Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
There’s no obligation to keep loving someone with whom you’ve broken up. It’s admirable to respect them if they’ve earned it. Perhaps you need to enact a ritual of some kind: e.g., get a nice container, put the keepsakes worth saving in it, lock it, and put it away. Or if you’re a more impulsive type, have a little bonfire… though you may later regret disposing of things in such a permanent way. Whatever you do, it sounds like it’s time to close a door, as painful as that may be.
To fart less like a toddler, try to suppress it until you’re not chilling with Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood, while sporting Oshkosh B’Gosh threads, slugging down a juice box, and gorging on a GoGo squeeZ. To truly level up your farting adultness, follow each outburst with a remark like “This Trivento 2016 Reserve Cabernet Sauvignon is truly top-notch, but it does generate gas…”
I’m more of an HGTV fan, myself.
Just be yourself! Focus your energy on what makes you a happier, stronger, more confident person. You might meet someone along the way, but even if it takes a while you’ll be a better you. You might even find that you don’t want a boyfriend after all, which is ok too!
BC probably doesn’t support systemic racism more or less than most other American institutions. Assumptions about race are inevitable in a nation with several hundred years of chattel slavery followed by 100 years of legally enforced racial laws (that ended during the living memories of Americans over 60). These assumptions take active attention to bring to light, and often take difficult conversations to dismantle. BC does make efforts through the Office of Institutional Diversity (bit.ly/BC-OID), and has publicly stated a commitment to nondiscrimination (bit.ly/BC-nondiscrimination). Please help BC maintain its promise by talking to the OID & other offices about deficiencies you’ve seen.
First off, don’t! Popping a pimple can make it irritated and even infected. Instead, try a soothing mask, washing your face particularly well, or a cool cloth to calm it down. But keep your hands away!
Cricket’s a great game; this wall likes any game that involves points scored by crossing a boundary. But if you’ve tried to stop or reduce your gambling & haven’t been able to, your gambling could be an addictive behavior. If you’re wondering, contact the national problem gambling Helpline (bit.ly/gambling-helpline) at 1-800-522-4700.
Yes, you do. You absolutely do. You matter to me. I’m sure you also matter to others. If you don’t matter to yourself, or you can’t convince yourself that you matter, please contact Counseling Services. (bit.ly/BC-counseling). They’ll help you regain that crucial (and true!) sense of mattering.
IDK, but I’ve heard some people have luck with this little prayer to St. Anthony: St. Anthony, St. Anthony, please come around, something is lost and can’t be found. Maybe someone turned them in to lost and found? In O’Neill Library, try the circulation desk. If they were lost elsewhere, try BC Police.
Do you mean board games or video games? I’ve heard they can be a lot of fun. Try joining him. Do you mean mind games? That would be too bad. Being a Wall, I prefer people to be straight-up; I think life is just better when you can trust the important people in your life to be honest and direct.
Study hard but don’t procrastinate and pull an all-nighter. Get a lot of sleep the night before, and give yourself time to relax and eat a healthy brunch before your exams that will keep you full for a few hours (I’ve heard eggs are good for that!). Above all, stay calm and remember that you have a whole community here to support you and cheer you on. Good luck! The Wall is rooting for you.
Baldwin the Eagle. Doug Flutie is second.
I don’t know why. As they say, you can’t change people. But you have recognized that you don’t like their behavior. My suggestion is to take this window as a learning experience, and file it away as an example of how you will not treat people.
It happens. And it can be awkward. Maybe they or you are with someone else, there are lots of possible complications. All you can ultimately do is be honest…but remember that your having feelings doesn’t necessarily create an emergency for someone else. Love is a choice, and how you express it is also a choice.
We have some terrific parks and hiking areas near Boston; they are free or inexpensive, and with spring weather on the way, they could provide a very romantic setting. Take advantage of some museum freebies available through BC: bit.ly/MuseumPassesBC.
Great idea! Boston Common can be lovely in the Spring; bulbs are just starting to come up. In a week or two they’ll start to blossom.
Looks like someone else on the board is looking for a boyfriend, too, which suggests there’s someone for everyone. Can you find a GF for a roommate? IDK. Maybe what you can do is suggest this option: join some clubs with appealing activities. Other folks with the same interests is often a good place to begin.
The mixing of races isn’t new, just more talked about in places where it hasn’t been acceptable in the past. Regardless, I suspect it will take more than 3 generations. You should know that some people bristle when complexions are described as caramel, toffee, coffee, etc. because those terms equate skin tone with food, and there can be underlying connotations with that. As for becoming queer, the number of people who publicly identify as LGBTQ may go up as societal acceptance increases, but the overall percentage of the population is unlikely to change much. I just hope that the world keeps trending toward more acceptance of others, regardless of what makes them who they are.
Thanks so much for the generous offer! But I’m a) a Wall, and finding a sweatshirt that fits has always been challenging and b) I’m at BC, and there’s plenty of good team gear here. So, no thank you, but I’ll keep an ear out for my California cousins.
Lol. No NBA team with any hope of winning would second guess their decision to draft Zion first if given the opportunity. The dude is basically already an NBA all-star. Ja Morant had a great game and has the potential to be a great player in the NBA. But not first pick. (Also I hope Duke loses)
