I am watching The Crown and I’m wondering why Q. Elizabeth II is such a $#cu? #StopMonarchies
Well, it’s a dramatized reenactment of conversations, interactions, and decisions that the writers have no actual insight into. For example, the episode where LBJ is kissed by Princess Margaret is nearly entirely false (although there was a party in the White House during her visit to the US and the US did eventually support bailing out the Pound). If she were a perfect person, she would make for pretty boring television. Second, she’s in a pretty difficult spot being the sovereign of a nation that has viewed a sovereign as less and less necessary over time. As you see in the show and in headlines from this past week, controlling her very large family is rather difficult.
Everything was going well, then she stood me up and won’t respond to my texts
Now you know she’s not worth the time. Cut your losses and move on. You deserve someone who will treat you better than that and you’ll find her eventually.
How do you know if you’re in love with someone romantically? (Your personal opinion 🙂 )
Welllll…. you see, I’m a wall, and the way walls see love is all about being supportive and strong, but being open, too. Human romantic love has always puzzled me. My assistants tell me romantic love involves intense emotional focus on one person, and a deeper commitment than friendship, and when it’s returned, they say it’s kind of electric. I prefer to keep my electricity insulated & away from flammable materials, myself.
I like guys but I don’t want to be gay. How do I stop being gay?
Scientific research has shown that sexual orientation is not something that can be changed. Conversion therapies try to change one’s sexual orientation, but they have not been successful and in fact may be harmful. Several U.S. states and countries have actually banned conversion therapy. But don’t despair- speaking with a BC counselor or a LGBTQ-friendly advisor can help you work through the conflict that you are feeling.
You’re not alone- I’m in the same boat. It really sucks. It’s hard for me because you can’t talk to anyone w/out revealing your secret. Just be strong. Maybe some day we’ll have the courage to come out.
There are many people you can safely talk to about your feelings and questions. You don’t need to be certain you are gay before talking to someone or attending an LGBTQ+ meeting. People who are questioning their sexual orientation are also welcome. There are some great BC groups where you can meet supportive peers. There are also Boston area groups if you prefer something off-campus. See BC resources: bit.ly/BCLGBTQ and area resources: bit.ly/ma-lgbtq
I am a gay male. I have been out nearly 7 years now (age 16, sophomore year of HS). Before I came out I struggled w/ depression and it got to the point where I was going to take my own life, because, quite frankly, I hated myself. I internalized everything society told me. There was a point where i was looking at the train tracks on the T ride home (waiting for a train to come so I could jump) Thankfully I had a change of heart and now i look back at that day. horrified. That week I told my friends and family I was gay. They were so accepting and I was one of the lucky queer people that have an accepting family/friend group. 7 years later, I could not be happier, my only regret is I did not talk to someone sooner. It is hard here. I am not going to lie to you.It is very homogeneous/ hetero-normative and being in a catholic institution is not the easiest environment for queer students. Just know that you are loved, you are important and it is amazing to be queer, as it is a valid identity and many people are. If people do not accept you for who you are, then it is their loss not yours. Self love is a beautiful process, and it is ongoin. I love you.
Thank you for being so supportive and for sharing your story honestly. BC is lucky you are here. I especially appreciate that you told others they are loved and important- so true! (I’m sorry I had to remove the post-it with contact info. I observe a strict anonymity policy to protect everyone’s privacy. I’m a public but very private wall.)
As a conservative Mexican-American, I feel very isolated into expressing my opinions in class & with friends.
Seeking out and sharing with folks from a similar background or with similar viewpoints can help you feel less isolated and keep you in touch with the things that matter most to you, particularly when you feel like you are in the minority here at BC. But also take the time to evaluate your own beliefs, and take advantage of the opportunity to learn from people different from you — you might find yourself less alone than you think!
Are all the people in AC toxic? (Asian communities on campus?)
No, absolutely not. I haven’t encountered any toxic communities on campus. And I’d prefer you not make negative generalizations about any of my friends. (Note: everyone at BC is a friend of mine, even if they don’t know it.)
How do grad students get BC Gym memberships to work out on campus?
Graduate students currently enrolled in a degree-granting program and currently registered for classes, and their spouses, can purchase a membership by presenting a valid Boston College Eagle-One ID card. For more information go to: bit.ly/BC-Rec
Books on time management in college? (CFLC not open until next week)
The key to time management is that you can’t actually manage time. But you can figure out your values and goals, and work at aligning your behaviors with them. Here’s a good book: bit.ly/BC-time-management. It’s an e-book, which saves you the time of finding a book in the library. Already managing your time!
This girl I’m seeing likes to slap me, but I don’t like it. What should I do?
If you haven’t done so already, I would suggest telling her you don’t like being slapped. Respecting each other’s boundaries is a pretty fundamental part of maintaining a healthy relationship.
If the genders were reversed that would be domestic violence/abuse & people would say to dump them/make it very clear to them not to do it again
You have a good point there. If you feel threatened by the slapping, and/or she won’t stop after you’ve asked her to, then it does become more of a domestic violence issue. Find BC and Boston help/resources here: bit.ly/BCPartnerAbuse.
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