Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Yes. If you need your faith restored, watch Won’t You Be My Neighbor, the film about Fred Rogers. Some men really do try to live values like that. It’s possible that they don’t frequent the events or groups where you’re looking. Get involved in programs or groups that try to live values like those of Mr. Rogers’ (or other men you admire), and you might find some.
It depends on how much rejection you feel you can handle, and also the nature of “he blew me off.” Did it seem like he wanted to get together with you but was actually too busy? Or that he was really not interested? In the latter case, twice seems like you’ve given it a fair try, and I would worry that more than that may come across as annoying or unwanted attention.
I don’t have any hard data on the least used, but one of my helpers tells me that the one in Robsham is on the quiet side.
Pros: Someone to hang out with, the potential joys of true love and/or physical intimacy, the possibility of meeting someone you’ll want to spend your life with (it sometimes happens here!). Cons: Takes time away from your studies and extra-curriculars, you might find your other friendships suffer if you’re not careful to prioritize them, you run the risk of a broken heart, and if everything goes perfectly – what happens when you graduate?
It sounds like climate change might be your passion. If you care that deeply about a cause, it’s very much worth your time (and everyone else’s) to do some work for the cause. Remember, you can have multiple things that you care about. Having varied interests is not only OK, it’s preferable. Diversity in your focus is what keeps you from burning out.
Yes. A live performance is a totally different thing than a movie–it makes the audience part of the show, which is an amazing thing with a good group of actors. Lots of local theaters have student discounts, and there’s a good list of upcoming shows here: bit.ly/bc-stage.
It’s an admirable virtue. As with many virtues, use it in moderation. In excess, loyalty could become unquestioning obedience. Without it, though, social ties crumble. Mutual respect, patience, and tolerance help loyalty blossom organically.
Tall order! Start local: be an examplar of how to live with minimal harm, with respect for others. (And when that fails, at least patience & tolerance.) Do more asking and listening than making yourself heard. Make room for voices that aren’t often heard. Grant those around you dignity and agency. When you encounter injustice, say so, and do what you can to correct it, because peace is unlikely without justice. When you make mistakes, apologize and make amends. There are many courses at BC in political science, philosophy, sociology, and theology that address issues of peace and justice.
That would cost you about one year in jail and up to a $1000 fine if arrested as a first time offender, not to mention the risk you run of being expelled from Boston College. Subsequent offenders double that risk with a 2 year jail sentence and $2000 fine for each additional offense. You also run the risk of getting cocaine laced with fentanyl, which is deadly (RIP Mac Miller). I’d have to say that none of that is worth the purchase price.
Hi! Hope this works out! But we’ll never know, because this wall lives and dies by anonymity.
One can plan paths around aesthetic principles or one can plan paths by observing where people actually walk. The latter method is known as a “desire path” in urban planning: bit.ly/desire-paths. If there’s no signpost about staying off the grass, walk where you need to walk.
Ask him. Easier said than done, I know. But don’t be afraid to take the risk and be vulnerable with the boy you like!
But then what would I do? I don’t have thumbs to twiddle. No, but seriously, watch for some opportunities for you (and others!) to provide answers later this semester.
It’s tomorrow – I’m not great at predicting the future, but I will predict that there will be some amazing dancing! Best of luck to all contestants!
Group projects are a hassle in a setting like college where individual performance is emphasized so heavily. However, they are good training for the real world where you will almost never be individually responsible for a project. For most of your career, you will succeed and fail on the merits of not just yourself, but of your team. Whether you are the leader of that team or a contributor, the team is what will get it done. To put it in perspective: after your first 12 months out of college, no one will care what your GPA was. But for the rest of your career you will be judged on how good a team member you are.
Actually he is a fictional character from David Foster Wallace’s Infinite Jest named John “No Relation” Wayne: “… he’s all business. His face on court is blankly rigid, with hypertonic masking of schizophrenics and Zen adepts. He tends to look straight ahead at all times. He is about as reserved as they come. His emotions emerge in terms of velocity. Intelligence as strategic focus. His play, like his manner in general, seems to Schacht less alive than undead.”
According to the General Manager at Lyons, the appearance of chocolate muffins is random, but frequent. So, you’re not going to be able to put it on your calendar, but hopefully you can get one soon. Sounds delicious!
I’m sorry you feel that would be necessary. Not every higher ed institution is a perfect match for everyone. And to answer your question, no. It’s a big investment, so that’s a hard pill to swallow, but your coursework from BC will count at any institution you’d like to transfer to. Colleges & universities try hard to make sure applicants fit the school and vice versa, because it’s such a big investment for everyone. Whatever happens, I hope you find what you’re looking for.
There’s no obligation to keep loving someone with whom you’ve broken up. It’s admirable to respect them if they’ve earned it. Perhaps you need to enact a ritual of some kind: e.g., get a nice container, put the keepsakes worth saving in it, lock it, and put it away. Or if you’re a more impulsive type, have a little bonfire… though you may later regret disposing of things in such a permanent way. Whatever you do, it sounds like it’s time to close a door, as painful as that may be.
To fart less like a toddler, try to suppress it until you’re not chilling with Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood, while sporting Oshkosh B’Gosh threads, slugging down a juice box, and gorging on a GoGo squeeZ. To truly level up your farting adultness, follow each outburst with a remark like “This Trivento 2016 Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon is truly top-notch, but it does generate gas…”
