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IDK, but I’m happy to send your query along.

Maybe, but it’s a question of fact, not belief. The Rona is real and doesn’t care how you feel.

If you have encounter with them and got sent to student conducts, would that affect your public record or FBI check at all?

IDK. Here’s where you can find out: https://www.mass.gov/criminal-record-check-services. For a definitive answer to your second question(s) I would check with a criminal lawyer. Tip: don’t ask a nonprofessional for legal or medical advice.

But the professionals always lie (eg police, psychiatrists, etc) and hurt you. They’re the ones with power to document things from their perspectives and minimize the harm they do to you, while claiming the person to be lying and a lack of insight …… so they seem to be less trustworthy than the Answer Wall…

I haven’t been sure how to respond to this, because I do have a good deal of trust left in professionals, particularly library ones. But your experience is your experience and I honor that. I suspect you might get different results from a professional you were paying, like the lawyer I mentioned.

Then where is the sense of humanity left then? If the professionals were to only work for individuals who pay them and/or worry about losing the stakeholders who pay them more, wouldn’t that result in a misuse of power and a neglect of the powerless minors and the marginalized populations?

Yes. It was a more cynical response than I usually give, but the power dynamic you’re describing, where people in institutions often serve their own needs or the organization’s rather than those they are meant to serve, is sadly common. In a just world you wouldn’t need an advocate to deal with healers or protectors. In ours you sometimes do.

We all are tired of him. We need a chance at BC!!! Do we need to write to the pope, to Boston Cardinal, to President Trump, to the general of the Jesuits in Rome??? Or do we have to wait until Jesus call him to the light of his face? I know wall you aren’t tired of him, for all you care is money and endowments and building… you will never understand; you’re not a human, but don’t you get we need a change?

Fr. Leahy will end his presidency when he retires or the Board of Trustees decides he should no longer be President of BC. Also, having a different President does not necessarily mean you will like the changes that they make. Rather than wishing for a new President, you might let Fr. Leahy know the changes you would like to see. Finally, I care much more about you and the people at BC than I do about money and endowments (although as a wall I do care a great deal about buildings).

I’m right here. It’s just that “here” has less paper and pencil in it. And I miss the post-its, too, I have to admit.

Leahyphobia stands to Phobia to Fr. Leahy SJ, The Jesuit priest who walks to his office from St. Mary’s. I think he suffer from BCstudensphobia, a phobia he never will recover!!! Any suggestions for that too?

For students suffering from Leahyphobia, my advice is to avoid him during your time at BC. This should be easy enough to do if, as you say, Fr. Leahy also has a fear of students. Actually, I don’t think Fr. Leahy fears students. The burden of leading BC is very time consuming (especially during a pandemic), so while you might not see Fr. Leahy often, know that he dedicates his entire work day to improving BC.

Can you problem solve that for me so I have a room to Zoom in my class? Thx!

I am sorry the room has been used as storage. Unfortunately, the libraries have had to reduce their seating capacity by 60% to make sure spaces are conducive to maintaining social distancing, and room 511 is one of the spaces that was used to store furniture. There are spaces in the libraries that were adjusted for students to attend online classes: Third floor north side (Reading Room and behind Reference). Additionally, O’Neill Library’s 246, 246A, 247, 248 are generally available 9am-5pm when classes are not in session. We have removed room 511 from Circulation, and apologize for the inconvenience.

Honestly, I have a mixed feeling ab the fact that I would probably travel to the airport 10 times by the end of this year.

It is so good to see all your faces, even if I don’t get to see your faces completely! I do hope there are no retreats home needed. Happy fall semester!

O’Neill? Bapst? or perhaps more conceptual? you speak for ~all~ walls. I suppose not though, since you only speak of what a wall says at good ole Boston College?

In my physical form I’m a dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill, so I suppose that’s my primary affiliation. But walls are many and interrelated. I have friends who do this work at other libraries, and my mother is a sea wall in the North Shore. So yes, I do also identify with walls everywhere. But I can only speak for myself.

the individual is not compassionate at all, the world has so much power fight going on, and there are so much implicit/explicit racism and stigma surrounding mental health going on? I guess what feels complicated and hurtful is that it’s an internship in the “helping profession.” I guess sometimes providers burn out not because the clients are difficult (yes, they blame the clients), but because the education, training, and the field itself is so imperfect, hurtful, immoral, and traumatizing. My experience as a client isn’t always great, then my experience as an intern is also full of conflicts. Not just the conflict regarding the roles/power between being an intern or a client. It’s more of a conflict result from my beliefs about healing, mental health, human rights, the reason of suffering does not always align with the sometimes (not always) science-heavy, diagnostic-based, and dehumanizing clinical field. Oh, I love my original internship, this is a new one. But anyway, can I have a wall hug? Sigh.

Many warm hugs to you as you deal with this challenging and hurtful work environment. The path to becoming famous in clinical psych probably does take its toll on those who pursue it. I expect it’s not inevitable, but the years of study, the competition, and the stress of dealing with people who have serious problems (not blaming the clients, but it is a stressor) may not lead to the individual becoming the soul of compassion. Keep your kind feelings towards those who are suffering, and become the kind of clinical psychologist your current team leaders couldn’t. The world so definitely needs people who are caring and fight for human rights. Internships are soon over; strength to you as you work through this one.

Is it normal and ethically good to hide from my parents, that I watch porn and masturbate? (Age 13-14) If I know something really important that has to do with my twin brother and his sexual orientation, do I have to tell my parents or wait till he makes it?

1) Masturbation is normal and most adults are also private about it. Note: porn is not reality, so it’s a bad idea to base your ideas about future partners or how sex works solely based on it. 2) Your brother’s sexual orientation is something for him to talk about or not, whatever he’s comfortable with and whenever. That’s not your story to tell.

It’s not not a good thing. Trusting people are wonderful when they are surrounded by others deserving of that trust. Unfortunately, many people are not and will use your trusting nature to take advantage of you. That’s just something that you will have to get used to if you’re going to easily trust people, and it will often end in disappointment (or worse) for you. However, you will also get to experience the joy of having trusted someone that no one else did and that person coming through for you, or repaying that trust in kind. That’s such a wonderful feeling and perhaps one of the most human experiences there is. Knowing how much to trust is something that you will be constantly calibrating for the rest of your life.

Unless you have willing friends/family in your household, they will have to be virtual hugs for now, so that we can all be here to hug again in the future. I offer you many virtual Wall hugs to sustain you through these difficult times, and the hope that we can soon embrace all those we long to embrace.

Come out when it’s the right time for you and you are ready, but know that your Mom might decide to raise the issue. Or she might wait for you to take the lead on it, even if she knows. Figure out in advance what you might say if she asks you, either directly or obliquely. If you want someone to talk to, you can contact Caroline Davis (caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470) at the Office of Student Outreach and Support Services.

I am attracted to female, but not sexually. I am confused.

Sexuality, attraction, and dating are confusing issues, especially at this point in your life. The Office of Student Outreach and Support Services has great resources that you may find useful (bit.ly/LBGTQBC), I just had a nice chat with them, because I wasn’t sure what was available during shutdown, and they advise either calling 617-552-3470 and asking for Caroline Davis or emailing her at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu.

Also, don’t you think sending BCPD after students in distress can be traumatizing? Isn’t it hypocritical to teach its students to care for the poor, suffering, and oppressed while simultaneously criminalize those who speak up against the injustice? And how do you expect students who suffer to ask for help when the institution uses BCPD against them at the very first place?

That’s a lot of questions and concerns all at once, all of which would require separate lines of inquiry. But the shared theme is an ethical question: should an organization whose principal purpose is enforcement of laws and rules, and whose primary means of enforcement is threat of detainment or arrest, also be tasked with roles better suited to organizations primarily concerned with health and social welfare?