Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Well, you already know about Professor Cronin, so you could try following her advice – or just take it from me, a Wall who has seen many things; the daily details of building a relationship may change a bit through the ages, but people will continue to need other people. Be brave, but also patient. Wishing you love.
It is cold, I know. We keep it colder than lots of places because books have special needs for temperature and humidity. There are some potential problems with loaning things that need cleaning regularly, but I’ll definitely pass it along to my wall friends in the Big Offices.
Tic Tac Toe players, enjoy! I’ll watch.
The Wall is going to guess you’re a little shy, but let me know if it’s something else, because there are a variety of reasons that can be hard. Idea #1: Start by doing something easier regularly and work yourself up to the hard thing. Some people have trouble answering questions, some with asking them. Try doing the one that’s easier for you. Be gentle with yourself: most people need lots of practice to get comfortable being the only person talking in a big room.
Audio can be found by visiting this link http://frontrow.bc.edu/program/obama/
A certain number of people will like, dislike, and be indifferent to you after they’ve gotten to know you a little. The trick is to make sure more people get the introduction. It’s a much better idea to be yourself than to try to make yourself into what you think someone else thinks they want. Be patient, be kind to yourself. The Wall assures you that there are many possible someones for everyone. So: go say hi to one new person today, or say hello to someone you’ve talked to before. Talk to them about anything other than whether you like each other. Tomorrow: repeat.
Tell him. Friendship is about honesty; if you don’t, your friendship will suffer. But it’s possible he’s quite committed, so be prepared for disappointment. And in case of disappointment, be prepared to help return your friendship to an even keel, because telling him shouldn’t mean the end of a friendship. (Also: better that his resolve be tested now than after he goes through all the work to become a priest!)
It’s not a recording, but the ringing has been automated since the 1960s.
I recommend asking Kathy Duggan at the Connors Family Learning Center (CFLC) 617-552-8093 or dugganka@bc.edu
Yes! We will add it to the library collection. If you would like to recommend a book in the future, use our suggest a purchase form here: library.bc.edu/purchaserequest
If you’re not hungry with your M/W/F classes, then we can probably rule out medical issues. Are you eating full and healthy meals? Can you bring a snack with you? It’s important not to be too hungry in class; not only is it distracting but without fuel the body gets tired and learning can suffer.
Short answer: no. Longer answer: sexual attraction, behavior, and identity are three separate things and don’t necessarily line up the same way all the time. This is a huge topic, but you could start here: http://bit.ly/bc-sexuality
I expect they are somewhat oblivious to you, unless you are in their environment and they perceive you as a predator or other threat. You could ask them, but like the song says, “They won’t answer, they can’t talk.”
Sounds territorial. But there’s plenty of fishing in O’Neill, try the SH call numbers, Level 3, Shelf 128.
Study! If you don’t understand the material, ask your professor for help. If you think you need additional help, go to the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors)
Stone bricks. That is, after all, what most of my wall friends are made out of.
Heavy workload? Ouch. Study in groups: not only will you learn more, but you get a little social life as a bonus. (OK maybe that’s not what quite enough.) And see tutors and an academic coach at the CFLC (bit.ly/BC-connors) to help your work become more focused and efficient, which will make time for more social life. In the meantime, ugh, but you’ll get through it.
Think about what you could bring to the internship that no one else can. Make the application about how you can solve problems for them. If there’s a list of requirements, go through them item by item and call out how you’re qualified for each of them. Work very hard on making sure your opening is clear, concise, and ideally memorable. Good luck!
Politely. And preferably without a cheesy line – those don’t tend to go over well in most situations. I always recommend asking someone to hang out over coffee on a first date. It’s low pressure, can be short if it’s not going well, long if it is, and there are no awkward moments where someone has their mouth full of food trying to answer a question. Although I will admit to liking the line, “If you were a library book, I would check you out.”
I’d suggest taking the time to communicate about what went wrong during the game. Losing by such a big margin is unfortunate if you’re on the losing side, but using it as an opportunity to learn where you can improve could be the best way to rebound.
Multiple variables are a head-spinner for sure, and algebra starts asking you to put together a lot of different math skills & concepts to solve any single problem. I recommend working in groups and working with tutors at the CFLC: bit.ly/BC-connors. Algebra is more approachable if you talk through it rather than just try to think through it alone.
In that case, she or he has my deep sympathy.
