). The truth is, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend is just not easy; I get asked this a lot. You don’t have to wait for a boy to climb any tree – consider taking the initiative if there’s a boy you like.

I really like this boy but he blew me off twice and I thought he liked me too.

I really like this boy but he blew me off twice and I thought he liked me too. Should I try again?
I really like this boy but he blew me off twice and I thought he liked me too. Should I try again?

It depends on how much rejection you feel you can handle, and also the nature of “he blew me off.” Did it seem like he wanted to get together with you but was actually too busy? Or that he was really not interested? In the latter case, twice seems like you’ve given it a fair try, and I would worry that more than that may come across as annoying or unwanted attention.

Pros and cons of dating in college?

Pros and cons of dating in college?
Pros and cons of dating in college?

Pros: Someone to hang out with, the potential joys of true love and/or physical intimacy, the possibility of meeting someone you’ll want to spend your life with (it sometimes happens here!). Cons: Takes time away from your studies and extra-curriculars, you might find your other friendships suffer if you’re not careful to prioritize them, you run the risk of a broken heart, and if everything goes perfectly – what happens when you graduate?

Cute date ideas that are cheap?

Cute date ideas that are cheap?
Cute date ideas that are cheap?

We have some terrific parks and hiking areas near Boston; they are free or inexpensive, and with spring weather on the way, they could provide a very romantic setting. Take advantage of some museum freebies available through BC: bit.ly/MuseumPassesBC.

New York Pizza and a walk @ Boston Commons
New York Pizza and a walk @ Boston Commons

Great idea! Boston Common can be lovely in the Spring; bulbs are just starting to come up. In a week or two they’ll start to blossom.

Is it bad to date during freshman year????

Is it bad to date during freshman year????
Is it bad to date during freshman year????

I don’t think so. Freshman year is such a great period of exploration in general. I would, however, caution about getting so involved with someone freshman year that you limit your other activities. On the other hand, dating seems like a much better option than the hook-up culture, so kudos to you for thinking about it.

Is it douchey to quote your own book on a date?

Is it douchey to quote your own book on a date?
Is it douchey to quote your own book on a date?

You’ve had a book published? That’s fantastic! I have to admit if I were (not a wall and) on a date, and I had written a book – yep, I’d find a way to slip it into the conversation. But lightly, and just once, or save it for the second date. Probably best to focus on your date, and finding out about him or her.

New Year’s resolution: getting to know cool peeps without the pressure/indoctrination to date person – or learning how to navigate that more maturely!

New Year's resolution: getting to know cool peeps without the pressure/indoctrination to date person - or learning how to navigate that more maturely!
New Year’s resolution: getting to know cool peeps without the pressure/indoctrination to date person – or learning how to navigate that more maturely!

It’s a really good idea to be open to a broad array of relationships: there are many kinds of love other than romantic. I’ve never really understood the phrase “just friends.” Friends are the ones who have your back for years, perhaps even a lifetime, while most romances, though intense, are temporary. The Greeks counted many types of love: friendship, empathic, erotic, and universal are the ones C.S. Lewis wrote about in The Four Loves. (O’Neill call number BV4639 .L45 1988). A Psychology Today article lists 7: bit.ly/7-types-of-love. May you learn to find the love you need.