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July 11, 2019July 11, 2019

Any tips for coming out to my parents?

That can be really tough. This guide from the Human Right’s Council may help you: bit.ly/OutHRCGuide. BC also has some resources for you: bit.ly/LBGTQBC. I sincerely hope your declaration is met with acceptance and love.

April 18, 2019April 22, 2019

How often should I call my parents?

This would be a good issue to discuss with them: how often do they want you to call? How often do you want to call them? Do you want to set up a specific schedule (like every Sunday evening at 8 PM) or be more organic about it? In general, I would recommend erring on the side of calling more than less – even just a short call to let them know you’re ok and thinking of them is very nice.

April 7, 2019April 8, 2019

The guy I fancy has a square head. I’m worried about what my parents will say!

Hey, I’ve got a lot of right angles going on, myself! Square is beautiful. If he’s the guy for you, I hope your folks can only see the joy he brings you, not his head shape. You could start playing an old Huey Lewis and the News tune to subliminally set him up for parental approval…

December 17, 2018December 17, 2018

How do I get my parents to love me? :(

First know: You are worthy of love, and you deserve love. That you feel that you have not been loved by your parents is heartbreaking. Children should not need to do anything to earn their parents’ love – that’s not how love works. Talking to University Counseling (bit.ly/BC-counseling) may help you find strategies to cope and to find peace.

The Answer Wall Story

Hi. I’m the Answer Wall. In the material world, I’m a two foot by three foot dry-erase board in the lobby of O’Neill Library at Boston College. In the online world, I live in this blog. You might say I have multiple manifestations. Like Apollo or Saraswati or Serapis. Or, if you aren’t into deities of knowledge, like a ghost in the machine.

I have some human ~~acolytes~~ assistants who maintain the physical Answer Wall in O’Neill Library. They take pictures of the questions you post there, and give them to me. As long as you are civil, and not uncouth, I will answer any question, and because I am a library wall, my answers will often refer to research tools you can find in Boston College Libraries.

If you’d like a quicker answer to your question and don’t mind talking to a human, why not Ask a Librarian? Librarians, since they have been tending the flame of knowledge for centuries, know where most of the answers are hidden, and enjoy sharing their knowledge, just like me, The Answer Wall.