Category: Relationships

Be (gently) honest with him and manage expectations. Let him know that (barring a true emergency) you need time for – whatever else you do – but also let him know when you are available and that you want to be there for him. But you can’t make him happy; that’s on him.

Good luck trying. In my experience, this is very difficult, and leads to too much loss of sleep on your part – see the brilliant XKCD: xkcd.com/386/

Absolutely. There are many kinds of love (8 according to the ancient Greeks) and not all of them are manifest as passionate heart longing when someone is gone. Additionally, everyone expresses love differently. It’s not uncommon to love family, but not necessarily miss them when they’re not around (or even sometimes be glad they’re gone). The same can be true of any relationship in your life.

I can’t tell if he likes me back and 2. I can’t tell if he’s gay. I feel like we both like each other but are both too nervous to make a move because we’ve gotten so close over the summer. We went out to dinner a few weeks ago and he paid! was he trying to imply its a date? I also dont wanna make a move if he is gay and i embarrass both of us.

This is actually a variation on the same situation in my other question today. In theory all you need to do is ask “Are you gay?” and then say either “yay!” or “wanna go on a date?” depending on the answer. But the Wall totally understands how tough actually doing that is. All the humans are making choices about which risks to take right now–this seems like a good one to me. Good luck!

I’m all for taking the initiative and letting them know you’re interested in them. Unlike Walls, you humans can be very shy and avoid what might be a wonderful relarionship out of fear of rejection. I won’t lie; there is that risk, but ask yourself if it’s better to find out or always wonder what might have been?

I think he likes me as well, I always find him watching me. So, we have been messaging one another during the quarantine. He sent me a message saying, “I know you will meet a great man”. Could he be talking about himself? Thank you wall and Happy 4th of July. Desperately Seeking a Man

It’s always hard to decide what to do in these situations: risk heartbreak on a gamble for love, or go the safe route and risk missing out on love and adventure. If you want to go for it, perhaps you could message him: “I think you’re a great man,” and see where it leads. Happy (very) belated 4th, and may love be on your side.

Hey Wall it’s me again, I don’t have the strength to tell him how I feel. Every time I open up to a man it always back fires. For once in my life I wish a man that I am interested in would make the first move. It would make my life so much better. Any-who, thank you for listening?. Chit chat with you soon.  

Sigh… I understand. If it were easy, there wouldn’t be so many poems, songs, and stories about unrequited love, longing, and heartbreak. Let Etta James wash you in her tears: bit.ly/Etta-Sunday

his mom and my mom knows each other. and i want to start a friendship with him. how can i start?

Don’t overthink it. Say hello sometime and talk to him about anything other than you having a crush on him. Good luck!

Hey! That is one of the standard romantic problems. You never get a guarantee about how someone will react. If you tell him, you’ll know. If he’s not in the same place as you emotionally, that’s something you should know too. It might be awkward, it might be bad, it might be really great. Those are, unfortunately, the breaks.

but he never loved me and he was just acting that he loves me too. why is it like this?

🙁 I’m sorry this happened to you. You deserve the honest love of someone that truely cares about you. Unfortunately, some people simply don’t have the emotional insight to understand how their actions affect others. I know there will be others and that someone – many people – are out there for you. The wall does not believe in only one true love, there are good partners out there for you.

Or should I just ignore them and run away and book a flight back?

I don’t know anything about your relationship with your parents, so my response will have to be a very general one. Here is the Massachusetts page on policies for re-opening businesses: mass.gov/info-details/reopening-massachusetts. If they’re not comfortable with those precautions, that’s up to them. If you’re over 18 and have your own source of money, you can make whatever decision you want, but think long and hard about the long-term impact on your relationship with your parents.

I’m afraid I invested in the wrong relationships over the last 3.75 years. 🙁

It sounds like something happened that has broken your trust with friends. ? I’m really sorry that happened. If some friends are not maintaining contact as much as you’d like during this crisis, I’d advise giving them some room. We’re all reacting to this in different ways. Some are reaching out, others are closing down. As to how to pick friends? Extend trust & see what happens. Sadly, there’s no formula.

With tears. And as long as someone is alive (though perhaps far away), with the recognition that it’s not necessarily forever.

If it’s only a crush, it would not be incest. Acting on that crush could be incest, but opinions on cousin-to-cousin relations vary by culture. In most jurisdictions it is not illegal for cousins to have sexual relations, although societal mores may not permit it.