How do I talk to her?

How do I talk to her?
How do I talk to her?
Don't
Don’t
Do it bro
Do it bro

It’ll probably be awkward, but that’s how it goes. That doesn’t improve if you wait. Be kind. Be curious about her. Talk about things you’re both interested in. Don’t worry about where things are headed, or if they are–time for that later. Just talk.

Why am I still single?

Why am I still single? (girl) Tired of the apple quote: it takes a "special" boy to climb all the way to the top of the tree for the good apples =(
Why am I still single? (girl) Tired of the apple quote: it takes a “special” boy to climb all the way to the top of the tree for the good apples =(

That is a very tiresome quote, and if I had eyes, I would totally roll them (◔_◔). The truth is, finding a boyfriend/girlfriend is just not easy; I get asked this a lot. You don’t have to wait for a boy to climb any tree – consider taking the initiative if there’s a boy you like.

My roommate’s sister is very pretty…HELP

My roommate's sister is very pretty...HELP
My roommate’s sister is very pretty…HELP

While your roommate’s sister may be pretty, roommate drama never is. As long as you’re living with this roommate, dating their sister is a risky decision that could lead to some serious roommate OR relationship issues. I’d wait til move out and/or graduation to make your move!

Should I hook up with my freshman year hook up?

Should I hook up with my freshman year hook-up before I graduate in a month?
Should I hook up with my freshman year hook-up before I graduate in a month?

If the desire is mutual and consenting, and no one get hurts (read: current partners)…well…wait, I’m not able to make this decision for you. But I will give you a few things to consider before you decide to take the leap.

This guy I like wants me to participate in an orgy…

This guy I like wants me to participate in an orgy or "group love ritual". This makes me nervous but excites me. Should I?
This guy I like wants me to participate in an orgy or “group love ritual”. This makes me nervous but excites me. Should I?

Totally up to you and what you’re comfortable with. I’d want to have a conversation about safe words and boundaries and make sure everybody is a) comfortable talking about that and b) more or less on the same page. You might find some useful advice in this book: http://bit.ly/bc-ethical

How to find a boyfriend? (I’m gay!!)

How to find a boyfriend? (I'm gay!!)
How to find a boyfriend? (I’m gay!!) RT

Try making friends first! Get involved with LGBT groups on campus and in the Boston community to broaden your social circle AND your dating pool. LGBT people have historically had fewer opportunities to meet and court, so LGBT groups and bars are a good way to make connections — and find some elders who may have even better advice!

how do I get a boyfriend

how do I get a boyfriend
how do I get a boyfriend

It may seem counterintuitive, but stop looking for one! Be yourself, pursue your passions, and be the best You that you can be, and you’ll be surprised how quickly a cute guy falls into your lap.

Text me ;)

Text me ;) [redacted phone number]
Text me 😉

I love a friendly invitation! But this Wall has a strict rule about sharing personal information. I can’t know whether a phone number is shared in earnest or as a cruel joke, so in an excess of caution, I remove all personally identifying information.

A close friend of mine is about to graduate–what if we lose touch?

A close friend of mine is about to graduate--what if we lose touch?
A close friend of mine is about to graduate–what if we lose touch?

It’s a matter of doing the “work” necessary to keep in touch – and today, it’s easier than ever. Social media can really help you to at least have an idea what they’re up to and where they are. And let them know maintaining the friendship is important to you. Maybe set up a meeting at a not too distant time in the future, for starters?

I was recently told that I was “too honest” by a close friend of mine.

I was recently told that I was "too honest" by a close friend of mine. How can I still be honest without being hurtful?
I was recently told that I was “too honest” by a close friend of mine. How can I still be honest without being hurtful?

What you’re looking for is how to be more tactful in your communication. And there’s probably a combination of learning how to let some things go without saying anything. Generally speaking, I don’t say anything at all unless someone asks me to. And some of this will just come with time and practice. But, since you’re looking for help today, there are plenty of resources here to help you. I recommend starting with Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition (O’Neill Library: BF637.C45 C78 2012).

Do nice boys really exist?

Do nice boys really exist?
Do nice boys really exist?

Yes. If you need your faith restored, watch Won’t You Be My Neighbor, the film about Fred Rogers. Some men really do try to live values like that. It’s possible that they don’t frequent the events or groups where you’re looking. Get involved in programs or groups that try to live values like those of Mr. Rogers’ (or other men you admire), and you might find some.

I really like this boy but he blew me off twice and I thought he liked me too.

I really like this boy but he blew me off twice and I thought he liked me too. Should I try again?
I really like this boy but he blew me off twice and I thought he liked me too. Should I try again?

It depends on how much rejection you feel you can handle, and also the nature of “he blew me off.” Did it seem like he wanted to get together with you but was actually too busy? Or that he was really not interested? In the latter case, twice seems like you’ve given it a fair try, and I would worry that more than that may come across as annoying or unwanted attention.

Pros and cons of dating in college?

Pros and cons of dating in college?
Pros and cons of dating in college?

Pros: Someone to hang out with, the potential joys of true love and/or physical intimacy, the possibility of meeting someone you’ll want to spend your life with (it sometimes happens here!). Cons: Takes time away from your studies and extra-curriculars, you might find your other friendships suffer if you’re not careful to prioritize them, you run the risk of a broken heart, and if everything goes perfectly – what happens when you graduate?