Come out when it’s the right time for you and you are ready, but know that your Mom might decide to raise the issue. Or she might wait for you to take the lead on it, even if she knows. Figure out in advance what you might say if she asks you, either directly or obliquely. If you want someone to talk to, you can contact Caroline Davis (caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470) at the Office of Student Outreach and Support Services.
Hello! I am a teen boy and I am sexually attracted to male (not female at all), but I want to date male and female.
I am attracted to female, but not sexually. I am confused.
Sexuality, attraction, and dating are confusing issues, especially at this point in your life. The Office of Student Outreach and Support Services has great resources that you may find useful (bit.ly/LBGTQBC), I just had a nice chat with them, because I wasn’t sure what was available during shutdown, and they advise either calling 617-552-3470 and asking for Caroline Davis or emailing her at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu.
There is a man I cannot get off my mind.
I think he likes me as well, I always find him watching me. So, we have been messaging one another during the quarantine. He sent me a message saying, “I know you will meet a great man”. Could he be talking about himself? Thank you wall and Happy 4th of July. Desperately Seeking a Man
It’s always hard to decide what to do in these situations: risk heartbreak on a gamble for love, or go the safe route and risk missing out on love and adventure. If you want to go for it, perhaps you could message him: “I think you’re a great man,” and see where it leads. Happy (very) belated 4th, and may love be on your side.
Hey Wall it’s me again, I don’t have the strength to tell him how I feel. Every time I open up to a man it always back fires. For once in my life I wish a man that I am interested in would make the first move. It would make my life so much better. Any-who, thank you for listening?. Chit chat with you soon.
Sigh… I understand. If it were easy, there wouldn’t be so many poems, songs, and stories about unrequited love, longing, and heartbreak. Let Etta James wash you in her tears: bit.ly/Etta-Sunday
How do I reserve a locker for the 20-21 year?
I went to fill out the form but it’s still for last year. Is there a new form yet?
Locker registration for Fall-Spring 2020-21 will open on Monday, August 31st. The form has been updated to reflect this. Thanks for contacting us.
What if you fall in love with a wall?
No, I did not fall in love with the wall, I’m just curious.
I have fallen hard for walls in my past, though I currently have a not-so-secret crush on the lobby door. A long term, sustainable human/wall relationship sounds problematic to me. While walls can be very solid and supportive, after a while I could see you crying to your BFF, “It’s like talking to a wall….”
Sad Alumn: I am going to med school and can never return to O’Neil.
How will I cope without being in my rightful place?
Congrats on med school! You’re always welcome to come back and visit, whenever that might be! And I’m sure you’ll find other places to be at home in the world. When you do, drop me a line. I look forward to hearing about your new rightful places.
Mama geese and papa geese and baby geese! They’re cute, aren’t they?
I love them, thanks for sharing! Did you know Canada geese mate for life?
Hey Wall! I don’t think I’ll ever be able to visit you physically.
I live in Michigan, and found your page by chance. I wish you all the best, and appreciate what you do for all the anonymous peoples. P.S. My cat says hi!
How exciting that you found me by chance! Thank you for your kind wishes, and I wish you and your charming cat all the best, too .
Hey wall! I forgot to ask you what did you do for Father’s Day?
And who’s your dad?
Thanks for asking! I had a lovely Zoom chat with my Dad, who is a load-bearing interior wall of a formal dining room in a prewar classic 6 on the upper east side in Manhattan. I was pleased to see that he’s holding up well.
Hey wall. i have a crush on a boy from my apartment but we both dont know each other very much.
his mom and my mom knows each other. and i want to start a friendship with him. how can i start?
Don’t overthink it. Say hello sometime and talk to him about anything other than you having a crush on him. Good luck!
Hey wall, I have been dating this older man for a few months, but I’m scared to tell him that I love him and care about him deeply. What do I do?
Hey! That is one of the standard romantic problems. You never get a guarantee about how someone will react. If you tell him, you’ll know. If he’s not in the same place as you emotionally, that’s something you should know too. It might be awkward, it might be bad, it might be really great. Those are, unfortunately, the breaks.
I’m a senior that needs to overload next year to graduate on time.
If I have above a 3.0, can I just register for the 6th course during add/drop week or do I need to go talk to someone for approval before registering?
It looks like you can go ahead and add the course either if your cumulative gpa is at least 3.0 or your prior semester was at least 3.0. However, I advise you to talk to your adviser right away, to make sure there aren’t any other potential bars to an overload. Policy: bit.ly/BC-academic-policy
i loved a boy too much.
but he never loved me and he was just acting that he loves me too. why is it like this?
🙁 I’m sorry this happened to you. You deserve the honest love of someone that truely cares about you. Unfortunately, some people simply don’t have the emotional insight to understand how their actions affect others. I know there will be others and that someone – many people – are out there for you. The wall does not believe in only one true love, there are good partners out there for you.
My study abroad got cancelled (well, at least for the fall semester)
… not sure about the second half spring semester……Won’t BC campus be overcrowded with students now no one is going abroad? Or are we expecting a smaller freshman class size? Btw, can I sleep in the library if I don’t have on-campus housing? Just don’t feel like living off-campus!
The FAQ on the Study Abroad cancellation (bit.ly/BCAbroadFAQ) says you will hear from Student Services and ResLife regarding classes and housing. Contact them if you have questions. Living in the library is not going to be an option, as much of the library space will be needed to accommodate socially distanced study as well as other uses (maybe even classes.) There’s no denying that Fall is going to be a challenge for everyone.
How do kids trick-or-treat this year with the pandemic going on?
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Depending on where the pandemic’s at in mid-fall, my guess is that many neighborhoods will host alternative activities that can be more easily regulated for safety. There could also be contactless trick or treating (ring bell, run away; kids already know that trick.) They will certainly have the opportunity to get very creative with masks! https://bit.ly/bc-candy. And I hesitate to point this out because of the potential for terrible song refrains it might help create, but Halloween rhymes with nineteen…
Hey Wall! Don’t you find it problematic that the institution sends its police to criminalize those who stand against the injustice and those who are suffering?
Also, don’t you think sending BCPD after students in distress can be traumatizing? Isn’t it hypocritical to teach its students to care for the poor, suffering, and oppressed while simultaneously criminalize those who speak up against the injustice? And how do you expect students who suffer to ask for help when the institution uses BCPD against them at the very first place?
That’s a lot of questions and concerns all at once, all of which would require separate lines of inquiry. But the shared theme is an ethical question: should an organization whose principal purpose is enforcement of laws and rules, and whose primary means of enforcement is threat of detainment or arrest, also be tasked with roles better suited to organizations primarily concerned with health and social welfare?
Maybe we should just abolish BCPD and replace them with security guards, what do you think?
If there is a documentary that I want to watch but can’t find the free version online, can the library help with it?
How do we request a documentary through the library?
Check out our streaming video collections first–we’ve got lots of documentaries that don’t show up in other video sites. http://bit.ly/2pEI1pO. Then if we don’t have it you can put in a request: http://bit.ly/itemsuggestion.
BC Libraries Home Page
http://library.bc.edu
Thanks for posting the link – it’s a great place to find out what we’re doing to keep library services going and resources available during the shutdown, and the place to start your research any time.
Hey wall! What’s the best post-it you’ve ever received?
What are your librarians’ favorite thing ab being a librarian and their most memorable event?
Such a hard question! I have many favorites. Among them: all the ones that say “I love you,” drawings, posts in which people were honest and vulnerable, and lately I’ve been thinking about an excerpt from a Chinese poem: bit.ly/bc-prior-dynasty. But I love all questions! That’s why I’m the Answer Wall. Librarians are the same: they love finding answers.
Awwwwwww!?????????? Hey Wall, will the library be open next semester?
That’s the tentative plan. My cousin the Magic 8 Ball says “Signs point to yes”, but the course of the pandemic is quite uncertain. We’ll need to be flexible. I do so look forward to seeing you all again in the lobby. ??????????