Making friends can be hard – you’re not alone. If it is distressing you, you could talk with someone at University Counseling (bit.ly/BC-counseling) or sign up for Wellness Coaching at bit.ly/BC-wellness-coach (building meaningful relationships is one of their target topics.)
Chisme time… I caught my BF in bed with his best friend!!
Don’t be chismosa! Even though it must have been a huge shock, this is something you need to work out with your BF between the two of you.
Right?!? It’s wild to imagine that kind of drama unfolding right here. But it could also be evidence that there’s a whole lot of exploration going on. I hope people are able to be emotionally honest with themselves and others and avoid hurting each other unnecessarily.
I think I fell in love w/ my best friend but he has a gf. I’m a guy btw.
I think that falling for your straight best friend is basically a queer rite of passage. I’m sorry you’re currently in the middle of it, but it will pass and someday it’ll probably be a funny anecdote you tell.
Right?!? It’s wild to imagine that kind of drama unfolding right here. But it could also be evidence that there’s a whole lot of exploration going on. I hope people are able to be emotionally honest with themselves and others and avoid hurting each other unnecessarily.
How to get more than 5 hours of sleep and a boyfriend?
If you aren’t even getting 5 hours of sleep, that could be impeding your luck in finding a special someone. So, I’d advise addressing that first The Center for Student Wellness has many resources on improving sleep and you can also get individual wellness coaching.
How do you only ‘casually date’ someone without hurting their feelings?
Be completely honest and transparent. This will work if and only if they’re in agreement.
Indeed, be honest and transparent about your intentions!
We made eye contact today?
Maybe? I encourage you to gather more data.
How do I get over the boy who broke my heart?
Recognize the reality of your emotions: that you are experiencing the loss of an imagined future, which is no small thing. Spend time with friends. Have faith that the feelings will subside if you’re willing to let go.
Should you be friends w/ your ex? (dated less than a month)
Why lose a friend just because they didn’t work as a romantic partner? I’d say, go with it, unless it doesn’t work out for one or both of you.
What do i do if a person I used to be friends with and has ended on bad terms with has been spreading bad rumors about me?
I am so sorry you’re experiencing this! As you said, friends that do that are not real friends indeed. There are many friendly fish in the sea who will like and believe in the person you are today, and plenty of friendships still to be made. Focus on cultivating new friendships, and being kind to yourself during this time. However– for some literary distraction/dramatic catharsis, the Count of Monte Cristo knows all about being churned through the rumor mill… bit.ly/3ECvtC1
How long does it take to find your people?
Your Mileage May Vary, but if you take part in the kind of activities that are interesting and meaningful to you, if you find the courage to talk to people, and you live your values, you will have done what you can to make it happen.
Where are the twinks at?
Any narrowly defined persona or body type is going to be rare because narrow definitions are necessarily exclusionary. Most people blend into many different “types” and therefore can’t be labeled as any one thing. Broaden your expectations, and you will likely find many interesting people wherever you look.
How do I seduce Baldwin?
Starting in October you’re going to want to begin collecting sticks and other nesting material. Gifts of food are welcome. You’ll probably want to practice your vocalization, and it may be a good idea to stretch out your lower back. https://bit.ly/3EfcIoe
How 2 get a gf?
Be your authentic self. I am sure you will attract someone who is equally authentic.
I am sooo sorry to hear that. I am sure that you have plenty of qualities to be proud of and I hope you will eventually be able to recognize that. If you are looking to be in a relationship at this time maybe finding the right person could help you discover and be pround of these positive qualities 🙂
Best date spot in Boston
May I suggest googling “Boston mural map” and taking your date (and yourself!) on a tour of murals on *walls* in the area? You can enjoy some public art, learn about some new areas of the city, and discover new-to-you artists!
Does “true love” exist in a world of infinite possibilities and or infinite possibility of romantic partners?
Your Wall is a romantic. I do believe in “true love”, though not to be confused with “perfect love”.
How to get this girl with green eyes to be your GCC formal date?
I’m thinking maybe you asked about this before? My advice is the same: don’t overthink it, just ask her.
How can I truly love myself, and how can I reconcile with myself?
Extend to yourself the same kindness, generosity of spirit, and forgiveness you would extend to others.
What is the right age to use in Grindr?
Either the truth (your actual age) or if you’re worried about identity theft or security for other reasons, an age very close to your age but inaccurate, or if you’re trying to appear older, add a few years, or trying to appear younger, subtract a few years. If you’re planning on potential long-term relationships, I recommend some proximity to the truth, because untruth (even small ones) make a terrible foundation for trusting relationships.
Is it wrong to have an intercourse with a distant cousine?
Assuming that all participants are adults and the relationship is consensual, there isn’t much biological reason to avoid sex with distant cousins, even if it were to result in offspring. There may be some negative response from others depending on your culture and the degree of distance; different cultures have different incest taboos.
2020 is a lost year
This year is a complete loss. We are already in the eight month, almost in the ninth, and nothing works. Schools are still closed. So I cant graduate, or get my new drivers licence. There is no cure for the COVID, so I cant risk going to the mall and having ice cream while I watch people. I havent dated this entire year, and I really want to get a girlfriend, but the clubs are kinda empty. I just wish I had a girlfriend. Do you know of any single girl who wants a boyfriend?
I miss people watching too, it’s such a messed-up year. I think right now I’d recommend looking anywhere but clubs. Tinder is doing some stuff with video right now, but if you’re not into dating apps the old school advice is to do things you really enjoy where you can meet new people. Likely outdoors or online.