I think it’s a good sign that she’s openly communicating about the other man she sees in her sleep! You shouldn’t be insecure, it would be much worse if she were hiding this from you.

For building structures such as myself and my beloved (the Lobby Door), a 21 year age gap is quite insignificant. Now, for you humans; it can work or it can be a dysfunctional disaster. It depends very much on the individual circumstances (and ages – 18 & 39 is a whole other kettle of fish than 48 & 69.)

You have the right to expect your partner to treat you the way you want to be treated. One option would be to lay out your expectations and see how he reacts. But all relationships are at will, so sometimes the right answer is to move on.

Sometimes ” end it” is the best option. Working on it – especially communication – is another option to try. As a wall, looking out at humans, I have seen good outcomes with either option.

It’s time when you have the opportunity and when you want to, it’s really not harder than that. You can also change your mind at any time. Other people’s expectations aren’t really relevant to what’s right and comfortable for you.

I’ve been getting this question a lot lately. The part where you’re trying to figure out if the other person is interested is scary, but unavoidable. My advice is 1) talk to more people generally and 2) be direct. “I’d like to ask you on a date to do X” is much easier for everyone involved. There are only two possible answers. One hurts, but one is pretty great. Be brave!