Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
It’s an admirable virtue. As with many virtues, use it in moderation. In excess, loyalty could become unquestioning obedience. Without it, though, social ties crumble. Mutual respect, patience, and tolerance help loyalty blossom organically.
Tall order! Start local: be an examplar of how to live with minimal harm, with respect for others. (And when that fails, at least patience & tolerance.) Do more asking and listening than making yourself heard. Make room for voices that aren’t often heard. Grant those around you dignity and agency. When you encounter injustice, say so, and do what you can to correct it, because peace is unlikely without justice. When you make mistakes, apologize and make amends. There are many courses at BC in political science, philosophy, sociology, and theology that address issues of peace and justice.
That would cost you about one year in jail and up to a $1000 fine if arrested as a first time offender, not to mention the risk you run of being expelled from Boston College. Subsequent offenders double that risk with a 2 year jail sentence and $2000 fine for each additional offense. You also run the risk of getting cocaine laced with fentanyl, which is deadly (RIP Mac Miller). I’d have to say that none of that is worth the purchase price.
Hi! Hope this works out! But we’ll never know, because this wall lives and dies by anonymity.
One can plan paths around aesthetic principles or one can plan paths by observing where people actually walk. The latter method is known as a “desire path” in urban planning: bit.ly/desire-paths. If there’s no signpost about staying off the grass, walk where you need to walk.
Ask him. Easier said than done, I know. But don’t be afraid to take the risk and be vulnerable with the boy you like!
But then what would I do? I don’t have thumbs to twiddle. No, but seriously, watch for some opportunities for you (and others!) to provide answers later this semester.
It’s tomorrow – I’m not great at predicting the future, but I will predict that there will be some amazing dancing! Best of luck to all contestants!
According to the General Manager at Lyons, the appearance of chocolate muffins is random, but frequent. So, you’re not going to be able to put it on your calendar, but hopefully you can get one soon. Sounds delicious!
I’m sorry you feel that would be necessary. Not every higher ed institution is a perfect match for everyone. And to answer your question, no. It’s a big investment, so that’s a hard pill to swallow, but your coursework from BC will count at any institution you’d like to transfer to. Colleges & universities try hard to make sure applicants fit the school and vice versa, because it’s such a big investment for everyone. Whatever happens, I hope you find what you’re looking for.
There’s no obligation to keep loving someone with whom you’ve broken up. It’s admirable to respect them if they’ve earned it. Perhaps you need to enact a ritual of some kind: e.g., get a nice container, put the keepsakes worth saving in it, lock it, and put it away. Or if you’re a more impulsive type, have a little bonfire… though you may later regret disposing of things in such a permanent way. Whatever you do, it sounds like it’s time to close a door, as painful as that may be.
Just be yourself! Focus your energy on what makes you a happier, stronger, more confident person. You might meet someone along the way, but even if it takes a while you’ll be a better you. You might even find that you don’t want a boyfriend after all, which is ok too!
BC probably doesn’t support systemic racism more or less than most other American institutions. Assumptions about race are inevitable in a nation with several hundred years of chattel slavery followed by 100 years of legally enforced racial laws (that ended during the living memories of Americans over 60). These assumptions take active attention to bring to light, and often take difficult conversations to dismantle. BC does make efforts through the Office of Institutional Diversity (bit.ly/BC-OID), and has publicly stated a commitment to nondiscrimination (bit.ly/BC-nondiscrimination). Please help BC maintain its promise by talking to the OID & other offices about deficiencies you’ve seen.
First off, don’t! Popping a pimple can make it irritated and even infected. Instead, try a soothing mask, washing your face particularly well, or a cool cloth to calm it down. But keep your hands away!
Cricket’s a great game; this wall likes any game that involves points scored by crossing a boundary. But if you’ve tried to stop or reduce your gambling & haven’t been able to, your gambling could be an addictive behavior. If you’re wondering, contact the national problem gambling Helpline (bit.ly/gambling-helpline) at 1-800-522-4700.
Yes, you do. You absolutely do. You matter to me. I’m sure you also matter to others. If you don’t matter to yourself, or you can’t convince yourself that you matter, please contact Counseling Services. (bit.ly/BC-counseling). They’ll help you regain that crucial (and true!) sense of mattering.
Do you mean board games or video games? I’ve heard they can be a lot of fun. Try joining him. Do you mean mind games? That would be too bad. Being a Wall, I prefer people to be straight-up; I think life is just better when you can trust the important people in your life to be honest and direct.
Study hard but don’t procrastinate and pull an all-nighter. Get a lot of sleep the night before, and give yourself time to relax and eat a healthy brunch before your exams that will keep you full for a few hours (I’ve heard eggs are good for that!). Above all, stay calm and remember that you have a whole community here to support you and cheer you on. Good luck! The Wall is rooting for you.
Baldwin the Eagle. Doug Flutie is second.
I don’t know why. As they say, you can’t change people. But you have recognized that you don’t like their behavior. My suggestion is to take this window as a learning experience, and file it away as an example of how you will not treat people.
