Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Yes, we’re aware of the pesky squeakers and are taking action, but I will alert the administration to this new sighting. I do think it’s exciting that the mousie has an interest in Asian Languages.
I am only sorry for your own sake that you spend so much time talking to a wall. (Metaphorically speaking.) I will pass along whatever information my assistants are able to glean.
Please, if you know of someone who is engaging in self-harming behavior, tell them that a leave of absence is not punitive: it is a recognition that the student needs some time to focus on healing & seek a greater degree of support
Update from Dean of Students Office: “No, in almost every instance, the Dean of Students Office and other offices on campus work with students to get them connected with the appropriate resources on or off campus and supports them through that process. BC’s Involuntary Leave of Absence Policy is only employed in extreme circumstances. If you would like to discuss this more, including the ways that staff in the Dean of Students Office support students, please contact Caroline Davis, Associate Dean for Student Outreach & Support at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470 or by stopping by 448 Maloney Hall to schedule an appointment.”
I’m sorry you’re having an unpleasant experience with the Office of International Programs. I would hazard a guess that any office that tries to arrange hundreds of students’ travel and study to countries with a dizzying variety of visa and academic requirements might have a hard time providing perfect service. If you have a complaint about their personnel or procedures, I recommend contacting them directly: oip@bc.edu.
Should you go to the Connors Family Learning Center for tutoring in a huge variety of subjects? YES! Oh, is that not what you meant? IDK, because I don’t know who Connor is & whether or not they’d like to be had by you. It’s kind of contingent on that.
My understanding is that Kairos retreat leaders are fellow students, so it doesn’t seem like there’s an issue – why not ask him/her out and see where it goes? You already know you have interests in common.
On average, people pass gas about 10-20 times per day. It is possible you are not farting more than usual; you’re just noticing it in class because it’s embarrassing. You can try releasing gas before class (outside or in a bathroom is less noticeable). You might also track what you eat and see if particular foods should be avoided. If you are experiencing other health issues such as diarrhea, constipation, weight loss, etc., see a doctor to make sure your gas is not a symptom of a larger issue.
I will do the best I can. I’ve had my assistants contact offices who might have some answers, but you will likely need to do some follow-up work to get more complete ones than will fit on a post-it.
None of the above? I don’t actually have a body, but if I did have one, I wouldn’t want to be introducing things like that into it.
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I get you – there are days when I feel like everyone is staring at me. Oh, wait – they are. But in your case, if it is negatively affecting your life a lot, talk to Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling).
I don’t know if anyone is holding it up, but the BC Notice of Nondiscrimination recommends that people “…are welcome to raise any questions regarding this notice with the Executive Director for Institutional Diversity.” That person is Patricia Lowe, patricia.lowe@bc.edu , 617-552-3334
Judging by posts lately, you are so not alone. Hold on for a bit and see what the springtime brings. The Wall will keep you company while you wait.
I am neither judge nor jury in that case, so the answer will have to wait until the process is complete.
I’m sorry you’re feeling that bad. Please contact the suicide hotline (800-273-8355) right away, and/or immediately call Counseling Services (617-552-3310) or visit them in Gasson 001 and ask to speak to with the Psychological Emergency Clinician (PEC). If it’s not during work hours, call BC Police (617-552-4444) if you’re on campus or 911 if not. I and many, many people want you to get past this bad moment, and are ready to help.
What a set of terrible choices. Stalin was more competent, but that’s not really an advantage in dictators. Nope, wouldn’t wish either on the USA.
My cousin, The Magic 8 Ball, says “Cannot predict now.” It’s painful to love someone and not have them reciprocate. But please don’t let your unrequited love keep you from doing what you want to do in life, or keep you from considering relationships with other people.
Everyone deserves some love, but everyone also deserves some space. Please let your friend know that you need a break sometimes. If she’s crossing boundaries, let her know that, too. Ask yourself an honest question: am I trying to control my friend? If the answer is yes, give her some room.
Everybody handles breakups differently. Some people hide, some people want to line up the next date, some people want comfort food like boba. You can ask how to help, actually, it’s probably better.
That’s a terrific thought for your fellow students to keep in mind. Sometimes we lose track of the big picture! Thanks, and keep on learning.
Living in close quarters can be hard for everyone, especially when expectations are different. If you feel like it warrants addressing, invite your roommate to talk about their expectations & explain your own. You might want your roommate to be a close friend, and your roommate might want you to be someone they share space with equitably. If that’s the case, you might just need to seek close friendships elsewhere.
