What happens if I never want to graduate?

What happens if I never want to graduate?
What happens if I never want to graduate?

You could take the lightest possible course load and keep changing majors so that you never quite satisfy the requirements of graduation & yet remain in good standing… but that could get really, really expensive. I recommend instead that you focus on enjoying the present moment. Right now, that’s your social and intellectual world at BC. Later, it will be other things, and if you focus on the present moment then, you’ll enjoy those things, too. And you’ll be able to come back to BC as an alum and enjoy a present moment of reminiscing with old friends, and maybe even meet new ones.

いま、なんじですか。(What time is it now?)

いま、なんじですか。(What time is it now?)
いま、なんじですか。(What time is it now?) [Response: 안녕하세요 잘 가 (Hi, how are you? Good bye.)]

“Now” just keeps moving, so answering “What time is it now?” is a challenge for me. Now that I’m finally providing an answer, “Now” has already turned to “then.” I think the response of your Korean friend (“Hi, how are you? Goodbye.”) sums up the concept nicely: What time is it now? Time to say hi, time to say goodbye. “Now” behaves that way all the time: “Hi! Bye!” Now and then I just want Now to slow down and sit in those comfy chairs right over there and pass the time with me.

When will late night ACTUALLY come back? (to lower live)

When will late night ACTUALLY come back? (to lower live)
When will late night ACTUALLY come back? (to lower live)

According to Dining Services, the move to upstairs is unlikely to be reconsidered. It has helped solve other pressing problems at Lower, including ability to hire and retain student staff at awkward hours, provide a cleaner, more efficient environment for preparing and serving food for Late Night, and open up Corcoran Commons for extended dinner hours, which has regularly been accommodating 400 students. More offerings, including mac-n-cheese, specialty coffee drinks, frips and dips, meatball obsession, hot subs, and ice cream are being added to the Late Night menu.

Hey wall! I just want to say thank you for giving a safe space for students to voice their concerns and curiosities.

Hey wall! I just want to say thank you for giving a safe spae for students to voice their concerns and curiosities. It helps me feel like, despite what I often think I'm observing...
Hey wall! I just want to say thank you for giving a safe space for students to voice their concerns and curiosities. It helps me feel like, despite what I often think I’m observing…
...among our student body, that I'm not the only one dealing with mental/emotional/interpersonal issues. It makes graduating all the more bittersweet. I love everyone reading this!
…among our student body, that I’m not the only one dealing with mental/emotional/interpersonal issues. It makes graduating all the more bittersweet. I love everyone reading this! <3 senior

Thank you for the kind words. Knowing that others are concerned about the same or similar issues in their lives takes us out of ourselves and gives us a different perspective. The thought that someone else has worked through the same problem always helps–see, it is possible to survive and thrive! And it is good to know you are not alone; that friends and organizations on campus are available to assist. I don’t know what I would do without the support of my fellow walls … I hope you have a wonderful senior year and, if you can’t come back and visit me in person, you know you can keep up with The Answer Wall online at library.bc.edu/answerwall <3 <3 <3

How many people at BC have birthdays in August?

How many people at BC have birthdays in August?
How many people at BC have birthdays in August?

IDK, but it might be roughly equivalent in ratio to the number of births per month nationwide. I’ve excerpted a chart from the CDC National Vital Statistics Reports, Vol. 67, No. 1, January 31, 2018, with data from 2016. You can find the full report here: bit.ly/CDC-births, where you might want to find the reports with data from 1996-2000, for a more precise calibration with the current age of students. Happy Belated Birthday!

Has it occurred to you that many of us stand with Kavanaugh, and thus don’t want to protest?

Has it occurred to you that many of us stand with Kavanaugh, and thus don't want to protest?
Has it occurred to you that many of us stand with Kavanaugh, and thus don’t want to protest?

Certainly. As I narrowly addressed the above person’s concerns about protest and connecting with like-minded people, I failed to mention that a significant number of people stand with Kavanaugh. Here are this weekend’s poll results about Kavanaugh from Quinnipiac University: http://bit.ly/quinn-poll-kav. The Wall always welcomes different points of view, and whenever you need resources or information, I’m happy to help.

I am so stressful about job application and networking process. Feeling a bit depressed… What should I do? :(

I am so stressful about job application and networking process. Feeling a bit depressed... What should I do? :(
I am so stressful about job application and networking process. Feeling a bit depressed… What should I do? 🙁

Don’t go it alone. I suggest checking in with the lovely folks at the Career Center (bit.ly/BC-career), attending some of their events and meeting with their career coaches. If you find the stress overwhelming, it might be good to meet with someone at Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling) to talk through your concerns for the future. Best wishes!

Why is it so hard to live with your friends?

Why is it so hard to live with your friends?
Why is it so hard to live with your friends?

In some ways, being with people you care about is harder because you have an expectation that you will agree on most things. When agreement doesn’t happen the conflict is more distressing than when you disagree with someone you don’t care so much about. When you are having a conflict with a friend, remember that it is just a disagreement about one thing. Don’t let the disagreement overshadow the friendship.

What is the point of a double major?!

What is the point of a double major?!
What is the point of a double major?!

It’s just so hard to choose one! Seriously, though, it keeps options open in more than one area, gives you the background to research issues in an interdisciplinary way, allows you to follow two separate passions, and impresses Grandma…? But don’t feel that it’s a necessity or that everyone double majors – talk with your advisor and do what’s right for you.

I think I love BC too much and it’ll be hard to graduate and this makes me stressed. How do I get over this?

I think I love BC too much and it'll be hard to graduate and this makes me stressed. How do I get over this? (only a sophomore)
I think I love BC too much and it’ll be hard to graduate and this makes me stressed. How do I get over this? (only a sophomore)

You know what happens to all those lovely BC students stressing out about having to leave BC? They become our amazing alumni! The BC Alumni Community (bit.ly/BCAlumComm) is a very active group, and there’s no reason to lose your connection to your BC folks. And I’m always so happy to see alums come back and visit campus for reunion, or just passing by (and say “hi” to me, of course!)

No matter how much I try, I never feel like I belong.

No matter how much I try, I never feel like I belong. This is true for both BC as a whole and even individual friendships. Is there a way to shake this or am I destined to be alone?
No matter how much I try, I never feel like I belong. This is true for both BC as a whole and even individual friendships. Is there a way to shake this or am I destined to be alone?

As a Wall, I stand on my own feet (well… footings, actually), but I also depend on my neighboring walls for support. Is it possible you’re expecting your friends to do more than a friend can? A feeling of loneliness or not belonging is likely a habit of mind at least as much as a condition of your friendships. If you can’t escape that feeling, counseling could help you create other mental habits. (bit.ly/BC-counseling) I believe in you, and believe you’ll find supportive friendships and more comfort with your own solitary self.