Category: Relationships

Relationships can be confusing and difficult at any age. My advice is not to force one to happen. Good relationships grow over time. You will likely know you are ready when you wake up one day and realize that you are already in a relationship.

First, find a friend. Second, see if the friendship develops into something more. Finding a boyfriend or girlfriend is basically the same process. If you are unsure where to find other gay/bi guys, you could start with BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ.  Even the Commonwealth has a website for LGBTQ youth: bit.ly/ma-lgbtq.

Presumably, she thinks you look good in it, so that’s something to keep in mind. But the whole “make” thing seems off. If you really don’t like it you should feel comfortable saying so. Cheerful and direct is the best way. It won’t be as bad as you think, and if it is there’s something else going on.

I’m sorry you’re feeling neglected on snapchat. Maybe others are wondering the same thing and what you need to do is respond to them? Or maybe if snapchat isn’t working for making connections with people, you can try a different channel. I see people staring at their phones as they walk by me all day and night, and I wonder whether they’re connecting sufficiently. Don’t forget the talking-to-people channel.

Nothing? Priests take vows for a reason, and it would be ethical to respect those vows. You might want to ask yourself why you’re attracted to someone who is prevented from reciprocating your affection. I kind of understand it, though: priests are often intelligent, caring, and interesting… features we’d all want in a partner. Think about the features you find attractive, and look for them among people who haven’t taken vows.

I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely in the love department. Encourage yourself to go to social events & meet people, get involved in conversations, listen, do things you enjoy, offer to share activities you enjoy with other people, and above all, have faith that getting to know people, which is an end in itself & a joy, can also eventually lead to romance.

Some women don’t, some men do. Always ask for consent.

Isn’t it wonderful when you have someone like that in your life? Make sure you let her know how much you value her!

Be interested in someone’s story. Ask questions. Be a good listener. Reveal yourself. Suggest an outing. And sometimes go with the flow and let your friend direct the plan. But first check your pulse: are you depleted or overwhelmed? You may not be in a place to be that friend.

Communicate, but don’t suffocate. Give him enough breathing room to miss you, and most importantly enjoy your own semester even though you’ll miss him!

Of course! It’s Fall. But sometimes it’s hard to let go of the fear of failure and rejection, as in the classic Chris Isaak song “Wicked Game”: “No I don’t want to fall in love (this girl is only gonna break your heart).” Confide in some good friends, and then take the plunge. May you succeed & feel that rush! If your love isn’t requited, well, that’s why you confided in your friends. They’ll be ready with whatever can console you.

It’s as simple as offering it yourself. Or it’s as complicated as all these poems about unrequited love make it: bit.ly/poems-unrequited. May you find the love you need.

Yes. Also, your s/o does not get to tell you how to feel about it, in case that’s relevant.