Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Well, 4% of you is probably experiencing some culture shock. We have lots of books you could read to get up to speed on what 4% of you has missed, and to help you make sense of the different reactions to things you’re probably having. bit.ly/bc-neanderthal. Unfortunately it looks like cosmetic surgery is not covered by the student health plan, if that’s a concern.
There is an appointed time for everything, and a time for every affair under the heavens. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
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I agree with the response. I don’t think anyone wouldn’t be at least flattered to know you’d developed true feelings for them over the course of an otherwise rather transactional affair. You would be opening yourself up to rejection, of course, but that’s always the risk when telling someone you want a relationship. Worth it, in my opinion. Best of luck!
The only way out is through. But brainstorm about ways you can make sophomore year more appealing and meaningful. Are there some opportunities you haven’t yet had a chance to try at BC? Some new goal you can set for yourself for the year? People you want to get to know? Effect political change? I’d hate to see you going through the motions when there’s a whole awesome year ahead for you to experience and give yourself to.
I think it’s okay. But how about looking at it through a different prism: be respectful to her, but know that she’s just not your people.
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1) Be aware it’s a class I controlled substance, so selling or possessing risks a federal felony offense, and because of illegality, 2) it’s likely to be impure and have unknown strength or dosage amount, whether in liquid form, on blotter paper, or in gel tabs, 3) It’s a psychotropic, which means it can have strange, unpredictable effects on the mind & emotions, so you’d need someone around who’s experienced it and knows how to shepherd you through your experience, and 4) effects can last as long as 8 hours, so you’d need a big block of time set aside in a safe space. As a rather sedate Wall, I recommend extreme caution. As to the response: I don’t see how it’s related to the OP, though I understand your frustration & wish you the best of luck.
If your diet mostly consists of Cheetos and orange Fanta (not judging) you might consider rebalancing things. If it continues it’s not a bad idea to stop by health services.
If you’re scared you’ll never see him again, it sounds like you haven’t lost the spark. He’s the same person, facial hair or no. If you made the mistake of rejecting him for beardlessness & now regret it, ask for forgiveness. If no regrets, move on.
YES, I know of it. It’s a little before my time (I was built in 1987) but some of my library helpers recall that episode fondly. For those who are curious: bit.ly/tip-cheers.
Yes, I am happy to comment on your handwriting. It gives an impression of spontaneity and wholeheartedness, as close to calligraphy as one can get with a pencil on a 3×3 piece of paper and yet still be legible.
Love him in whatever way he wants to be loved. That’s true for anyone–you can’t force someone to love you if they want something or someone else more.
This is a common request, but word from On High is that we’re sticking with dogs for now.
Thanks for sharing your candid & discerning disclosures. As you know, “autism” describes a broad spectrum of conditions (bit.ly/nimh-autism). You may or may not have a particular set of behaviors that would result in a diagnosis on this spectrum. Whether or not you are diagnosed, setting the process in motion could help you (and a professional) create a treatment plan that could address some of the behaviors you’d like to change, or it could just give you peace of mind to know for certain. You could begin the process either with Counseling Services (bit.ly/bc-counseling) or with your own primary care physician, and ask for a referral for testing. (BTW, your skepticism about online tests sounds healthy.) Whatever you do, I’m sure you’ll find a way to know yourself better.
As a Wall I’m pretty comfortable with people reflecting things on me, it goes with the territory.
I would go the “I am not a doctor” (IANAD) route and not diagnose him, but gently bring up the symptoms that you’ve noticed, tell him they alarm you, and suggest he might want to ask his doctor (or see University Health Services (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth) about it. It’s good that you’re making the effort to do this; sleep apnea is no joking matter!
Oh, that’s sweet of you. I’m pretty sure I fail on a couple of the minimum job requirements, though. Previous holders of that position have all been both Jesuit AND bipedal.
בהצלחה
In this well-known quote from the Tang dynasty poet Wang Bo (650—676), he was speaking of himself: I’ve created worthy poems, but they go unappreciated. But in a broader sense, it could also be about anyone whose talents and accomplishments remain in obscurity.
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I’m sorry Columbia College didn’t think you were a match. I have faith that you will find the right place for you. Sometimes what we need from poetry (or any art) is to see our own difficulties reflected back at us, and to learn, “ah, people have always suffered thus. I’m not alone.” I’m glad you found that.
不以物喜，不以己悲 Not pleased by external gains, not saddened by personal losses,先天下之忧而忧，后天下之乐而乐 a leader should be the first to show concern and the last to enjoy himself
These lines from “Memorial to Yueyang Tower” by Fan Zhongyan (989－1052) of the Northern Song Dynasty, provide timeless wisdom for leaders who aspire to provide a steady foundation of selflessness for everyone around them.
Is he though? It might be too early to say. You don’t know how these young players will shape up: maybe he sees something in them we don’t. Then again, maybe he blew it. I think we’ll all know by October.
