Category: Random

No need to worry that you’re too sensitive; you are entitled to your feelings. It is possible you are misinterpreting what they are saying, that they spoke without thinking, or that they intentionally said something out of line. You can ask them directly why they said that, or tell them their words were hurtful.

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One thing I have noticed is that people often have more going on in their lives than we ever know. There are many reasons you might not feel like your friends are being friends, and often the best way to find out is to ask them what’s going on.

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Easy-peasy! Just go to bit.ly/ONeillStudyRoom You can also find the Study Rooms link under “Quick Links” on the library home page: library.bc.edu. Here’s a QR code to make it easy!

Get enough sleep the night before. Plan out your studying in blocks for each subject and stick to it. Study with a buddy (but make sure they’re serious about it.) Take breaks and give yourself rewards. Attend any review sessions that are offered. Remember that while an exam may look like an overwhelming hurdle, it is not a judgement of you as a person. I have faith in you!

It depends a lot on how you define “administration”. There is an interractive visualization that breaks down BC Operating Expenses from 2010-2022, so you can see the changes in the categories: bit.ly/BCAdminFacExpense

Breath. I highly recommend a daily practice of breathing meditation as a way of practicing kindness to yourself. Thich Nhat Hanh provides an excellent, short introduction in Peace is Every Breath: O’Neill Library BL65 .P4 N46 2011.

All I can say is that I feel more like I do now than I did then.

It just is, is what it is.

The answer is much clearer when you define “enough” for yourself very clearly: how much, by what time, and to what level of quality.

My cousin the Magic 8-ball says “Cannot predict now.”

Russia: A history of Russia, N. V. Riasonovsky (O’Neill Library DK40 .R5 2000) America: A People’s History of the United States, Howard Zinn (ebook: bit.ly/bcl-zinn-peoples-history) Europe: Europe, A History, Norman Davies (O’Neill Library D57 .D28 1996) Middle East: The Arabs: A History, Eugene Rogan (O’Neill Library DS37.7 .R64 2009), Jerusalem: The Biography, Simon Sebag Montefiore (DS109.9 .S43 2011)

You can practice with friends (of any gender) if you can open up to them about your concerns. You might be able to come up with a physical trigger to stop the laughter like pressing on your jaw. In any case you are very courageous to put yourself out there and I have faith you can do it.

When you set aside your fears & anxieties, talking to guys is just like talking to women. You find some common ground through trial and error, and overlook the awkwardness that’s inevitable when you’re getting to know someone. Oh, and tell your inner voices saying critical or discouraging things that you appreciate their help but don’t need them right now.

It sounds very challenging!

My advice? Live your life in an ethical manner, be kind to people and treat them with respect. Then, sit back and know you deserve respect, and what other people think is not something you can control. Try try try to worry less about what other people think (I know that is hard!)

I TOTALLY sang that in my head… ❤️

Probably 2 years, give or take? I wouldn’t think so by the time you reach college age. As long as you keep an eye on the power dynamics of the relationship and nothing is terribly uneven.

Some thoughts: get appropriate training and certification as required for your type of therapy and state in which you work, keep up with advances and new knowledge in the field, be caring, be ethical, set boundaries and take care of yourself as well.

I’m not sure what a library wall could add that the library contents haven’t already said. Here are 650 titles on the subject: bit.ly/bcl-affirmative-action.

You could do worse than to find everything by the writers in the Lowell series this spring: https://bit.ly/bc-lowell. For more, peruse this New Yorker list of essential reads of 2023. On this list, Paul Murray, Ben Austen, & Ben Lerner all spoke at BC recently, BC’s Min Song introduced Viet Thanh Nguyen in his inaugural Norton Lecture at Harvard, and Jon Fosse was featured in an O’Neill Library book display. A staff favorite is Barbara Kingsolver’s Demon Copperhead. BC’s own Elizabeth Graver wrote the can’t-miss Kantika.

Two resources you might want to try: Academic Coaching from the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) or Wellness Coaching for managing stress, time, and academics at the Center for Student Wellness (bit.ly/BCStudentWellness)