Life can be exhausting when it comes at you fast. There’s a break coming up; I recommend you use it as a genuine break. Unplug, give yourself some “me”-time/down-time. Meanwhile, every day set aside some time – even just a few minutes – to sit peacefully and do nothing but breathe. Some really great short meditations are available with the Insight Timer app. It’s like running; if you strain a muscle, you need a break. If you don’t think downtime will cut it, get yourself to the counseling office: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
I’ve met my share of dumb boys, girls, walls, floors, ceilings… Sounds like you’ve had a frustrating experience with a male human, or perhaps several. It’s certainly true that research points to some men not being socialized to value emotional intelligence as highly as some women. Is that what you’re talking about? You might be interested in the book Why Smart People Can Be So Stupid, by Robert Sternberg (O’Neill Library BF431 .W535 2002).
I dropped calc II. It’s much easier than what my Chinese peers learn back home. But I have trouble fitting it in schedule and need to protect GPA. Feel like a failure.
You’re not a failure! It sounds like you made a very rational decision. I hope you got input from your advisor? Also, if you feel a burning need to learn the material covered in calc II (and you might), you can take it later; this year, or even all your college years, are not your only opportunities.
Can you help me w/ globe? I’m so nervous, my stomach keeps knotting up!
I’m not sure I can, but the tutors at Connors Family Learning Center can: bit.ly/BC-connors. And librarians can help you with the research (library.bc.edu/ask-a-librarian). Good luck! I know you can do this.
No matter how much you still love her, I bet there are lots of reasons why you aren’t together any more. Don’t be afraid to feel your feelings, but gently remind yourself each time of all the other things that got in the way of your relationship. It will take time, but the love and the hurt will both dull and eventually go away.
Mostly through hard work and putting in the time. Orgo isn’t easy! But you can do this, and there is help. Try the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) and maybe form a study group in your class.
How do I balance work, friends, school, relationships, and fun?
It’s hard for sure, and something everyone struggles with constantly. There are times when one of those might have to take priority over others, and you should start by recognizing that that’s OK. “Balancing” those things doesn’t always mean they’re given the perfectly same priority. Try using task manager applications or a calendar to keep track of priorities. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you can always visit BC Counseling (bit.ly/BC-counseling).
You have my complete faith! If you’re concerned, I recommend finding a group to study with, getting help on papers at the CFLC (bit.ly/BC-connors), and getting help with research at library service desks, or checking out this handy guide: library.bc.edu/bible-quick-start.
HUGE shoutout to the kind, sweet cleaning lady who works the night shift cleaning the upper floors. She’s honest and does a great job! Please tell her she’s doing great! REWARD HER.
That’s wonderful! But you should thank her yourself. And you know what’s even better… write an email to the Director of Custodial Services (Gerard Boyle, boyleg@bc.edu) and tell him. That sort of action, not just here but everywhere you go in life, is valued by employees, and can have good repercussions.
I have Cs, Bs and As, how can i get into T20 law school? =( Including this semester I have 3 semesters left to go, what should I do? Boosting up GPA is hard =(
Boosting up GPA is hard, but I’m sure you can do this. Take advantage of all the help on offer: CFLC (tutoring & academic coaching: bit.ly/connors), meet with all of your professors, create study groups with other students, find productive places to study in BC Libraries, work with librarians on all of your research papers (library.bc.edu/ask-a-librarian), and then study like mad for the LSAT’s. You’ve got this!
How come the 80k it costs to go here doesn’t cover loaning USCB adapters LOL
It depends on what kind of device you have, but you can borrow lots of adapters from the Circulation Desk on level 3. If you’re facing me, turn around and you’ll see it.
Make a list of her likes and hobbies. Try to come up with a couple of items or experiences that line up with each of those, then narrow it down to one thing that fits your budget and the occasion. Don’t forget to wrap it and while a card isn’t completely necessary, I bet she’d like one. Keep adding to the list as stuff comes up throughout the year, so you’re prepared for the gift-giving holidays to come!
Hey Wall,
So my parents are getting a divorce. I know. Really sucks. But the real problem is this: Should I live with my mom or my dad? My mom got our house, so my dad got an apartment that’s pretty crappy. But I like my dad
better. So should I live in his crappy apartment just because I love him? On one other note, my mom’s a better cook than my dad. So should I go with her because of the better house and food and not because I like her? Oh,also, my annoying little brother already chose to live with my mom. So I don’t like my mom OR my brother, I would just be living w/those two for the good food and nice house. That seems a little selfish to me, don’t you think, wall? But this means that if I lived with my dad, I would be happier without my mom and brother, but the house and food is bad. What do you think, wall? Oh, also, wall! I have this girlfriend, and she’s, like, super rich. I recently proposed to her, but I’m starting to think deeper. Do I really love her? Or am I just marrying her for her money. Wall, marriage is a big step. How do you now if you love somebody? Do you just wake up one day and realize it? Or is it more complicated than that? I am so confused, wall! I also feelreally guilty, because I’m cheating on her with this other guy. I think I like him more than my rich gf, but I’m not really sure. He’s vegan and Buddhist. Now he gets me wondering, should I become vegan? Should I switch from orthodox Jewish to be a buddhist?My mom’s Jewish, so should I switch religions and give up my family for my boyfriend? Sounds like a good idea to me, but what do you think, Wall? We’ve been dating for about two weeks, so I think it’s time to make some changes. I’m also worriedabout what my family with think when I introduce my boyfriend to them. Maybe I should invite him for Thanksgiving, Wall, b/c its coming up. Although, he would not be able to eat anything, because he’s vegan. I’ve also been wondering, what is the meaning of life? And am I enough? I don’t know if I’m enough formy boyfriend. He’s pressuring me into doing something very serious, something I don’t think I’m ready for because I’ve never done it before. He wants me to become vegan. I feel really bad, because I eat cheeseburgers behind his back. Should I behind his back. Should I tell him? I really love cheeseburgers, and I can’t give them up. Wait! Is it possible to be a vegan that still eats cheeseburgers? This gets me thinking that I might need to break up with him. Or should I just bevegan and buddhist to make him happy, and give up on my family? Okay, just one more thing. My dog pooped in my bed the other day. Wall, where do you think is the best placeto get good, cheap detergent around here? I don’t have any and I’ve been wearing the same underwear for a week. I’ve also been sleeping on the floor. So I could really use an answer to the detergent question.
You have an overwhelming number of important questions; you probably feel more than a little overwhelmed. I recommend talking many of these issues through with someone who can be both sympathetic and objective, and help you determine priorities for addressing and making sense of them. Counseling Services would be a good place to start: bit.ly/BC-counseling. For the dog poop I recommend any detergent plus oxy-clean or bleach, both available at any local grocery or drug store.
Girl WTF
It can certainly be startling to see someone else’s internal monologue. Many of us are walking (or standing) around with such internal voices; it takes bravery to make it public, even anonymously, because you never know how people will respond. I was a little surprised myself, but it’s never a mistake to be compassionate.
I was in a toxic relationship that has ruin my life in high school? We were both going to come here, but then she cheated on me. Worse of all, the guy was bad looking, which made me insecure about myself! I made a deal to not date anyone in college for 2 yrs! And the year is almost approaching! When I talk to a beautiful girl, I instantly judge her as a slut in the back of my head! And I know I shouldn’t but seeing girls today & even now in our campus cheat on their bf further proves to me that maybe love doesn’t exist! Even body count seems important to me, how can I love my future wife knowing thatshe may have had 10 partners! I feel like I’m more nice to the unattractive girls bc’s I feel secure that they don’t cheat & are loyal people. Can anyone help!
I’m sorry someone you loved abused your trust. It can be hard to rebuild enough trust to connect with other people after an event like that. I recommend talking to someone at Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling) or Campus Ministry (bit.ly/bc-pastoral-counseling) to help you rebuild the capacity for trust and creating loving, nurturing, and mutually-beneficial relationships.
