How do you know if you’re deeply infatuated w/ someone or actually in love?

How do you know if you're deeply infatuated w/ someone or actually in love? -PS Asked this b4 but never got to see the answer
How do you know if you’re deeply infatuated w/ someone or actually in love? -PS Asked this b4 but never got to see the answer

I’d say if you’re overwhelmingly fixated on what you like about someone, to the point of idolizing them, you are likely infatuated with them. This sometimes involves not paying much attention to things that would be considered negative. An example is possibly deciding to ignore the fact that someone you’re infatuated with clearly doesn’t respect you. Love often involves having a more comprehensive understanding of someone you’re affectionate towards. There may be things about them you don’t like, but you’re willing to accept their faults because you want to build and maintain a healthy relationship with them.

I am so burned out :(

I am so burned out :( I just can't care less about my classes
I am so burned out 🙁 I just can’t care less about my classes

Take some time for self-care, focusing on your mental health and general wellness. Give yourself some time and prioritize yourself, and you’ll be back to caring about classes before you know it. Then you can make a plan to keep self-care strategies a routine part of your life to prevent burn-out in the future.

How do I live in NYC & not be broke?

How do I live in NYC & not be broke?
How do I live in NYC & not be broke?

Makes me so grateful to live here, rent-free… Strategies to get by in NYC might include: having a lot of roommates, living in a less expensive borough like The Bronx or Queens, keeping to a tight budget and learning about personal finance to minimize your other expenses, and possibly having a side hustle.

Как стать успешным??????

Как стать успешным? (How to become successful?)
Как стать успешным? (How to become successful?)

You need to define what you mean by success: earn money, perfect a craft, become powerful, create art, build a family, achieve true happiness, be honest and humble… . Then learn what it would take to achieve your goals, and be single minded about taking all the necessary steps. No guarantees, though! Life happens.

Hi! I am wondering why the men’s restroom on 4th floor, which is widely used, is in a poorer sanitary condition than the men’s room on 2nd floor, which looks way cleaner and more luxurious? Thanks!

Hi! I am wondering why the men's restroom on 4th floor, which is widely used, is in a poorer sanitary condition than the men's room on 2nd floor, which looks way cleaner and more luxurious? Thanks!
Hi! I am wondering why the men’s restroom on 4th floor, which is widely used, is in a poorer sanitary condition than the men’s room on 2nd floor, which looks way cleaner and more luxurious? Thanks!

I think you answered your own question. The 4th floor restrooms are heavily used and smaller than the ones on the 2nd and 5th floors. Their heavy and concentrated use makes it very difficult to keep the 4th floor facilities clean and in good repair. I guess sometimes being popular isn’t such a great thing.

Am I stupid?

Am I stupid? (Response:: No, of course! Only smart guys will ask this question.)
Am I stupid? (Response:: No, of course! Only smart guys will ask this question.)

I agree with the comment–that tends not to be a question people ask, unless they’re at least a little self-reflective. Humility, and being able to admit what you don’t know, are important marks of intellectual maturity. No need to beat yourself up about it though.

I’m so glad that you don’t mind the Halloween balloon! It looks great on / by the Answer Wall! <3

I'm so glad that you don't mind the Halloween balloon! It looks great on / by the Answer Wall!
I’m so glad that you don’t mind the Halloween balloon! It looks great on / by the Answer Wall! <3 Unlike another office that wasn’t too happy about the surprise (Some sense of humor, pls?) I’m so sad that ppl didn’t enjoy the surprise, also so sorry the balloons triggered BCPD & DOS…. Can you say sorry to them for me??

I and my assistants enjoyed the balloon. I’m sorry other people didn’t enjoy the gesture. Perhaps others aren’t accustomed to receiving missives the way I am? If someone perceived harm through your actions (even if you didn’t intend it), you would need to be the one to apologize. I can’t really do it on your behalf; that’s just the nature of apology.

I’m having a hard time @ BC right now-with classes, friends, clubs, & social life. Any advice?

I'm having a hard time @ BC right now-with classes, friends, clubs, & social life. Any advice? Also, how does everyone seem so put together? (Response: Do your work right after class, use a calendar, start projects/ studying papers 1 week before Don't feel like you're not allowed to take a break from the BC bubble once and a while
I’m having a hard time @ BC right now-with classes, friends, clubs, & social life. Any advice? Also, how does everyone seem so put together? (Response: Do your work right after class, use a calendar, start projects/ studying papers 1 week before Don’t feel like you’re not allowed to take a break from the BC bubble once and a while

BC culture puts a high value on seeming like you have everything together, all the time. Almost no-one does, and, if you look at what your peers post to me, you’ll see there are a lot of hidden problems. But BC also has a lot of various types of help available to you, and I hope you take advantage: CFLC for peer tutoring (bit.ly/BC-connors), University Counseling to discuss having a hard time with everything (bit.ly/BC-counseling).

Why hasn’t Cardinal O’Malley ever come to campus? Are there ever any opportunities for BC students to hear him?

Why hasn't Cardinal O'Malley ever come to campus? Are there ever any opportunities for BC students to hear him?
Why hasn’t Cardinal O’Malley ever come to campus? Are there ever any opportunities for BC students to hear him?

He comes every year for commencement with the exception of 2013, when he protested BC’s choice of commencement speaker, Enda Kenny, the Taoiseach (Prime Minister) of Ireland, over his views on abortion. He also attends C21 events from time to time. One way to hear him is to go to a weekday noon mass at the Archdiocese pastoral center. Call the pastoral center to see if he’ll be at the mass, or whether there are other opportunities to hear him in the area. bit.ly/cardinal-sean

If God is omnipotent, “Alpha + Omega”, doesn’t that mean that, other’s final destination is already pre-determined? Why then continue trying to live a sacred life?!

If God is omnipotent, "Alpha + Omega", doesn't that mean that, other's final destination is already pre-determined? Why then continue trying to live a sacred life?!
If God is omnipotent, “Alpha + Omega”, doesn’t that mean that, other’s final destination is already pre-determined? Why then continue trying to live a sacred life?!

This is a subject of some debate in theological study. The idea of predestination, specifically that where people go after they die has already been decided by God is an idea they many believers don’t accept. Those who don’t agree with this way of thinking may prefer to give more credence to scripture, and the lessons that can be learned from it. As for the question of living in the event predestination were true, I would say everyone has priorities that more or less motivate their actions. While these priorities may not have much importance in regards to the afterlife, they may be important enough to dedicate time and energy towards while alive.