Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
It is cold, I know. We keep it colder than lots of places because books have special needs for temperature and humidity. There are some potential problems with loaning things that need cleaning regularly, but I’ll definitely pass it along to my wall friends in the Big Offices.
Tic Tac Toe players, enjoy! I’ll watch.
The Wall is going to guess you’re a little shy, but let me know if it’s something else, because there are a variety of reasons that can be hard. Idea #1: Start by doing something easier regularly and work yourself up to the hard thing. Some people have trouble answering questions, some with asking them. Try doing the one that’s easier for you. Be gentle with yourself: most people need lots of practice to get comfortable being the only person talking in a big room.
Audio can be found by visiting this link http://frontrow.bc.edu/program/obama/
A certain number of people will like, dislike, and be indifferent to you after they’ve gotten to know you a little. The trick is to make sure more people get the introduction. It’s a much better idea to be yourself than to try to make yourself into what you think someone else thinks they want. Be patient, be kind to yourself. The Wall assures you that there are many possible someones for everyone. So: go say hi to one new person today, or say hello to someone you’ve talked to before. Talk to them about anything other than whether you like each other. Tomorrow: repeat.
Hi Chad! ? ?
That’s a Big Question that legions of philosophers and theologians have wrestled with for millenia. There are two distinct meanings of “reason.” If you mean “purpose,” the answer is maybe? If you mean “cause,” yes. Every event involves other events. While humans (and animate walls) have motives and purposes, inanimate objects do not, so on one level, some events (caused by inanimate objects) have causes, but no purpose(s). There are those who ascribe purposes of events to higher beings; that would be a matter of faith. If you are wrestling with this question because of an unfortunate event, and you are religious, I recommend meeting with someone at Pastoral Counseling: bit.ly/bc-pastoral-counseling. Or, if you’d prefer, someone at UCS: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
I have not. But human affiliates tell me that season 2, episode 1, “Be Right Back” is a good one, but warned me to have tissues at hand, even though, as a Wall, I don’t have tear ducts.
The dates are being finalized for the week of October 6th/ Midterm week for our therapy dogs will come back and visit us.
Avoid tit for tat behavior. Play nice. Be gentle with each other. Have common values. However, my helpers tell me that if it’s not jelling it’s fine to reconsider the relationship.
Are you happy now? is the question the Wall would ask first. If you are, whatever future you imagine will either arrive or not on its own time.
Tell him. Friendship is about honesty; if you don’t, your friendship will suffer. But it’s possible he’s quite committed, so be prepared for disappointment. And in case of disappointment, be prepared to help return your friendship to an even keel, because telling him shouldn’t mean the end of a friendship. (Also: better that his resolve be tested now than after he goes through all the work to become a priest!)
It’s not a recording, but the ringing has been automated since the 1960s.
I recommend asking Kathy Duggan at the Connors Family Learning Center (CFLC) 617-552-8093 or dugganka@bc.edu
Yes! We will add it to the library collection. If you would like to recommend a book in the future, use our suggest a purchase form here: library.bc.edu/purchaserequest
If you’re not hungry with your M/W/F classes, then we can probably rule out medical issues. Are you eating full and healthy meals? Can you bring a snack with you? It’s important not to be too hungry in class; not only is it distracting but without fuel the body gets tired and learning can suffer.
Short answer: no. Longer answer: sexual attraction, behavior, and identity are three separate things and don’t necessarily line up the same way all the time. This is a huge topic, but you could start here: http://bit.ly/bc-sexuality
I expect they are somewhat oblivious to you, unless you are in their environment and they perceive you as a predator or other threat. You could ask them, but like the song says, “They won’t answer, they can’t talk.”
Sounds territorial. But there’s plenty of fishing in O’Neill, try the SH call numbers, Level 3, Shelf 128.
Gotta admit, I’m baffled. Can you clarify?
Study! If you don’t understand the material, ask your professor for help. If you think you need additional help, go to the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors)
