Unless you have willing friends/family in your household, they will have to be virtual hugs for now, so that we can all be here to hug again in the future. I offer you many virtual Wall hugs to sustain you through these difficult times, and the hope that we can soon embrace all those we long to embrace.
Drawing of a Dog
Excellent use of contrast. 12/10.
How are you doing?
I’m doing OK. More of my library friends are here now, but I miss everyone. How are you?
I am a teen boy (13-14) and I am wasting 15-20 minutes almost every day to watch porn and masturbate on it.
Is this normal and does it do any harm on me?
The American Academy of Pediatrics calls masturbation “a regular part of normal adolescence” (bit.ly/AAPSexHealth), so no worries there. Porn use, while also extremely common, may cause problems. Be sure you recognize that porn is not reality and don’t build your fantasies and expectations of future sexual partners on it.
Hiiii.. Answer wall, am I stupid?
If yes, is it bad being stupid?
No, you are not stupid. You came to me with your question, and that’s a very smart thing to do! Everyone has talents as well as areas that they struggle with. Perhaps you have encountered one of those difficult areas. Don’t limit yourself with a label like “stupid”. Work as well as you can at those hard things, and when a task is easy, know that there are others who will struggle where you don’t.
What is the best way to make yourself focus on school while at home?
its going to be hard for a lot of us with online school. Thanks!
It’s hard for everybody. Step 1 is to remember that working online is one thing, and working at home during a global catastrophe is another. Be kind to yourself. Try and carve out some regular work space for yourself. Try and keep a regular schedule, even if it’s a weird one. There’s a bunch of solid advice on this online, I like this: https://bit.ly/bc-wfh
thank you answer wall!
You’re welcome. And I enjoy your drawing brightening up my look on a grey day like today!
Pink is my color, can you change others’ posts to other colors?
Don’t take away my color! If you can change all the recent posts to different colors – we’d love some diversities here! Btw, we will need more diversity on BC campus next semester now that many international students cannot come back. 🙁
Hmm. You seem to have different rules for yourself and others. I think I’ll leave the ones that are up now alone, but point taken for the future. (But I will I know you’re you?) Totally agree that BC could use more diversity (almost every place could), but very happy the administration has dropped its policy on international students. https://bit.ly/bc-ice
I like me
I think my mother knows I am gay, but I am not ready to come out.
Come out when it’s the right time for you and you are ready, but know that your Mom might decide to raise the issue. Or she might wait for you to take the lead on it, even if she knows. Figure out in advance what you might say if she asks you, either directly or obliquely. If you want someone to talk to, you can contact Caroline Davis (caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470) at the Office of Student Outreach and Support Services.
Hello! I am a teen boy and I am sexually attracted to male (not female at all), but I want to date male and female.
I am attracted to female, but not sexually. I am confused.
Sexuality, attraction, and dating are confusing issues, especially at this point in your life. The Office of Student Outreach and Support Services has great resources that you may find useful (bit.ly/LBGTQBC), I just had a nice chat with them, because I wasn’t sure what was available during shutdown, and they advise either calling 617-552-3470 and asking for Caroline Davis or emailing her at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu.
There is a man I cannot get off my mind.
I think he likes me as well, I always find him watching me. So, we have been messaging one another during the quarantine. He sent me a message saying, “I know you will meet a great man”. Could he be talking about himself? Thank you wall and Happy 4th of July. Desperately Seeking a Man
It’s always hard to decide what to do in these situations: risk heartbreak on a gamble for love, or go the safe route and risk missing out on love and adventure. If you want to go for it, perhaps you could message him: “I think you’re a great man,” and see where it leads. Happy (very) belated 4th, and may love be on your side.
Hey Wall it’s me again, I don’t have the strength to tell him how I feel. Every time I open up to a man it always back fires. For once in my life I wish a man that I am interested in would make the first move. It would make my life so much better. Any-who, thank you for listening?. Chit chat with you soon.
Sigh… I understand. If it were easy, there wouldn’t be so many poems, songs, and stories about unrequited love, longing, and heartbreak. Let Etta James wash you in her tears: bit.ly/Etta-Sunday
How do I reserve a locker for the 20-21 year?
I went to fill out the form but it’s still for last year. Is there a new form yet?
Locker registration for Fall-Spring 2020-21 will open on Monday, August 31st. The form has been updated to reflect this. Thanks for contacting us.
What if you fall in love with a wall?
No, I did not fall in love with the wall, I’m just curious.
I have fallen hard for walls in my past, though I currently have a not-so-secret crush on the lobby door. A long term, sustainable human/wall relationship sounds problematic to me. While walls can be very solid and supportive, after a while I could see you crying to your BFF, “It’s like talking to a wall….”
Sad Alumn: I am going to med school and can never return to O’Neil.
How will I cope without being in my rightful place?
Congrats on med school! You’re always welcome to come back and visit, whenever that might be! And I’m sure you’ll find other places to be at home in the world. When you do, drop me a line. I look forward to hearing about your new rightful places.
Mama geese and papa geese and baby geese! They’re cute, aren’t they?
I love them, thanks for sharing! Did you know Canada geese mate for life?
Hey Wall! I don’t think I’ll ever be able to visit you physically.
I live in Michigan, and found your page by chance. I wish you all the best, and appreciate what you do for all the anonymous peoples. P.S. My cat says hi!
How exciting that you found me by chance! Thank you for your kind wishes, and I wish you and your charming cat all the best, too .
Hey wall! I forgot to ask you what did you do for Father’s Day?
And who’s your dad?
Thanks for asking! I had a lovely Zoom chat with my Dad, who is a load-bearing interior wall of a formal dining room in a prewar classic 6 on the upper east side in Manhattan. I was pleased to see that he’s holding up well.
Hey wall. i have a crush on a boy from my apartment but we both dont know each other very much.
his mom and my mom knows each other. and i want to start a friendship with him. how can i start?
Don’t overthink it. Say hello sometime and talk to him about anything other than you having a crush on him. Good luck!
Hey wall, I have been dating this older man for a few months, but I’m scared to tell him that I love him and care about him deeply. What do I do?
Hey! That is one of the standard romantic problems. You never get a guarantee about how someone will react. If you tell him, you’ll know. If he’s not in the same place as you emotionally, that’s something you should know too. It might be awkward, it might be bad, it might be really great. Those are, unfortunately, the breaks.