Category: Relationships

You make friends the same way those in any other major do- talk to people, find common interests, and let the friendships grow. You probably won’t find a friend that is interested in all of the same things you like. You might start by finding different people to share your different interests. Some of those get togethers are likely to grow into more meaningful and rich friendships.

Whether you are out of someone’s league is not something you can know, and it’s really just a variation on whether you’ll get along. Go for it if you want to, it’s the only way to find out.

It’s hard, but sometimes you’ve got to do it. If it’s a close friend, you really should talk with them, and be honest but as gentle as you can. Sometimes (only if it is the truth), you can leave the door open for renewing the friendship when things change in your lives; it does happen, even after bad friend breakups. Though “ghosting” or just disappearing from someone’s life is currently in disfavor, you can gradually reduce your contact with less close friends and the friendship often just fades away.

Desperate is not usually a good look, but it tends to be more important to be out and doing things that have you meeting people than anything else. The Wall has been here many years, and has seen much. There is more than one someone for everyone.

Maybe. There are certainly couples that do make it work. But it takes work and commitment from both sides. I recommend setting up regular video chat dates so that you can see each other. Seeing a loved one’s facial expressions or the way the laugh is a lot more powerful than just hearing them talk. And have these dates regularly. So regularly that they get boring because you have nothing to talk about. That’s what an in-person relationship is like at times. It’s not always an exciting day.

Directly. Cheerfully. Non-judgmentally. Everyone gets to like what they like. If you talk about it, you might be able to come to a compromise that works for both of you. If you don’t talk about it, you won’t, and it would be sad not to try.

If you know you are the GF in the earlier question, then you and your partner must be discussing the behavior mentioned. I am very relieved to know that you and your GF are being thoughtful and open about how your relationship is going. As long as that is the case, you will need very little advice from me or others.

I don’t think I’ve ever met Matteo, so it’s hard to say why he won’t mind his own business. Maybe he’s just more interested in your business than his own? And wouldn’t that be kind of flattering? To a point? It sounds like he crosses a line, though. If he’s interested in everybody’s business (an incurable gossip), I recommend discretion and careful listening. (And *never* reveal his sources, or else the well will dry up.) This eagle understands you, though.

Ask him how he’s doing. If he says he’s fine and he’d really rather just be in the room, that’s up to him. If you want to do something with him, consider doing something together without going out – multiplayer video, board games, cards, stream a film through movies.bc.edu or check out a dvd from the library. If you’re concerned about his well-being, check in with counseling to hear what they recommend: bit.ly/BC-counseling.

Nothing like a tantrum to tell the world how you feel. My mother once made me stand in the corner (no small feat for a wall). Perhaps your GF has had success with childlike behavior and so continues to act that way to get what she wants. Rather than giving in, you might act like a parent and tell her that she won’t get what she wants until she behaves appropriately.