Category: Relationships

Get closer?

That is a long-standing philosophical problem. The canonical exploration of this question is on the third floor of O’Neill. http://bit.ly/bc-harry

If this person is part of your inner friends group then I would suggest addressing the behavior. If not, let it go. I’ll leave you with advice given to Justin Halpern (Sh*t My Dad Says), “Don’t focus on the one guy who hates you. You don’t go to the park and set your picnic down next to the only pile of dog sh*t.”

Be with who you want to be with. I hope you can eventually find a guy who’s as supportive & fun as your girls, though.

If you and your partner communicate openly about both of your wants and needs, I guarantee you’ll both find the relationship more fulfilling. If you can’t talk about sex, what else are you not talking about?

If you can live with your differences and you can’t live without her, give her space to do things she enjoys. If you can’t live with those differences or you can live without her, move on & find someone with more common ground.

No, but you might be in a hole for referring to a person you spent time with as “some female.”

Our guest responder is right, you might benefit from telling him/her/them. Do you think that this friend has feelings for you as well? There’s really only one way to find out and that’s by asking. However, if they don’t feel the same way things might seem a bit awkward between you both. Either way, good luck!!

If you and this Alum have things in common (Go BC!) and care about each other, I say go for it!

You should totally ask her out if you want to. But let’s reframe the “friend zone” concept. If you ask and she says no, you have the option to be friends or not afterward. But don’t be the kind of “friend” who’s secretly resentful or scheming to make something else happen.

Well, that has a tendency to happen. If you made any of them any promises of exclusivity an apology might be in order. If not, it’s really not you they’re upset about. The storm will pass.

It’ll probably be awkward, but that’s how it goes. That doesn’t improve if you wait. Be kind. Be curious about her. Talk about things you’re both interested in. Don’t worry about where things are headed, or if they are–time for that later. Just talk.

While your roommate’s sister may be pretty, roommate drama never is. As long as you’re living with this roommate, dating their sister is a risky decision that could lead to some serious roommate OR relationship issues. I’d wait til move out and/or graduation to make your move!

If the desire is mutual and consenting, and no one get hurts (read: current partners)…well…wait, I’m not able to make this decision for you. But I will give you a few things to consider before you decide to take the leap.

<3 Stay strong, we’re thinking of you!