Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
In order to deal with them, you need to know them. Here’s a list of emotional vocabulary: bit.ly/emotional-vocab. You can get to know them gradually by using them every day in short check-ins. (How am I feeling? <checks list>. Hmm, serene, with a little distraction.) There are apps that help build emotional awareness, too, like Pacifica or WellTrack. If the negative ones too often outweigh the positive, talking to a professional about strategies is also a good option: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
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Thank you; you’re so kind! Wishing you and everyone else peace, joy, and warmth as this year comes to a close; and good things to come in 2019. <3 <3 <3
Look, I got my photo taken with the 2018 Red Sox World Series Trophy!
Isabelle Stone (’18) was awarded a Rhodes Scholarship. (bit.ly/bc-rhodes-issa) Congrats, Issa! What an achievement! It’s the first Rhodes awarded a BC student since 2003. At Oxford University she’ll be studying how to put her economics data knowledge to work to design public policy to help advocate for marginalized people.
(I know, I’m responding to something that wasn’t a question, but I just couldn’t help myself. I was bursting with the news!)
There are many scales of attractiveness. The faculty member most attractive to an institution of higher learning is very likely the one with the most prestigious grants, fellowships, awards, and publications. A Nobel Laureate would be the academic equivalent of a Perfect 10. BC has only ever had one of those among its faculty: the Irish politician John Hume, who won the Nobel Peace Prize for his role in the Northern Ireland peace process. As for current faculty, Juliet Schor is making waves in sociology & environmentalism, Elizabeth Graver and Paul Mariani are esteemed authors, and Amir Hovyeda is a star in chemistry. Many more than can fit on a 3×3 post-it!
Dad is a load-bearing interior wall of a formal DR in a prewar classic 6 on the UES, and Mom is a long-suffering but strong sea wall on the North Shore. As the youngest wallpuppy of 3, I took my time and I hung around a number of places before being invited to take the position of Answer Wall at O’Neill Library in early 2017. I’m single now; I briefly had a connection with a lovely partition once, but you know how they like to move on….
Undergraduate GPA is not the only consideration for graduate school admissions. Generally speaking, if you have a lower than average GPA (for the school you’re interested in), you will have to distinguish yourself through “soft factors” such as life/professional experience. You may consider working for a few years to distance yourself from your undergraduate GPA and build up professional experience to bring to your desired program. I believe in you!
IF the boys all know & are fine with it, and you evaluate the source of your guilt & decide it’s not an issue and that the consequences of your activity really have no foreseeable harms to yourself or others, then continue. That’s a lot of ifs, though. Proceed with caution when the potential benefit is short-term pleasure and potential costs are broken hearts, betrayals, or a failure to value yourself.
As a wall, I don’t engage in either of those activities, whether in baseball… or otherwise.
That, too. Holding people to account and speaking up on your own behalf are both, when done with care and mindfulness, virtues to be pursued and not incompatible with each other.
Sounds yummy. Starbucks menu has something for everyone … well those who are capable of drinking, anyway. 8)
It might be time for a check-in on the relationship. Talk to him about it, but try to do it in terms of behavior. “When you do [thing] it makes me feel [feeling]” That gives a little more emotional space to have a conversation rather than a fight. But if you feel like your boyfriend isn’t interested in you, that is a conversation to have now.
It is sad when the people you count on for support leave you to go it alone. But I don’t think skipping your finals would be a good idea at all. Maybe let him know you miss him and make plans to travel with him in the future? If you could use some unconditional love, our therapy dogs are coming in through Finals & tonight’s the last night – see the schedule: bit.ly/PuppersBC
Yes, cover-to-cover! I always enjoy the words and images of anyone taking their lives–interior and exterior–as seriously as they take the crafts of language and visual arts. Which Stylus provides, over and over.
The Wall does not judge the system, only describes it.
It’s possible, but not easy. “Boston College undergraduate students may apply for internal transfer to the Carroll School of Management for the spring of their sophomore year. The Carroll School accepts a very small number of internal transfer students via a lottery process.” See full details at bit.ly/CSOMtransfer
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My, that looks like a frazzled Christmas ornament. I’m glad you took a break to communicate with me. Hope it helped! And I hope you will be done with finals and exams soon, so you can devote your energies to more pleasant things, such as having a happy holiday season and a wonderful semester break!
Repetition. Simplicity. Incremental rewards (and slow in coming; it takes a while to get to the point where you can hire grandmas to do the work for you). And who doesn’t like cookies? And grandmas? (You aren’t one of those players who would sell grandma, are you?!) Of course, if playing impairs your ability to function, it could be a problem. So much so that Internet Gaming Disorder (IGD) is being studied; go to the database PsycInfo and search for articles for more info.
It seems sensible to wonder if that’s all he has in mind. You get to say what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not.
I hope you’re talking about keys & ID’s, not friends! If you’ve lost someone close to you, I’m so sorry. You have my deepest sympathy. If it’s little things, it’s probably just a moment of inattention when you set them down, distracted by more interesting elements of your life. One of my assistants finds it helpful to say the location aloud when they set something down, e.g., “I’m putting my ID on this table.” If you lost something in the library, try the main circulation desk on the 3rd floor; that’s where lost items can be found.
