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There’s only one way to find out – and it’s not by asking ME. Best wishes!
Will [redacted] marry me?
Will Nick and Rachel get married?
For the most likely birth decades for those marrying now, Nicholas was the 19th most popular baby name for boys in the 80s, and Rachel was the 16th most popular for girls. In the 90s, Nicholas jumped to 6th, while Rachel inched upward to 15th. That’s a lot of Nicks and Rachels out there, so the likelihood of a Nick/Rachel marriage is quite high. BTW, this data comes from the Social Secuirty Administration (bit.ly/SSANamesData) and it’s fun to play with.
What do you do when you’re not going to see your friend for 4 mo.
Call, text, skype, write letters. Keep up with each other on social media. Stay busy. Make new friends. And be sad, sometimes, because it’s hard missing your friend. But not all the time.
How do I divorce my direct roommate?
Sorry it’s not working! “Students with roommate concerns should first speak with their Resident Assistant, who will work with them to mediate roommate conflicts. If the mediation process is not successful, students should then speak with their Resident Director, who will evaluate the situation to determine if a room change is necessary and, if so, assist students with that process.” bit.ly/BCHousingProb
How do I know if my crush is real?
A crush often involves having a very idealized perception of who someone is. Hypothetically speaking, If you’ve placed someone on a pedestal based on feelings of attraction, odds are your crush is real.
Hi Wall, I really want a girlfriend but always fail to have one.
It looks like you’re not alone in being alone. Be patient, be kind to yourself and others, be your authentic self, and trust that someone will turn up. Meanwhile, build and maintain friendships and family bonds. We all need relationships for sustenance, but they needn’t be romantic ones.
Hi. I’ve been dating this person for a while and I think I am in Love. What now?
Tell them. All kinds of things could happen. If you don’t tell them, all kinds of things won’t happen, and you’ll always wonder if they would have happened.
Are actors good significant others?
They can be? I suppose the concern here is that an actor could act like they are interested in you even when they’re not. In reality, there are plenty of people that aren’t actors by trade that can be good at acting or faking emotions (part of the definition of psychopathy is the ability to do this). And there are plenty of bad actors that try to make a living out of it. Actor, as a profession, doesn’t tell you anything about whether the person wears their heart on their sleeve, is private, controlling, manipulative, loving, introspective, etc. People run a wide gamut, and their chosen profession usually doesn’t tell you much about them more an any stereotype about any other group of people.
Wall I invite u to watch Frozen 2 w/ me!
I’m touched by the invitation! I will be there in spirit; please let me know what you thought of it.
Disney employs some good songwriters. From Dumbo to Frozen, it’s a rare Disney film without a few good numbers.
Why can’t I focus on study when I stay with my friends???
Because they are great friends and just too much fun! Three possible solutions: find some study buddies who aren’t your regular friends, but are very serious students; make a pact with your friends to study for x amount of time and reward yourselves with a specific fun activity; or make studying a solitary habit, and meet up with your friends later.
My friends make me so stupid happy everyday!
Mine do too; ridiculously stupid happy. Revel in it!
How to deal with intense stress caused by ppl around you?
It sounds like you know what the cause of this intense stress is. Try to reduce the amount of contact you have with people who stress you out. If you need space for yourself, try to find a place that is comfortable and peaceful; a space were you can relax, reflect, rest, or study for as long as you want or need to. The libraries have plenty of spaces that are conducive to relaxation, study or reflexion. My favorite is the area located at the 4th floor’s north end, where the soft chairs are. You ought to try it!
What do you do when your friend group got too much DRAMA
Groups of friends can be volatile sometimes. If you all have a commitment to sticking together, those can be times of growth. Sadly, they can also be times of rupture. You could let your friends know you want to help people build bridges, but you need a break of, say, a day or a week to regain equilibrium & perspective, then you’ll be ready to come back and help.
…other BC students who are looking for off-campus housing?…
ResLife has a database for that! bit.ly/BCNeedRoomie and click on “search for roommates.”
爱你! ài nǐ! [Love you!]
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It makes me feel all warm inside to be the bearer of these messages of love!
Why don’t boys like me? :(
It is human nature to fixate on negative feedback, but the Wall knows two things. 1) You’re great! 2) There are lots of possible someones for everyone. Keep seeking and you will find.
My best friend’s coming visit me from Williamsburg!! I’m so happy!!
Such good news! I hope you have a wonderful time together. Make sure you bring your bestie to visit me.
I’m so sad.
? Mourn the loss of the relationship, and give yourself a little time before starting another. Meanwhile, I hope you’ve got some friends with whom you can talk about it.
How to make my girlfriend happier
It depends on why your girlfriend is unhappy. If you’re worried about her, you could try asking about it, and whether there’s anything you can do to help. But pay attention to the response you get, because your help might not be what’s needed. Also take a moment to think about your motivation: are you asking because your girlfriend being happier would make you more comfortable? If it’s actually about how you feel rather than how she feels, that’s a totally different conversation and you should have them separately.
Do you think that ethical, consensual, nonmonogamous sex could be considered a problem?
I think it would depend on who you asked. My helpers have a variety of opinions about that issue. Consensual and ethical are minimums, it’s the non-monogamy that gets complicated when you move from theory to relating to real human beings. (BTW, I answered this very question on 10/2 and 10/8. You can always visit my blog to see questions you might have missed in their physical manifestation right here: library.bc.edu/answerwall.)