Hey Wall,
So my parents are getting a divorce. I know. Really sucks. But the real problem is this: Should I live with my mom or my dad? My mom got our house, so my dad got an apartment that’s pretty crappy. But I like my dad
better. So should I live in his crappy apartment just because I love him? On one other note, my mom’s a better cook than my dad. So should I go with her because of the better house and food and not because I like her? Oh,also, my annoying little brother already chose to live with my mom. So I don’t like my mom OR my brother, I would just be living w/those two for the good food and nice house. That seems a little selfish to me, don’t you think, wall? But this means that if I lived with my dad, I would be happier without my mom and brother, but the house and food is bad. What do you think, wall? Oh, also, wall! I have this girlfriend, and she’s, like, super rich. I recently proposed to her, but I’m starting to think deeper. Do I really love her? Or am I just marrying her for her money. Wall, marriage is a big step. How do you now if you love somebody? Do you just wake up one day and realize it? Or is it more complicated than that? I am so confused, wall! I also feelreally guilty, because I’m cheating on her with this other guy. I think I like him more than my rich gf, but I’m not really sure. He’s vegan and Buddhist. Now he gets me wondering, should I become vegan? Should I switch from orthodox Jewish to be a buddhist?My mom’s Jewish, so should I switch religions and give up my family for my boyfriend? Sounds like a good idea to me, but what do you think, Wall? We’ve been dating for about two weeks, so I think it’s time to make some changes. I’m also worriedabout what my family with think when I introduce my boyfriend to them. Maybe I should invite him for Thanksgiving, Wall, b/c its coming up. Although, he would not be able to eat anything, because he’s vegan. I’ve also been wondering, what is the meaning of life? And am I enough? I don’t know if I’m enough formy boyfriend. He’s pressuring me into doing something very serious, something I don’t think I’m ready for because I’ve never done it before. He wants me to become vegan. I feel really bad, because I eat cheeseburgers behind his back. Should I behind his back. Should I tell him? I really love cheeseburgers, and I can’t give them up. Wait! Is it possible to be a vegan that still eats cheeseburgers? This gets me thinking that I might need to break up with him. Or should I just bevegan and buddhist to make him happy, and give up on my family? Okay, just one more thing. My dog pooped in my bed the other day. Wall, where do you think is the best placeto get good, cheap detergent around here? I don’t have any and I’ve been wearing the same underwear for a week. I’ve also been sleeping on the floor. So I could really use an answer to the detergent question.
You have an overwhelming number of important questions; you probably feel more than a little overwhelmed. I recommend talking many of these issues through with someone who can be both sympathetic and objective, and help you determine priorities for addressing and making sense of them. Counseling Services would be a good place to start: bit.ly/BC-counseling. For the dog poop I recommend any detergent plus oxy-clean or bleach, both available at any local grocery or drug store.
Girl WTF
It can certainly be startling to see someone else’s internal monologue. Many of us are walking (or standing) around with such internal voices; it takes bravery to make it public, even anonymously, because you never know how people will respond. I was a little surprised myself, but it’s never a mistake to be compassionate.
