Category: Relationships

You should talk about the person you are with. After all, the point of a first date is to get to know each other. Hopefully the other person will also ask you questions, so it feels like a date and not a one-sided interrogation. Above all, have fun!

It seems likely that you have have a much broader experience with the world than he does, and I suspect that plays a large role in the disconnect between you two on this one facet of your relationship. I don’t know how serious you are, or your life situation, but it might do you both some good to explore your native culture together. That could be as simple as scheduling video chats with your friends and family back home for the two of you, or as extravagant as having him come visit you in your home country. Seeing the human side of the “other” is a powerful way to break down privileged views of your own culture. It’s doubtful that he or his family mean any ill will when they take you in as a guest. It’s worth noting that simply by the fact that this is their home country, they will have more institutionalized power and comfort than you. I don’t think that’s right, but the opposite would be true if he were an international student in your country. No matter what, I think it’s important that you’re honest with him about your feelings. If the relationship is important, he will take them to heart. If not, then perhaps you’ve done yourself a favor long term.

Hi, how are you doing?

I hope so, if that’s what you want. You certainly deserve love. For predictions, I recommend talking to my good friend the magic 8-ball. I’m good at information, but not so good at predictions.

You’re awesome! So are friends. I’m happy to be your friend. If you want even more friends, I recommend doing things in groups that interest you, being yourself (because did I mention you’re awesome?), and looking for opportunities to chat. I’ve never been much of a mingling-type, myself (people have called me a wallflower), but I’ve found if I listen carefully & respond thoughtfully, I make friends in spite of my quiet, contemplative nature.

You must be looking for my distant cousin, the Magic 8-Ball (ask8ball.net). I wish you the best of luck in all of your endeavors.

Should you go to the Connors Family Learning Center for tutoring in a huge variety of subjects? YES! Oh, is that not what you meant? IDK, because I don’t know who Connor is & whether or not they’d like to be had by you. It’s kind of contingent on that.

Judging by posts lately, you are so not alone. Hold on for a bit and see what the springtime brings. The Wall will keep you company while you wait.

Everyone deserves some love, but everyone also deserves some space. Please let your friend know that you need a break sometimes. If she’s crossing boundaries, let her know that, too. Ask yourself an honest question: am I trying to control my friend? If the answer is yes, give her some room.

Everybody handles breakups differently. Some people hide, some people want to line up the next date, some people want comfort food like boba. You can ask how to help, actually, it’s probably better.

Living in close quarters can be hard for everyone, especially when expectations are different. If you feel like it warrants addressing, invite your roommate to talk about their expectations & explain your own. You might want your roommate to be a close friend, and your roommate might want you to be someone they share space with equitably. If that’s the case, you might just need to seek close friendships elsewhere.