One suggestion that I have seen many times is to jot down 5 things you feel grateful for each morning. Even when I am very sad, it is good to recognize there is much goodness around us.
What is one thing you can do to keep yourself happy everyday?
Is it time to hit gym?
Yes! Great way to reduce stress and clear your mind as we approach the end of the semester. Pro tip: hot tub in the aquatics center after your work out.
How to get more than 5 hours of sleep and a boyfriend?
If you aren’t even getting 5 hours of sleep, that could be impeding your luck in finding a special someone. So, I’d advise addressing that first The Center for Student Wellness has many resources on improving sleep and you can also get individual wellness coaching.
When does college get easier/fun?
Anecdotally, fun seems to have peaks at the start of first year; junior year if it includes going abroad, and most of senior year, save for the anxiety about future plans and leaving friends. Sophomore year is notorious for being the least fun. If you are stressed out and not having any fun, the Center for Student Wellness (bit.ly/BCStudentWellness) has a variety of programs that can help you find balance in your life.
How can I have a social life, good sleep schedule, and good grades when I have a job & 3 tests in a row in a single day.❤ ps I don’t have time for counselors
Wow. That’s quite a lot. I wish I had the answers for you, and I really wish there were an easy and quick nugget of insight that would help. I will be thinking of you and all BC students as we head towards May. And, I know you said you don’t have time for counselors, but if that changes at all, here are links for the Connors Family Learning Center: bit.ly/BC-connors and BC’s counseling services: bit.ly/BC-counseling
How do we leave the library before 2:56am? plz help
The windows don’t open in O’Neill, so I think a door would work best.
I am finally regaining some internal peace during this break but school is starting again and I hate rushing around 😞
Why not sign up to meet with a wellness coach from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BC-health-promo) to learn some techniques to recapture that lovely interrnal peace during these busier days?
Why are there so many pedophiles everywhere?!
Unfortunately, child sexual abuse is a thing which seems to happen almost everywhere adults are in positions of authority or influence over children. Big organizations like the Boy Scouts and the Catholic Church can have very big problems with it, particularly if they try to conceal it. Here’s a study that takes a look at what we know and talks about how hard it is to know exactly how frequent it is: https://bit.ly/bc-csa
Hey Wall! Do you have any advice on school, stress, and covid?
Why not schedule a virtual check in with the Office of Health Promotion (http://bit.ly/BC-health-promo)? They’re experts in helping students with stress and health worries. The stresses won’t go away any time soon, but you can learn techniques to cope with them.
I wish that I have 48 hours in a day……
You’re not alone – but there are ways to make our puny little 24 hour days a bit less stressful. You can get help with this through Academic Coaching from the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) or with self-guided material from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/OHPTIME).
What is the best way to get and keep a good looking body (male) at home without buying anything?
Bodyweight exercises are one option available to all: http://bit.ly/bc-bw. Another would be putting some weight in a backpack and going for a walk: http://bit.ly/bc-ruck (that site will sell you stuff to do it, but you probably already have things that would work). Or, because I’m really not an expert in human physiology, you could talk to someone who is. The BC Rec Center has personal trainers who can help you set up a program that works for you: http://bit.ly/bc-recpt
Do people maintain there nature (for eg introvert, outgoing, gloomy) for the rest of their lives?
I would say a person’s nature can be influenced by a wide variety of factors. While someone may often be seen as gloomy, there can be someone or something that can change their demeanor for the better. Changes like this are just one example of why humans can be so fascinating.
Is it okay to Meow at your prof and therapist?
Also, can you not change my post to other colors, please? ❤️
Okay to meow at your prof and therapist? Only if you’re actually a cat. Sorry about messing with your palette, I’ll try not to!
Treadmills: Dear Wall, how did you deal with feelings of disorientation,
futility and existential dread when thinking about your future and your path in life when you were younger. gruezi and goodbye
Humans get different kinds of existential dread, but frequent causes seem to be fear that nothing will change from right now, that it’s too late to get started, and that nothing one does matters. Those are all false in different ways, but I’m not saying that to wave away how debilitating they are. Those feelings are real, and they have real effects. But they’re still false. It might help to talk to a therapist if the dread is long-lasting. It might help to talk to a career coach if you’re worried about that kind of thing. You asked about me. The library I’m part of was finished in 1983 and between then and a couple of years ago I was mostly doing wall stuff, before I got my break into answering questions. Give it time, it’ll be OK. Or at least it’ll be different. Warm wishes.
Thanks wall! We took your recommendation and change the Ig name. You should follow our Ig! I feel so validated that so many people struggle with the same barriers and challenges from the institution as I do. I also feel so sad that so many people are suffering alone without access to the support they deserve and needed.
Just checked out the account again. Love the new name and bio. I’m so glad you can give people a place to tell their stories and feel heard. Mental health services are so diffcult to manage even in the best of scenarios, but colleges across the US (not just BC) continue to struggle with providing the care that so many people deserve. Much of that is more systemic than just BC; it has to do with the entire US healthcare system and the (often perverse) profit motives we’ve set up therein. One last piece of advice if I can be so bold: please make sure to keep your own mental health in mind. It is very easy to feel like you owe these students and alums a piece of yourself to help them and that you have to continue this project even if it becomes overwhelming. These stories are heartbreaking, and that can really grind some people down to read them over and over again. If it does get to be too much, it’s OK to take a break. Be well.
We create our own Answer Wall!
It’s technically not an answer wall, but it’s a place where people bear witness others’ experiences, find validation and solidarity. https://www.instagram.com/p/CCtcANljAqC/ Check it out!
That’s so awesome. Any space where people can go and feel heard is a great thing. If I might suggest one tweak, it would be to make clear in your bio that you’re not an official BC service. This will help protect you from having to field questions about making appointments or for directions around campus, and it will help others in need of more urgent and intensive intervention find those resources more clearly.
If every drop of tear worth one dollar, I would be a billionaire now ever since BC went online…… We should invent something that can generate power with tears 😭, the environment will appreciate it!
I’m so sorry about your tears. Were I not a wall, I’d be dripping tears as well. My assistants have agreed, too: so many tears. So, so many tears: about fear, about sadness & grieving losses, about being separated from people, about the lack of hugs. Here’s a hug for you. I’m sorry it’s only virtual. ((((((((you)))))))))
Will you miss me …
Will you miss me now that no one visit you in person and draw animal pics or ask you a whole bunch of questions ab UCS? Btw, why r we closing the library? BC feels less and less like home and now that offices start to close and ppl are not around. It feels like my secure base is falling apart. Can you promise me that the Student Affair and UCS will remain open until the end of the semester?
I’ll miss seeing everyone in person, but I’m glad we’ll still be able to communicate virtually. We closed to library to keep everyone safe, but I’m sorry that this is so hard. I know UCS and Student Affairs will make the best decisions for the BC community. In the meantime, please still draw pictures for me! You can even upload pictures to my new online home.
Hi Wall. why do all viruses outbrake in China?
Hi! They don’t. The World Health Organizations tracks outbreaks year by year, and they show up in every continent and country. bit.ly/WHO-diseases
Will the 2020-2021 academic school year be affected?
| Decisions about 2020-2021 have not yet been made, and the course and duration of the pandemic is highly unpredictable at this point – much will depend on what responses governments and individuals make. We’ll have to hope for the best at this point. |