No, but you might be in a hole for referring to a person you spent time with as “some female.”
Am I in a hole after watching gossip girl with some female?
I like my friend. What do I do?
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Our guest responder is right, you might benefit from telling him/her/them. Do you think that this friend has feelings for you as well? There’s really only one way to find out and that’s by asking. However, if they don’t feel the same way things might seem a bit awkward between you both. Either way, good luck!!
Should I date an Alumn?
If you and this Alum have things in common (Go BC!) and care about each other, I say go for it!
How often should I call my parents?
This would be a good issue to discuss with them: how often do they want you to call? How often do you want to call them? Do you want to set up a specific schedule (like every Sunday evening at 8 PM) or be more organic about it? In general, I would recommend erring on the side of calling more than less – even just a short call to let them know you’re ok and thinking of them is very nice.
Should I ask her out? I’m afraid of the friend zone!
You should totally ask her out if you want to. But let’s reframe the “friend zone” concept. If you ask and she says no, you have the option to be friends or not afterward. But don’t be the kind of “friend” who’s secretly resentful or scheming to make something else happen.
I accidentally hooked up with a whole 8 man (at separate times don’t worry). Now there is drama :-(, what should I do? Any advice?
Well, that has a tendency to happen. If you made any of them any promises of exclusivity an apology might be in order. If not, it’s really not you they’re upset about. The storm will pass.
How do I talk to her?
It’ll probably be awkward, but that’s how it goes. That doesn’t improve if you wait. Be kind. Be curious about her. Talk about things you’re both interested in. Don’t worry about where things are headed, or if they are–time for that later. Just talk.
Why am I still single?
That is a very tiresome quote, and if I had eyes, I would totally roll them (◔_◔). The truth is, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend is just not easy; I get asked this a lot. You don’t have to wait for a boy to climb any tree – consider taking the initiative if there’s a boy you like.
How do you get over a breakup?
Hall & Oates, Cherry Garcia, and 5K training with friends.
My roommate’s sister is very pretty…HELP
While your roommate’s sister may be pretty, roommate drama never is. As long as you’re living with this roommate, dating their sister is a risky decision that could lead to some serious roommate OR relationship issues. I’d wait til move out and/or graduation to make your move!
Should I hook up with my freshman year hook up?
If the desire is mutual and consenting, and no one get hurts (read: current partners)…well…wait, I’m not able to make this decision for you. But I will give you a few things to consider before you decide to take the leap.
We broke up tonight. You never know how it feels until you go through it. Hope the best for u.
<3 Stay strong, we’re thinking of you!
The guy I fancy has a square head. I’m worried about what my parents will say!
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Hey, I’ve got a lot of right angles going on, myself! Square is beautiful. If he’s the guy for you, I hope your folks can only see the joy he brings you, not his head shape. You could start playing an old Huey Lewis and the News tune to subliminally set him up for parental approval…
This guy I like wants me to participate in an orgy…
Totally up to you and what you’re comfortable with. I’d want to have a conversation about safe words and boundaries and make sure everybody is a) comfortable talking about that and b) more or less on the same page. You might find some useful advice in this book: http://bit.ly/bc-ethical
How to find a boyfriend? (I’m gay!!)
Try making friends first! Get involved with LGBT groups on campus and in the Boston community to broaden your social circle AND your dating pool. LGBT people have historically had fewer opportunities to meet and court, so LGBT groups and bars are a good way to make connections — and find some elders who may have even better advice!
Can students date professors?
They can, of course… but they shouldn’t. BC policy prohibits it. (http://bit.ly/BCFacConduct)
how do I get a boyfriend
It may seem counterintuitive, but stop looking for one! Be yourself, pursue your passions, and be the best You that you can be, and you’ll be surprised how quickly a cute guy falls into your lap.
What do you do if a guy is sending you mixed signals?
He’s not ready for you, or he’s just not that into you. He may be completely lovely, but I think you can find someone who wants to be with you.
Text me ;)
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I love a friendly invitation! But this Wall has a strict rule about sharing personal information. I can’t know whether a phone number is shared in earnest or as a cruel joke, so in an excess of caution, I remove all personally identifying information.
A close friend of mine is about to graduate–what if we lose touch?
It’s a matter of doing the “work” necessary to keep in touch – and today, it’s easier than ever. Social media can really help you to at least have an idea what they’re up to and where they are. And let them know maintaining the friendship is important to you. Maybe set up a meeting at a not too distant time in the future, for starters?