Tell them. All kinds of things could happen. If you don’t tell them, all kinds of things won’t happen, and you’ll always wonder if they would have happened.
Hi. I’ve been dating this person for a while and I think I am in Love. What now?
Are actors good significant others?
They can be? I suppose the concern here is that an actor could act like they are interested in you even when they’re not. In reality, there are plenty of people that aren’t actors by trade that can be good at acting or faking emotions (part of the definition of psychopathy is the ability to do this). And there are plenty of bad actors that try to make a living out of it. Actor, as a profession, doesn’t tell you anything about whether the person wears their heart on their sleeve, is private, controlling, manipulative, loving, introspective, etc. People run a wide gamut, and their chosen profession usually doesn’t tell you much about them more an any stereotype about any other group of people.
Wall I invite u to watch Frozen 2 w/ me!
I’m touched by the invitation! I will be there in spirit; please let me know what you thought of it.
Disney employs some good songwriters. From Dumbo to Frozen, it’s a rare Disney film without a few good numbers.
Why can’t I focus on study when I stay with my friends???
Because they are great friends and just too much fun! Three possible solutions: find some study buddies who aren’t your regular friends, but are very serious students; make a pact with your friends to study for x amount of time and reward yourselves with a specific fun activity; or make studying a solitary habit, and meet up with your friends later.
My friends make me so stupid happy everyday!
Mine do too; ridiculously stupid happy. Revel in it!
How to deal with intense stress caused by ppl around you?
It sounds like you know what the cause of this intense stress is. Try to reduce the amount of contact you have with people who stress you out. If you need space for yourself, try to find a place that is comfortable and peaceful; a space were you can relax, reflect, rest, or study for as long as you want or need to. The libraries have plenty of spaces that are conducive to relaxation, study or reflexion. My favorite is the area located at the 4th floor’s north end, where the soft chairs are. You ought to try it!
What do you do when your friend group got too much DRAMA
Groups of friends can be volatile sometimes. If you all have a commitment to sticking together, those can be times of growth. Sadly, they can also be times of rupture. You could let your friends know you want to help people build bridges, but you need a break of, say, a day or a week to regain equilibrium & perspective, then you’ll be ready to come back and help.
…other BC students who are looking for off-campus housing?…
ResLife has a database for that! bit.ly/BCNeedRoomie and click on “search for roommates.”
爱你! ài nǐ! [Love you!]
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It makes me feel all warm inside to be the bearer of these messages of love!
Why don’t boys like me? :(
It is human nature to fixate on negative feedback, but the Wall knows two things. 1) You’re great! 2) There are lots of possible someones for everyone. Keep seeking and you will find.
My best friend’s coming visit me from Williamsburg!! I’m so happy!!
Such good news! I hope you have a wonderful time together. Make sure you bring your bestie to visit me.
I’m so sad.
? Mourn the loss of the relationship, and give yourself a little time before starting another. Meanwhile, I hope you’ve got some friends with whom you can talk about it.
How to make my girlfriend happier
It depends on why your girlfriend is unhappy. If you’re worried about her, you could try asking about it, and whether there’s anything you can do to help. But pay attention to the response you get, because your help might not be what’s needed. Also take a moment to think about your motivation: are you asking because your girlfriend being happier would make you more comfortable? If it’s actually about how you feel rather than how she feels, that’s a totally different conversation and you should have them separately.
Do you think that ethical, consensual, nonmonogamous sex could be considered a problem?
I think it would depend on who you asked. My helpers have a variety of opinions about that issue. Consensual and ethical are minimums, it’s the non-monogamy that gets complicated when you move from theory to relating to real human beings. (BTW, I answered this very question on 10/2 and 10/8. You can always visit my blog to see questions you might have missed in their physical manifestation right here: library.bc.edu/answerwall.)
My roommate is easy to be annoyed…
🙁 I’m really sorry to hear that. People can be very mean. If the situation is really as bad as it seems, I might recommend avoiding this person or looking into a room transfer. Perhaps reach out to your RA or Residential Life directly (bit.ly/res-life). Unfortunately, there are many not-nice people in the world.
How 2 get over AN EX I see on campus everywhere.
Time will take care of the healing, but that doesn’t help you right now. In the immediate term, if you see your ex all over the place, perhaps try to vary your routes and normal hangouts to avoid them. Pick up new hobbies or clubs to keep your mind occupied. You’ll meet new people through these and find yourself thinking about your ex less and less. If they’re in your classes, all I can recommend is changing up your seat to sit far away from them. I believe in you!
Why does my bf think I sound like I’m from SoCal??
Hollywood’s influence on language is under-appreciated.
怎 么 追 到 女 朋 友?
Wooing a woman is a lot like making a friend. Start small. Invite her to an event with a group. If that goes well, invite her to get coffee or ice cream with you. If that goes well, try a cultural event like a concert or film or lecture, which involves finding out about her interests. The BC events calendar can be useful: events.bc.edu. And so on… Sometimes it’s as simple as hanging out or going for a walk. Be honest & respectful, and have fun.
Ah, good point. This writer should be asking how to woo a 女孩 (girl). If he’s looking for a 女朋友 (girlfriend), that could imply she’s already a girlfriend of someone else! (I supposed he meant he was looking for his future-girlfriend, but that might sound as if he’s going to undertake time-travel.)
How do I invite him to the club????
Straightforwardly? “Hi, would you like to go to the club?” Have some dates and times in mind, so you’re ready to answer that question. And tell a friend what you’re planning, so you have someone you can tell about The Ask whether it’s a success or not.
My high school crush, whom I was too nervous to ask out, got touchy-feely with me at a recent party and seemed really into me, though she has had a boyfriend for the past 2 years.
Be straightforward about this. Your reasons and language about it are good: “I really like you, but you have been with {boyfriend} for 2 years; I don’t want to invade your relationship. What are your thoughts?” Be prepared to find out she doesn’t think there is anything wrong with having a boyfriend and having some casual fun with you. In that case, you need to decide what your stance on that is.