Category: Random

IDK, ask Sophia?

Just remember that you are sufficient, and you have everything you need within you. And make sure you have contact info for every friend and assure them (and yourself) you won’t let go of them. One of my library helpers is still close to college friends 35 years later.

100% Understandable. Dogs are wonderful. If possible, have a human send you daily photos, that may help!

Oooooh, IDK, but you know who can help it get easier? Tutors! bit.ly/BC-connors

It’s always good to see people share love.

It’s important to remember that loneliness is a feeling, and feelings come and go. If you’d like to be with other people: call family, call old friends, call new friends, do things with new friends. Make friends by chatting with people who live near you, or are behind you in line at the Chocolate Bar, or if you’re a BC student, by joining BC clubs that interest you. I hope one of these helps alleviate those feelings!

If you’re hungry, isn’t anything good? No, but seriously, I’ve heard the soups are all excellent, and you kind of can’t beat the salad bar at Lower (remember it’s by bowl size, not weight, so go for the heavy stuff, like fresh mozzarella or artichoke hearts!).

Missing someone is so difficult. Letting yourself feel the loss is key to being able to move forward. It is counterintuitive, but feeling sad/lonely/bittersweet helps your brain process and eventually make peace. You deserve peace.

If there’s any specific you want to know, please do let me know. In the meantime, carry on!

I can’t quite be sure what you mean, but I’ll take the opportunity to talk about a movie I liked. The library had a screening of The Farewell, directed by Lulu Wan. I haven’t stopped thinking about this heartfelt comedic drama. It is based on a true story, which made it feel very real to me.

The answer to that will vary depending on who you talk to and what they value most. Overall, from my experience listening to you all and watching life in O’Neill lobby, I have seen that human connection, taking time for each other, listening, loving one another. and living with purpose seem to rank pretty high on the important scale.

What others have said is true: not everyone expresses love the same way and not everyone easily compliments. Even if you don’t feel any reciprocation, likely your words mean a great deal to those you compliment.

Agreed!

You made my day, thank you!

Caesar’s murder happened in the immediate aftermath of a civil war and sparked another generation of civil wars, so the actual whys are debated. But in general Romans hated tyrants, and one of Brutus’s ancestors had murdered the last of the Roman kings. If you want to get into the details I recommend this chapter in the Blackwell Companion to Juluis Caesar (bit.ly/bcl-caesar-assassination), which will point you to various interpretations and the ancient source material. (p.s. The line from Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar is “Et tu, Brute?” (“even you, Brutus?”). Plutarch has him say “kai su, o techne?” (“even you, my son?”)

Sigh… I’ve long been bedeviled by being in absolute last place in the Boston Marathon (I entered in 1985 and still haven’t even started!) so I get it. A wall will never break speed records. If it’s something you love, do it anyway, but don’t stake an income (or perhaps grades) on it. If you don’t love it, let it go and admire those who are good at it.

I haven’t watched that show, but I’ve heard good things.

It depends on the body. A dead mouse is fairly easy to hide. A dead person is more difficult. But in either case, simply put the body where nobody will find it.

Maybe Ocean’s X (where x=how many in the group). But my best reco is to ask the group! What are your shared interests? Favorite characters, places, or objects in films, music, novels, anime, or other artists? Political groups? Crime syndicates? Galaxies? Combinations thereof? (e.g. Maltese Millennium Falcon)

I’d be inclined to suggest a slasher-movie villain like Freddie or Jason, so you get something cute for polite company but you know the truth.

Every heartbreak feels terrible, no matter how many you have lived through. Feel your feelings. Make fun plans for the future. Don’t miss meals. And, if you find you need more TLC please don’t forget our friends in the Counseling Office. They are trained to help us all move through these human experiences that can be so hard to recover from.

I can’t say I’m famliar, but for obvious reasons my film watching is more limited than most.