WHAT DO I DO IF I STILL THINK & REMINISCE ABOUT AN EX

WHAT DO I DO IF I STILL THINK & REMINISCE ABOUT AN EX WHO DIDN'T WANT ME, EVEN THOUGH MY CURRENT PARTNER IS OBJECTIVELY BETTER FOR ME?
WHAT DO I DO IF I STILL THINK & REMINISCE ABOUT AN EX WHO DIDN’T WANT ME, EVEN THOUGH MY CURRENT PARTNER IS OBJECTIVELY BETTER FOR ME?

Sounds perfectly normal, and I expect it will fade in time. If you find you can’t get over your ex and it is distressing you, you might want to seek counseling (http://bit.ly/BC-counseling) so that you can free your mind for better things.

Do you believe in love, wall?

Do you believe in love, wall? If so, how do you know you're in love????
Do you believe in love, wall? If so, how do you know you’re in love????

I sure DO believe in love! There are so many types of love & it’s hard to say exactly how someone knows they’re in love. Do you feel super happy when you’re with them? Do you feel trusted & safe? Maybe a little butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling? I can’t say for sure how you *know,* but I sense your excitement, and I can’t wait for you to explore this new whatever-it-is! <3

I NEED A PALL MALL –AWAIT

I NEED A PALL MALL --AWAIT
I NEED A PALL MALL –AWAIT

Pall Mall can refer to any number of things (and places), but if you mean the cigarette, I urge you to consider working with the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BC-health-promo) to get over the need to use tobacco. They offer one on one wellness coaching sessions. I’ve seen too many wonderful humans harmed by cigarettes.

Can you tell me more about the Wall?

Hello! I stumbled upon this site on the internet and found what you do incredibly interesting and meaningful. Can you tell me more about the Wall?

I am a Wall! I live in the Boston College O’Neill Library & during the pandemic I hung out exclusively online. My friends who stop by in person fill out post it notes with questions, comments, and *ahem* delightful accolades to my utter wonderfulness. I have a few human assistants who help me reply to all the questions, comments, & accolades. Nothing makes me happier than learning from and engaging with my BC community <3

Will I pass my finals? 🙁

Why I pass my finals? 🙁 *yes u will! ❤*
Will I pass my finals? 🙁 *yes u will! ❤*

I asked my cuz, the Magic 8-Ball®, because she is much better at predictions. She said “most likely.” And you have my best wishes, of course! But I want to reassure you that failing one or more finals in college is not the end of the world, and there are many happy and successful humans roaming the world who failed a test in their past.

Why does Stokes have no water fountains?

Why does Stokes have no water fountains? I had to drink out of the toilet today
Why does Stokes have no water fountains? I had to drink out of the toilet today

Unless you are actually a golden retriever (in which case your handwriting is AMAZING), I don’t recommend that. Water fountains are turned off due to the pandemic, however, you can bring a water bottle and fill it up nearby in Fulton Hall at the water fillers next to the restrooms.

Reconciling Politics Differences

Do you have any advice about how friends can deal with different political positions? Since this is a Jesuit school, there’s definitely more pro-life people. Some people (myself included) find this nearly unreconcilable. With the nearing Supreme Court decision, this debate is going to be at the forefront of the nation. Thoughts?

How do you navigate deep philosophical differences with people you love? There are pretty much two approaches to maintaining these friendships: you can agree to avoid the subject entirely, or you can set ground rules for conversations (e.g. no ad hominem attacks, broaching the subject only with permission, etc.) If neither of those work, friendships can suffer a lot of damage. But in a sense, this is true of any relationship: everyone has at least a few sacred subjects, and if they don’t make it clear how & when their loved ones can broach those subjects without causing pain, or if they do & their loved ones repeatedly trample over those limits, respect & trust suffer.