Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
For classwork, I am duty-bound as a wall in a library to provide resources but not answers. (It’s also generally wise to go straight to the source in order to preserve accuracy.) Best sources in this case would likely be UCS (bit.ly/bc-counseling) and/or the Dean of Students office (bit.ly/BC-DOS).
The Catholic Church’s position on birth control is longstanding and relatively recently updated (http://bit.ly/bc-bc), so from that perspective it would be strange for a Jesuit school to offer those sorts of services. The New Catholic Encyclopedia’s article on birth control has a good overview of the history of Church thought on the subject (http://bit.ly/bc-bc2). Professor Massa recently wrote a book on the evolution of theological thinking on it. (http://bit.ly/bc-bc1) You’re asking a practical question, but in this case the theology and history are the reason for the policy.
So tempting, isn’t it – those adorable furballs! But best to leave all wild creatures alone. They can carry diseases and parasites (see: bit.ly/BunZoonoses), and also may not welcome your attention.
I am sorry you are feeling that way. Life doesn’t have to be like that. I recommend contacting University Counseling Services ( bit.ly/BC-counseling ) and they may be able to give you some strategies for coping and for recognizing that you are, in many ways, not helpless at all.
Balancing all the different pieces of your life is incredibly challenging and everyone struggles with it. You are definitely not alone. Everyone finds their own methods – some people obsess over their digital calendar, some people use checklists (and checklist apps like todoist), some people need a physical planner or a notebook. If you feel like the stress is starting to overwhelm you, you should feel comfortable reaching out to Counseling services to see if they can help you manage these: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
Be gentle with yourself. Try and control the things you can (food, sleep, physical comfort). Try and do your work ahead, in small chunks, so you don’t have deadline pressure coinciding with a bad day. The best you can do on any given day is still the best you can do, and that’s all anyone can ask.
There are no long-term side effects from taking plan B often (infertility) but short-term can include bloating, nausea, feeling unwell and other hormonal side effects which can definitely affect your quality of life. The makers of morning-after pills recommend only taking the pill once per cycle, but OBGYNs say that you can take the pill any time you have unprotected sex. If you find that you are taking the pill quite often because of unprotected sex, you might want to consider using condoms or talking to your doctor about other birth control alternatives.
Most toddlers’ gas is not much different than an adult’s gas, however toddlers may not have control over their gas, and therefore it may be more noticable. However, if a toddler has very foul smelling gas, it could be signs of a digestive track problem or allergy- a visit to the doctor may be in order.
University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth) for you, please! IAAWNAD, but you don’t want to ignore potential infections in that region – and why suffer when you don’t have to?
If I have read your question right (“What is failure?”), you need to read Bird by Bird, by Anne Lamott. It’s all about what failure teaches, and how to be receptive to it. It takes a certain amount of humor, which she readily provides. (O’Neill & Social Work Libraries, PN147 .L315 1995) Writers seem to write about failure a lot. Here’s another one: The promise of failure: one writer’s perspective on not succeeding, by John McNally. (O’Neill Library PS3563. C38813 Z46 2018). The key takeaway: failure happens, learn from it, move on.
That would cost you about one year in jail and up to a $1000 fine if arrested as a first time offender, not to mention the risk you run of being expelled from Boston College. Subsequent offenders double that risk with a 2 year jail sentence and $2000 fine for each additional offense. You also run the risk of getting cocaine laced with fentanyl, which is deadly (RIP Mac Miller). I’d have to say that none of that is worth the purchase price.
To fart less like a toddler, try to suppress it until you’re not chilling with Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood, while sporting Oshkosh B’Gosh threads, slugging down a juice box, and gorging on a GoGo squeeZ. To truly level up your farting adultness, follow each outburst with a remark like “This Trivento 2016 Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon is truly top-notch, but it does generate gas…”
First off, don’t! Popping a pimple can make it irritated and even infected. Instead, try a soothing mask, washing your face particularly well, or a cool cloth to calm it down. But keep your hands away!
Cricket’s a great game; this wall likes any game that involves points scored by crossing a boundary. But if you’ve tried to stop or reduce your gambling & haven’t been able to, your gambling could be an addictive behavior. If you’re wondering, contact the national problem gambling Helpline (bit.ly/gambling-helpline) at 1-800-522-4700.
Yes, you do. You absolutely do. You matter to me. I’m sure you also matter to others. If you don’t matter to yourself, or you can’t convince yourself that you matter, please contact Counseling Services. (bit.ly/BC-counseling). They’ll help you regain that crucial (and true!) sense of mattering.
![I noticed the same person posted 12 or 13 notes on suicide/sec 12/LOA... are you alright? I mean that completely in an "I care about you" way. I see you, I hear you, and I worry it's not just for info/research but for yourself. Holding hope for you. [response1: Speak up--you matter. Stay Fearless. Always. Response2: Thank you for the kind words. Yes -- I'm alright. BC has great support & resources the Dean of Students Office, UCS, this wall, and everyone. So I do also encourage ppl reach out should they need help, and pls show great appreciation to the faculty/staff. P.S. The question are mostly about resource & policy, NOT suicide. But, still appreciate your kindness]](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/aw032219-8.jpg)
Thank you for your care and support! Your caring note has inspired this Wall to help people care for people. Many people around us are suffering silently. If you know of someone who’s suffering, put a note of care & support here for them. (No names, please, to protect privacy.) [posted on a temporary wall annex in O’Neill Library: I’m sorry, there’s no capacity to accept notes of care and concern on this blog.]
Coca-Cola? Though it is delicious, there is no safe amount to drink. It is loaded with sugar and has been linked to many health conditions including diabetes, obesity, and cavities. Water on the other hand is wonderfully healthy and hydrating. I do hope you weren’t asking about cocaine, but if you were the only safe amount is nothing – zero, zilch, nada.
You’re welcome. I hope your posts have inspired other people who need help to seek it.
It would be the same as for any hospitalization, such as for a broken bone or an acute infection. I’d stay in close contact with your advisor, who can send notices to your professors about a medically-excused absence. It would be wise to contact your professors yourself, too, when you’re able, in order to arrange ways to make up lost work, get class notes, etc.
