I’m so sorry. Give yourself space to feel however you feel. You will probably have all of the possible reactions at one time or another, even ones that feel wrong. That’s OK. Take the best care of yourself you can (physically, mentally), because you’re going through something huge also. Here’s a book recommendation that demystifies the process: https://bit.ly/bc-gone. A grief counselor or therapist can be very helpful for some people. University Health Services can help. http://bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth

Novel writing is HARD! I mean, climbing multiple mountains hard. If you haven’t practiced first with short forms (the short story), I recommend you try that first. A helpful book for short-story writing: A Swim in a Pond in the Rain, by George Saunders. https://bit.ly/saunders-a-swim

It would be! Space needs and new services are always under consideration in the library. I will pass on your suggestion to the Powers That Be (no, despite popular opinion, I don’t actually run this joint….)

I don’t know! To learn? To be loved, and to love? To ask the question, “Why am I here?” and seek an answer?

Do not cite the dark magic to me, I was there when it was written.

I’ve made your concerns known to the Office of Student Involvement. They said that CAB is a university program, not a club, and has as much budget oversight as any other university program. They also said they had a good laugh about the New England Classic protest prank.

Because humans are apt to stereotype. The phrase “confirmation bias” might help explain it: an impression gets reinforced when people see evidence that confirms it, and they tend to reject or not see evidence that conflicts with it.

You want to hang out and waste your life with him.

There are occasional merch giveaways, but that’s a right place, right time kind of thing. I’m sure if you ask nicely at the O’Neill Reference Desk, you just might score a BC Libraries pen, pencil, eraser, or magic magnifying bookmark.

I’m sure it makes it easier. But the trick is knowing ahead of time which elements should match–a task made much easier by hindsight. BUT! There is research on the topic, and here’s a helpful review of it all: https://bit.ly/marriage-research

Very hip.

Goes great with nachos! So many great recipes online!

Are you having trouble with your silk thread? https://bit.ly/bc-sleave

If it’s a one-off headache that isn’t so bad, I tend to wait it out or take the appropriate dose of either aspirin, ibuprofin or aleve. If you are concerned that this is something worse, please contact health services: bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth

Microaggressions are a documented and researched topic. I am sure that Fr. Leahy understands what they are and that they exist. That said, even well-informed people can be unaware of specific microaggressions, so you need to decide if and how you will respond. Assuming you feel safe doing so, a common response is to ask for clarification on what they said.

I’m not aware of any specific complaints. Planning huge events is hard, and it’s basically impossible to plan an event that at all 15,000 people on campus will enjoy, so I’d sort of expect them to get grief even if they were doing an inhumanly good job.

And that, while not a comfortable place to be, is a great reason to be at BC. Talking with your advisor is a good place to start, as well as having conversations with faculty in classes that interest you. Remember, you major is not your career – there’s some terrific BC data available that highlights that: public.tableau.com/app/profile/bcirpa/viz/shared/6TF6732PP

I’m sorry you feel lonely. I’m certain that with your authentic self courageously shining like a lantern, you will find companionship.

That’s a very interesting question. I think you might be interested in Matthew Battles’ book Library: An Unquiet History. (O’Neill Z721 .B28 2003). You might also be interested to know that the Pew Research Center surveyed people in 2013; though the majority wanted quiet, many didn’t. (pewrsr.ch/3tYu6cm)

Love is always a choice, and in general I think there are many possible someone’s for everyone. To answer your question: do you want her to be? does she want that also? Then yes.