
Check the back of your super closet… or is it still at the super dry cleaners?

Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

He’s young, he’s one man, and football is a team sport: players, even QB’s, don’t solely make or break a game. He missed some options in blitzes, but also, his team and coach should have accounted for his lack of veteran reflexes and created a better wall of protection.

I had my esteemed BC Libraries colleagues answer this for me, as my diet consists entirely of post-it notes. Here are their gustatory responses.

I hear ya. Seemingly every major has at least one course that feels a bit crushing. Is this the one for CS… ? I strongly recommend checking in with your professor and also taking advantage of peer tutoring at the Connors Family Learning Center bit.ly/BC-connors. Best wishes for success!

It can be as simple as saying hi to someone, or even smiling at someone walking by. Answering honestly or with more than the most brief answer can be another way as well. Most importantly, know people are interested in getting to know you (I certainly am!).

Everyone’s different, so it’s hard to give advice without knowing your specific situation or what kind of grad school you’re thinking about. But I will say, grad school is not “undergrad-plus”, it’s an entirely different thing which is largely self-directed. It can help to have a couple of years doing something else to clarify your thinking about what you want to do in grad school. But: talk to your advisor and the career center also before you choose, I’m just speaking from the experiences I’ve seen.

There’s no perfect answer to this question, but I hope you know that being single doesn’t mean there’s anything missing from your life or anything wrong with you. Try and appreciate your independence for the opportunities it allows you to learn more about yourself–your values, what makes you happy, and what you hope to find in a partner one day. When the right one comes along, you might be grateful for the time you had to get to know yourself.

I’m in general in favor of second chances, but in this case it’s much more complicated. You have your finger on the issue, trust. You can’t have a lasting relationship without it. Our collection is a little more oriented toward helping future therapists learn how to help couples with this, but it might help you to look at a few things from this list at Boston Public Library: https://bit.ly/bc-infidelity. Because you’re at BC you’re eligible for a library card there, but you can also use our interlibrary loan service to request copies of what you want. My condolences, that is the hardest thing. And good luck to you as well.