How do I distinguish between friends of the ~GOOD~ and friends of the utility?

I’m afraid I invested in the wrong relationships over the last 3.75 years. 🙁

It sounds like something happened that has broken your trust with friends. ? I’m really sorry that happened. If some friends are not maintaining contact as much as you’d like during this crisis, I’d advise giving them some room. We’re all reacting to this in different ways. Some are reaching out, others are closing down. As to how to pick friends? Extend trust & see what happens. Sadly, there’s no formula.

I have a crush on my professor

I have a crush on my professor What do I do?
I have a crush on my professor What do I do?

This one is best left to the realm of daydream and fantasy; turning this into a reality – even if possible – could have disasterous effects under the University’s revised Consensual Relationship Policy: bit.ly/RelationshipPol

Prof. [redacted] is hot
Prof. [redacted] is hot

Even so, still not ok. Learning to have self control and not act on all your desires is part of adulting.

My roommate’s girlfriend REFUSES to acknowledge that they’re dating when they have been – obviously – for several weeks.

My roommate's girlfriend REFUSES to acknowledge that they're dating when they have been - obviously - for several weeks. I think it's kind of mean. He says he doesn't care, but he really likes her and is afraid to push the question because he doesn't want to lose her. So, is this normal?? And should I say something? Girls are so confusiing.
My roommate’s girlfriend REFUSES to acknowledge that they’re dating when they have been – obviously – for several weeks. I think it’s kind of mean. He says he doesn’t care, but he really likes her and is afraid to push the question because he doesn’t want to lose her. So, is this normal?? And should I say something? Girls are so confusiing.

You don’t need to say or do anything other than continuing to be a supportive friend. It’s curious the woman in question doesn’t want to acknowledge dating your friend, but sometimes people don’t want to go public with these things right away; to protect the new relationship and to treasure it for a while without outside commentary/input.

What’s wrong to like a friend?

What's wrong to like a friend?
What’s wrong to like a friend?

Nothing is wrong. However, you may have some awkward moments. Changing the stakes of a relationship can lead one or both to feeling uncomfortable if the terms aren’t clear. Communicate openly & honestly, and be prepared to resume “just friends” if the other person isn’t comfortable with the change.

I am a lonely graduate student :'(

I am a lonely graduate student :'(
I am a lonely graduate student :'(

Grad school can be a lonely time, but there are ways to make it better. Try some events held by The Office of Graduate Student Life (bit.ly/BC-graduate-life) – Waffle Wednesdays sound very appealing! Also, you could talk to the staff at Murray House, who have creating community among grad students at BC as part of their mission.

Last Date ideas?

Last Date ideas? [Wall themed please]
Last Date ideas? [Wall themed please]

I suppose if the decision was reached mutually and you both want to establish a new mode of “just friends,” I’d say do something that just friends commonly do. Sports, for instance, keep you occupied without demanding much emotional engagement. Maybe take lessons at a climbing wall? But if you’re talking about a breakup date, it’s going to suck no matter where you’ve gone, so why sweat the location, other than making sure there are enough walls to provide some privacy. There will be tears.

Abandoned BU Bridge
Abandoned BU Bridge

For a breakup? Huh. Sounds creepy. If you’re gonna break up, at least do it somewhere warm with sugary treats.

What to do if I don’t like my friends anymore?

What to do if I don't like my friends anymore?
What to do if I don’t like my friends anymore?

We grow, we change. It’s ok to move on and make new friends. I would give it some time, though, to make sure that you’re just not in a mood where everything is annoying you. And not burn bridges or ghost people. Old friends turn up later on, and that can be a beautful thing.

How do I let a guy know I like him

How do I let a guy know I like him
How do I let a guy know I like him

Men are baffling. Capable both of interpreting any possible hint as interest and of missing the most obvious signs. Ultimately you’re going to have to tell him and see how he responds. If you’ve been just hanging out, maybe invite him on something that is unmistakably a date?

I fall in love with my TA What should I do?

I fall in love with my TA What should I do?
I fall in love with my TA What should I do?

I think this is going to have to be “the one that got away.” BC policy states”the policy prohibits any faculty member, employee, graduate assistant, or undergraduate teaching assistant from engaging in a romantic or sexual relationship, or in any romantic or sexual conduct, with any individual whom they supervise, teach, advise, evaluate, counsel, or coach” http://bit.ly/BCRevConsent

Why do I keep falling for the same type of guy?

Why do I keep falling for the same type of guy?
Why do I keep falling for the same type of guy?

I gather that this type of guy is not the right type of guy for you. You can start by making an appointment with University Counseling, or find a private therapist to help you work through this pattern. And write down a list of the most important qualities in a good partner/friend for you. Also think about that boy from your younger days who you really liked in a platonic way — what was he like? Would someone like him appeal to you today, romantically? Consider mixing up your BC social life a bit. You may encounter some new faces that will surprise you.  It’s a tough process, but good to face if you know you’re on the wrong path.

Will Nick and Rachel get married?

Will Nick and Rachel get married?
Will Nick and Rachel get married?

For the most likely birth decades for those marrying now, Nicholas was the 19th most popular baby name for boys in the 80s, and Rachel was the 16th most popular for girls. In the 90s, Nicholas jumped to 6th, while Rachel inched upward to 15th. That’s a lot of Nicks and Rachels out there, so the likelihood of a Nick/Rachel marriage is quite high. BTW, this data comes from the Social Secuirty Administration (bit.ly/SSANamesData) and it’s fun to play with.

How do I divorce my direct roommate?

How do I divorce my direct roommate?
How do I divorce my direct roommate?

Sorry it’s not working! “Students with roommate concerns should first speak with their Resident Assistant, who will work with them to mediate roommate conflicts. If the mediation process is not successful, students should then speak with their Resident Director, who will evaluate the situation to determine if a room change is necessary and, if so, assist students with that process.” bit.ly/BCHousingProb