If your friends can’t respect that, there’s a big problem with them. Peer pressure to use drugs is ugly enough to begin with, without adding the risk of allergic reactions to the mix. It’s just a few days away, but I hope you can be firm about your intentions and get some agreement from them before heading there. And have a fantastic trip!
Should I have Connor
Should you go to the Connors Family Learning Center for tutoring in a huge variety of subjects? YES! Oh, is that not what you meant? IDK, because I don’t know who Connor is & whether or not they’d like to be had by you. It’s kind of contingent on that.
Fell in love w/ my Kairos lead?
My understanding is that Kairos retreat leaders are fellow students, so it doesn’t seem like there’s an issue – why not ask him/her out and see where it goes? You already know you have interests in common.
I want to feel less self-conscious
I get you – there are days when I feel like everyone is staring at me. Oh, wait – they are. But in your case, if it is negatively affecting your life a lot, talk to Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling).
I wanna a Girlfriend <3 --Girl xxx
Judging by posts lately, you are so not alone. Hold on for a bit and see what the springtime brings. The Wall will keep you company while you wait.
Will _____ _____ ever love me back?
My cousin, The Magic 8 Ball, says “Cannot predict now.” It’s painful to love someone and not have them reciprocate. But please don’t let your unrequited love keep you from doing what you want to do in life, or keep you from considering relationships with other people.
I’m always fighting with my friend. Love her, but it’s tiring. Help
Everyone deserves some love, but everyone also deserves some space. Please let your friend know that you need a break sometimes. If she’s crossing boundaries, let her know that, too. Ask yourself an honest question: am I trying to control my friend? If the answer is yes, give her some room.
My friend broke up. What do I do??? Anyone wanna get boba?? Date??
Everybody handles breakups differently. Some people hide, some people want to line up the next date, some people want comfort food like boba. You can ask how to help, actually, it’s probably better.
MY ROOMMATE IS IGNORING ME – WHAT DO I DO?
Living in close quarters can be hard for everyone, especially when expectations are different. If you feel like it warrants addressing, invite your roommate to talk about their expectations & explain your own. You might want your roommate to be a close friend, and your roommate might want you to be someone they share space with equitably. If that’s the case, you might just need to seek close friendships elsewhere.
My best friend won’t talk to me. What should I do?
I am sorry to hear that you are in a perplexing situation. I think that the best way to move forward would be to be communicate with them- ask them what is bothering them, or if the situation calls for it, apologize. Everyone processes conflict differently, so be aware that a resolution might take time.
Why does BC have so many fuckboys?
It is certainly a sterotypical view that college students (of all genders) tend to be more promiscuous than the population as a whole. Obviously, stereotypes aren’t true for every individual and often not true on any level. I don’t know if BC has a larger population of male students that are looking for no-strings-attached relationships than any other large college. It can certainly feel frustrating if you’re looking for something else in a potential partner. Perhaps if you are looking for more depth in your relationships, you can try striking up friendships to assess a potential partner before moving to more romantic relationship. You will find someone – I believe in you.
How do I talk to someone I like but never see? (they’re on campus)
Looks like your choices are social media or playing it old-school: phone or (gasp) writing a letter. But perhaps during one of those encounters the two of you might possibly settle on a time to meet for coffee? I hope you get to spend some IRL time together soon.
Why does Tom Brady kiss his kids like that?
It is a bit unusual I’ll admit… But every family has their own kinds of relationships and interactions. Brady kisses his own father on the mouth, so he probably doesn’t think anything weird of it at all. Some would argue that we should be celebrating that a father is so willing to show such intimate affection for his son. But the Wall does recognize that this kind of display is more intimate than many people are used to. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Why is my mom so freaking awesome?
I bet she works very hard at her awesomeness (though probably some of it is innate.) In any case, lucky, lucky you,. Make sure she knows how you feel about it. I may have mentioned before, my Mom is a sea wall on the North Shore, and she is mega awesome, too – you should see her in a storm surge!
I love my boyfriend so much. how can I show my love for him in creative ways?
Are you arty? You can draw him a picture on a tiny notecard, or paint a landscape on a small piece of watercolor paper. Like theatre or music? Then tickets to a show. Have any culinary skills? Cook him a meal. Not so much on the creative curve, but if he has a car — fill up his tank.
How to show interest in someone w/out being over bearing
What you’re looking for is a nearly impossible balance. Which is worse, to err on the side of subtle and not be noticed, or to err on the side of too obvious but be rejected? Overbearing only happens if you’re overly persistent in the face of rejection. The Wall says: be flamboyant. Stake everything on love. (But let a close friend know you might need their shoulder if it falls flat.)
^HOW Should I break up with my boyfriend?
If you’re still wondering whether you should, ask yourself two questions: can I live with his faults? Can I live without his virtues? If the answers are anything but “yes” and “no,” this relationship will end eventually, and it’s up to you when you want that to happen. If you’re certain, then the answer is soon, unequivocally, and with clear reasons. Be as gentle as circumstances allow, but be firm. There will be tears, but that’s OK. You might want to make sure a close friend is available for the aftermath.
How should I tell my clingy and mean friend to leave me alone?
Many friendships morph or fizzle. But in our world of screens (social media/texting) this stuff can be tough. You’re probably familiar with the avoidance dance. How about the honest and direct (in person!), “I don’t like how you’ve been treating me.” Really hard. But you may learn more about that “friend” and yourself after that.
The cutie on the tech desk. See you on the 14th :)
Hi, sorry about the delay, but your post-it got lost among the bonanza of this week’s questions. I hope everything worked out on Valentine’s Day, and everyone lived happily ever after. (Note: I’ve had my assistants remove some potentially identifying information from this question.)
ahhhhhh ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh call me ;)
I’m not much of a matchmaker; I think you’re looking for one of those online services I’ve heard of?