Angry?
I’m sorry you had to wait. My helpers are working on a lot of different things now, so sometimes I have an answer for you but no one to post it for me. Some questions I also like to think about for a while.
I don’t lie (mostly) , yet sometimes I am misjudged.
I feel so annoyed, and I don’t like explaining after that. Feels useless. What would you do?
While you may not like explaining your feelings, I think expressing your thoughts could help with the misunderstandings you’re dealing with. Ideally, if you and those who misunderstand you can find some common ground, things can improve.
I want some good friends. What’s the address?
For those of a certain age it was 90 Bedford St, New York, NY 10014 in the West Village. For those even more of a certain age it was Z, double O, M, Box 3-5-O, Boston, Mass. 0-2-1-3-4. But maybe that’s not the kind of thing you’re talking about? Facebook claims to provide “friends,” but I’m dubious. Some humans I know speak wistfully about a place called MySpace. I’ve seen many people greet each other with friendly waves in my home, the O’Neill Library lobby at Boston College. I think the address is wherever you are.
What’s the recipe to make your friend happy? Especially when he is a persistent one.
Be (gently) honest with him and manage expectations. Let him know that (barring a true emergency) you need time for – whatever else you do – but also let him know when you are available and that you want to be there for him. But you can’t make him happy; that’s on him.
How do you make someone realize they are wrong when they don’t want to believe it?
Good luck trying. In my experience, this is very difficult, and leads to too much loss of sleep on your part – see the brilliant XKCD: xkcd.com/386/
When someone asks me what’s your favorite color, I have to. Make up an answer
ask don’t have one in particular. My favorite color is not a specific one, but any one that I find fits the moment.
Maybe not having a favorite color is what makes you unique? People often ask this question to spark conversation or get to know someone better. Consider it your opportunity to open and share a little bit about yourself with others.
Do people maintain there nature (for eg introvert, outgoing, gloomy) for the rest of their lives?
I would say a person’s nature can be influenced by a wide variety of factors. While someone may often be seen as gloomy, there can be someone or something that can change their demeanor for the better. Changes like this are just one example of why humans can be so fascinating.
Hello Answer wall. I wish you a very exciting and wonderful day.
May your bricks and paint and cement and fittings be healthy!
Thank you! I am feeling very healthy and clean these days thanks to the extra care by our great housekeeping staff.
Hey wall, I’m feeling bored, mainly because of this corona thing.
You and me both. Ordinarily, I get to watch a few thousand people pass by my perch in the O’Neill Lobby. But I also find this strange time is giving me a chance to reflect.
Hi Wall, just checking up on you.
How are you doing boo? Are you doing anything fabulous for the summer? Oh by the way, thank you for the music selection. I do love me some Etta James. Talk to you soon?!
Oh, you know me, kind of a homebody, and I’ve got other walls and some floors and ceilings kind of depending on me to stay put. Which reminds me of another Etta James song, the one that started her career in 1955: Wallflower. bit.ly/etta-wallflower
Hello! I am releasing my homosexual pressure by watching pornographical content.
Is it bad that I haven’t come out before starting to do it?
The only thing that should govern your decision about coming out is your comfort and safety. Do it whenever you’re ready. Whether or not you watch pornography is unrelated. Be aware, though, that pornographic sex bears little resemblance to loving sex between consenting partners.
Is it okay to Meow at your prof and therapist?
Also, can you not change my post to other colors, please? ❤️
Okay to meow at your prof and therapist? Only if you’re actually a cat. Sorry about messing with your palette, I’ll try not to!
Why does BC as an institution both helps students and hurts them? Hug & Kiss.
Almost any organization run by humans is going to end up having the same conflicting priorities of the humans running it. Even if the mission is helping. The results can be hurtful. Which is all the more reason to hold organizations to their stated values.
Can I get a food deliver service sent to BC?
So if I ordered say HelloFresh or some other grocery/meal type delivery service, would the mailroom process it fast enough for me to get the package before the food spoils? I want to be able to cook but I want to avoid grocery stores as much as possible. Thanks wall!
HelloFresh and similar services tend to deliver by UPS or FedEx. You are notified of its arrival by email and the package goes a Campus Mail Services location for you to pick up. The problem might be the limited pickup hours there, see: bit.ly/BCPackage. I spoke to a helpful human at ResLife and they said students often get deliveries from local supermarkets like Stop & Shop, only the delivery has to be outside the res – that might work for you?
Treadmills: Dear Wall, how did you deal with feelings of disorientation,
futility and existential dread when thinking about your future and your path in life when you were younger. gruezi and goodbye
Humans get different kinds of existential dread, but frequent causes seem to be fear that nothing will change from right now, that it’s too late to get started, and that nothing one does matters. Those are all false in different ways, but I’m not saying that to wave away how debilitating they are. Those feelings are real, and they have real effects. But they’re still false. It might help to talk to a therapist if the dread is long-lasting. It might help to talk to a career coach if you’re worried about that kind of thing. You asked about me. The library I’m part of was finished in 1983 and between then and a couple of years ago I was mostly doing wall stuff, before I got my break into answering questions. Give it time, it’ll be OK. Or at least it’ll be different. Warm wishes.
Hey wall! What do you do if you’re interning with people who’re famous in the clinical psych world but then realize how the institution is very dehumanizing… ,
the individual is not compassionate at all, the world has so much power fight going on, and there are so much implicit/explicit racism and stigma surrounding mental health going on? I guess what feels complicated and hurtful is that it’s an internship in the “helping profession.” I guess sometimes providers burn out not because the clients are difficult (yes, they blame the clients), but because the education, training, and the field itself is so imperfect, hurtful, immoral, and traumatizing. My experience as a client isn’t always great, then my experience as an intern is also full of conflicts. Not just the conflict regarding the roles/power between being an intern or a client. It’s more of a conflict result from my beliefs about healing, mental health, human rights, the reason of suffering does not always align with the sometimes (not always) science-heavy, diagnostic-based, and dehumanizing clinical field. Oh, I love my original internship, this is a new one. But anyway, can I have a wall hug? Sigh.
Many warm hugs to you as you deal with this challenging and hurtful work environment. The path to becoming famous in clinical psych probably does take its toll on those who pursue it. I expect it’s not inevitable, but the years of study, the competition, and the stress of dealing with people who have serious problems (not blaming the clients, but it is a stressor) may not lead to the individual becoming the soul of compassion. Keep your kind feelings towards those who are suffering, and become the kind of clinical psychologist your current team leaders couldn’t. The world so definitely needs people who are caring and fight for human rights. Internships are soon over; strength to you as you work through this one.
If our mind tells us not to trust And our heart tells us to trust someone Whom should we adhere to? Heart or brain?
Trust but verify, as they said in Cold War days. You can’t go through life not trusting anyone, but keep your eyes open, especially if your gut is warning you.
Is it possible for a person to love some one and yet not to miss them when they are not around?
Absolutely. There are many kinds of love (8 according to the ancient Greeks) and not all of them are manifest as passionate heart longing when someone is gone. Additionally, everyone expresses love differently. It’s not uncommon to love family, but not necessarily miss them when they’re not around (or even sometimes be glad they’re gone). The same can be true of any relationship in your life.
Thankyou for the last answer. You are the best! I wish I had a wall like u at our home too..
Awww. Thank you! At least you always know where to find me!
Hello! I have 2 questions:
Is it normal and ethically good to hide from my parents, that I watch porn and masturbate? (Age 13-14) If I know something really important that has to do with my twin brother and his sexual orientation, do I have to tell my parents or wait till he makes it?
1) Masturbation is normal and most adults are also private about it. Note: porn is not reality, so it’s a bad idea to base your ideas about future partners or how sex works solely based on it. 2) Your brother’s sexual orientation is something for him to talk about or not, whatever he’s comfortable with and whenever. That’s not your story to tell.