This one is best left to the realm of daydream and fantasy; turning this into a reality – even if possible – could have disasterous effects under the University’s revised Consensual Relationship Policy: bit.ly/RelationshipPol
Even so, still not ok. Learning to have self control and not act on all your desires is part of adulting.
A crush often involves having a very idealized perception of who someone is. Hypothetically speaking, If you’ve placed someone on a pedestal based on feelings of attraction, odds are your crush is real.
My understanding is that Kairos retreat leaders are fellow students, so it doesn’t seem like there’s an issue – why not ask him/her out and see where it goes? You already know you have interests in common.
My cousin, The Magic 8 Ball, says “Cannot predict now.” It’s painful to love someone and not have them reciprocate. But please don’t let your unrequited love keep you from doing what you want to do in life, or keep you from considering relationships with other people.
It makes me sad to think of you missing out on the fun. Crushes are hard, but it’s best to keep living your life until they subside – and they do! Maybe go to your formal and resolve to engage with lots of other people?
No, RAs are not permitted to have romantic relationships with the residents of their res, according to Jake Cusick, Housing Assignment Specialist at ResLife. So I guess you have to let this one pass. Crushes do fade in time.
Can you legitimately make someone love you? Certainly, you can take the initiative in starting a conversation and inviting your crush to spend some time with you. Then my advice is to be your best authentic self and see where it goes. I can’t think of a better place than a library to find true love.