Hmm, what do you mean by that? By “sub-terraine,” are you referring someone who lurks in the depths of the internet, or elsewhere on campus? The Wall would love to help, if you can clarify a bit more on your situation! If you don’t care to elaborate but feel that you’re in danger, you can always reach out to BC’s Sexual Assault Network 24-hour hotline at 617-552-2211. If this is actually a question about the game Battle Cats, you can find some tips here: bit.ly/battle-cats-subterranean
How to get 10 hrs sleep per a day with huge workload?
If 10 hours is necessary for you, or a personal priority, you will need to be judicious with how your spend your awake time and manage a massive workload. Ear plugs and a sleeping eye mask can help with making your sleep time more conducive to sleep. And take a break from technology before bedtime. The CDC provides an overview of sleep recommendations by age (bit.ly/cdc-sleep-needs) if you want to reconsider how much sleep is necessary for you to function at your best.
What do teachers think of those who sleep in class?
I’m sorry you’re getting such insufficient sleep at night that you’re falling asleep in class. I think your concern should be more about missing the most crucial hours of your BC education than about your professor’s attitudes, which could be any mix of annoyance, disregard, or concern. I do recommend apologizing to your professor & explaining the reason. I know one college teacher who had been annoyed about a sleeping student until he found out the student was working a full-time night job to pay tuition. If your reasons are less noble, maybe don’t mention them, but commit to changing habits so you can stay awake.
How do you get motivated to do homework when you’re sleepy and anxious all the time?
It sounds like the problem might be the sleep and anxiety. If you work to resolve those, the homework might not be a problem. The Office of Health Promotion has some great tips on sleep (bit.ly/BCSleepy) and stress (bit.ly/BCDeStress).
How to be more confident in social situations?
It may help to know that nobody is judging you; they’re too preoccupied with their own insecurity to notice the things about you that you think are flaws but aren’t flaws. You’re awesome! Share your awesomeness.
I don’t have many friends I always don’t know what to chat with friends.
You are very interesting! You have experiences and your own perspective. Perhaps you can gather a few stories that are interesting or entertaining. Who or what did you encounter in the last few days, and what happened? Or what happened in the news or on a favorite tv show? Or have you read something lately? Had a noteworthy meal (good or bad)? At the end of each day, review your day. If there’s something interesting, remember it for a conversation starter tomorrow, or next week, or next month. It’s just a matter of taking note of your life, and then finding the courage to share it.
Fix my neck problems please
Sorry you’re hurting. I am a wall, not a doctor, so may I refer you to the kind people at University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth)?
I’m not in a position to make judgments on others’ life decisions…
I’m sorry you have had to experience that. Secondhand smoke is a genuine health issue. Boston College policy: “Smoking is… prohibited outdoors within twenty-five feet of all campus buildings.” Library staff will look into ways to communicate this policy effectively.
How do I get rid of all my stress?
All of it? Not possible. But it’s a good idea to learn to get rid of unnecessary stress and to cope with the necessary stress. The Office of Health Promotion has some terrific ideas here: bit.ly/BCDeStress, as well as a link to meet with a Health Coach.
Can you forget that you have Alzheimer’s?
The short (sad) answer is yes. If you are interested in learning more about this disease, we have many books about it on level 3 in the RC523 call numbers.
Is it too early to break out the winter coat?
No! Don’t let the cold-shamers put you off; dress according to your needs. Other people who feel insecure about breaking out the parkas will thank you.
My eyesight is getting worse. What can I do?
Apart from scheduling an appointment with an optometrist to get a better idea of how your eyes are doing, I would recommend doing your best to protect your eyes from potential hazards. Examples include: wearing sunglasses when outdoors, limiting your exposure to bright screens, reducing the amount of blue light exposed to your eyes, and getting an adequate amount of rest each day.
我 太 丑了, 怎 么 办?
I would suggest trying to avoid thinking of yourself that way. The most important thing is feeling good about how you look. Try not to let any negative criticism have such an effect on you that it gives you a low opinion of yourself. Finally, if there is something or several things you don’t like about yourself, try and develop a positive attitude that strives to help make you the best version of yourself.
Nothing brings me joy???
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way right now. I do appreciate how you took the initiative to post your question despite the fact you‘re feeling down. I hope that your willingness to look for things to enjoy eventually leads to you finding an activity or people who can be a positive source of joy.
Why am I so hurt?
I’m sorry you’re hurt, but I’m sure you will also recover, and reasonably certain the process of recovering will teach you that you have capacities you weren’t aware of and reveal friends you didn’t know you had. Depend on yourself and depend on friends and family. You’ve got this. If you find the hurt remains longer than expected, consider counseling: bit.ly/BC-counseling
I thought the Answer Wall is here to provide “answer.”
I’m sorry the flawed health care system is troublesome, and I’m sorry my answer was unsatisfactory. You might be interested in the book Insane consequences: How the mental health industry fails the mentally ill, by D.J. Jaffe (Social Work Library RC455 .J28 2017). If I understand it correctly, a recent law (part of the 21st Century Cures act, signed in December 2016 – for a summary of relevant law, look here: (bit.ly/HR2646)) relaxed restrictions on HIPAA/FERPA to allow providers to share some information with caregivers (i.e. family), to avoid healthcare problems worsened by confidentiality. I’m always sorry to hear about solutions that also cause problems. The world is complicated that way. When things that impact my life are out of my control and answers are unsatisfactory, I turn to friends for support, and often also turn to Reinhold Niebuhr’s serenity prayer: “Give us courage to change what must be altered, serenity to accept what cannot be helped, and the insight to know the one from the other.”
如 何 增 发, 且 不 掉 发?
You might have missed this answer from 9/26: Hair loss could have many underlying causes, many of them genetic and irreversible. (More info: bit.ly/mayo-baldness) Even treatment for reversible hair loss has only had moderate success. A particular type of hair loss (alopecia areata) occurs starting in childhood, and is the result of an otherwise benign autoimmune disorder. A recent review of the literature (bit.ly/bc-alopecia) found moderate success with some treatments for this condition. If it’s irreversible, at least know that I think bald humans look wise & sophisticated.
Why is counseling so useless?
It’s not mean to say that you’re feeling that counseling is useless, as long as you know that that may not be true for everyone in counseling. If you don’t feel you’re getting much (or anything) from counseling, try addressing it directly and telling your counselor what you would like to gain from your sessions. This may mean adjusting your current counseling, or looking for someone new to talk to who is a better fit, but it’s worth it to feel like you’re making progress and getting what you need.
每 天 得 睡 13 个 小 时, 我 是 不 是 在 长 身 体?
Humans between the ages of 13 and 25 often do need more sleep than other humans, but 13 hours daily does seem excessive. I recommend visiting a doctor to make sure there’s not a health problem of some kind.
Is it doable to live in the library Sun-Thurs?
It works for me very well, but for you living and breathing (and needing food and sleep and showers) types, I think it would get very unpleasant pretty quickly!