Oh, that would have been so sad. There are always pencils at the Reference Desk (directly across from the Lobby Door).

If they are distressing you and causing problems in your daily life, you might want to schedule an appointment at University Counseling to talk things over. (bit.ly/BC-counseling). Wishing you peace of mind!

Totally up to you whether to have any kind of relationship with an ex. No wrong answer, but don’t think you owe them anything.

Thank you so much for your kind words. As to how I do it? With a lot of help (and it helps that I’m living in a library with access to millions of volumes.)

Friendships can be the most life-giving relationships but if the relationship has changed so that both people are no longer contributing, then it might not be a friendship anymore. It is ultimately up to you to determine if you think the friendship is worth fighting for and rebuilding, or if you want to give it time or let it go.

These are terrific goals! Sounds like Academic Coaching at the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors) would be just the ticket – why not give them a try…

Changing formats like this is a great idea. Maybe try texting if talking in person is too scary? You could also try changing situations. Maybe a quiet place? Maybe a small group instead of a large one? Or maybe bring a friend to make you feel more secure? It’s all good. Figure out what’s comfortable for you.

Wow.. sounds like 5th crazy, then!

Favorite, I am not sure… but Girl from Ipanema is truly an epic hit.

¡ Hola! ¡ Que tenga un buen día!

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Try Ender’s Game and Speaker for the Dead. You might also enjoy Sophie’s World (I just realized we don’t have a copy. Yet. Watch this Post-It, I’ll update it when we have it)

It is anyone’s guess how this will end, but I fear there is very little “win” in most scenarios. I am heartbroken over the destruction and loss of life.

Super disappointing when someone you like doesn’t feel the same way, my sympathy. There are a million possible reasons why two people don’t connect, but zero of them are a judgment of whether you are “enough”. You are fine as you are.

I’m a Wall, and my answer would be simply to be surrounded by as many people as possible that I can support (and get to know!), which means I couldn’t be happier right now. I asked my Library helpers too and they have lots of ideas:

• Good friends
• Even if things seem grim, be optimistic.
• Therapy
• Live with wonder, humility, gratitude, and transparency. Also, love generously and be quick to forgive.
• Laugh often, find moments in the day for reflection.
• Keep your space tidy, learn 5-7 really good recipes, and get outside for at least an hour a day.
• Spend time in the sunshine
• Get out in nature any time you can!
• Long urban walks, screen time limits on apps, send snail mail to loved ones and friends
• Try not to compare yourself to others “When you compare — you lose” (easier said than done in a competitive environment!) Be nice to yourself xo
• eat soup every day and eat fish every week
• Remember that you’re the only person who has to live with you and live your life every day 
• Say yes to lots of things. Push through the moment where you’d rather stay in your pajamas than go to an arts or networking event, or rather stay in a city you know than take that interesting job in a state you’ve never been to. I’ve far more frequently regretted the things I haven’t done than the big changes I’ve leapt into.
• “No legacy is so rich as honesty.” -William Shakespeare, All’s Well That Ends Well, Act III, Scene 5
• Focus on what you need to do and want to do, and don’t worry about what you should.
• Put chips in sandwiches. 
• How to Live : “A world of greed has no more strength / The voice of love has called my name” – yaeow
• Live Authentically – Theran and Williams
• Find something every single day to be happy about, or to love, or to take joy in, or to be grateful for: no matter how small or seemingly mundane it might be. Write down what that thing, or those things, are, so you can look back on them when life gets rough to remind you of what’s good about the world. It sounds cheesy on the surface, but if you make it a daily practice, it really does change your outlook on life for the better.
• Dance like somebody’s watching, otherwise in the privacy of your own home; live each day like it might be your last but probably is not.

Not at all… walls are generally very supportive. Mom and Dad were both overjoyed when I got this gig at Boston College. I’d like to think no parent would be disappointed in their child for not attaining something as chancy as Harvard admission.

2 simple ones: spend more time outdoors, and spend more time with people.

It happens, but very rarely. Libraries are big on patron privacy, so we redact names of individual community members. This is also not a space for speech that’s hurtful or hateful about people or groups of people.

I have never tasted Indian or any other food so I asked my library helpers. These are their favorite Indian Restaurants in Boston (we’re not sure how many of them are frequented by BC students, but maybe you can start a trend!).

• Vaisakhi Indian Kitchen (across from the Sutherland T stop)
  • 4 different library helpers recommended
• Punjab Palace (Allston)
  • 3 different library helpers recommended
• House of Tandoor in Newton! Try the Nepali dishes, esp. Momos (Nepali dumplings).
  • 2 different library helpers recommended
• Surya Indian Kitchen N Caterers
• Veggie Crust
• Little India
• Punjab Cafe in Quincy
• Maharaja in Harvard Square
• India Pavilion @Central Sq. in Cambridge
• Punjabi Dhaba

I am on the fence, but Team Aston Martin will not be.