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Sounds like you’re getting back on track already. Why not work on time management by getting some academic coaching at The Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors), so it doesn’t come down to this next time? You will get through this!
You’re awesome! So are friends. I’m happy to be your friend. If you want even more friends, I recommend doing things in groups that interest you, being yourself (because did I mention you’re awesome?), and looking for opportunities to chat. I’ve never been much of a mingling-type, myself (people have called me a wallflower), but I’ve found if I listen carefully & respond thoughtfully, I make friends in spite of my quiet, contemplative nature.
Presumably because you met criteria either when you were admitted to BC (high-school achievement, aptitude test scores, teacher recommendations, and the content and quality of application essays and other writing samples) or later on the basis of instructor recommendations and exceptionally strong academic performance. The coursework prepares you to be a critical thinker thoroughly grounded in a European cultural tradition (bit.ly/BC-honors).
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I’m having trouble with your handwriting, which I have to read backwards. If you’re talking about the philosopher Levinas you’re talking about ethics, but not necessarily ethics the way other philosophers talk about it. Bernasconi in the Routledge Encyclopedia of Philosophy has a good description of his major works and how the Other has claims on the Self which are impossible to meet. The bibliography has some suggested reading which looks promising. Let me know if you’d like more, or if I’m totally misreading your question. bit.ly/bc-levinas
Short for “Ratskeller,” which is German for “dingy but reknowned punk club in Boston where the Dropkick Murphys and the Mighty Mighty Bosstones had their first gigs.” Oh, wait. I’m sorry. It actually means the cellar under the “Rathaus,” or City Hall, where there was often a restaurant or bar. So it’s triply appropriate: 1) it’s in the cellar of 2) Lyons Hall, which is kind of BC’s city hall in 3) Boston, where the punk club of the same name was nicknamed “The Rat,” because, well, maybe there were some. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Rathskeller
I misread this as panettone, and was all for it, in either case. But since it’s actually about colors, not sweet breads, I would say it depends on your proposed usage. 186 seems more somber to me, although a very nice color; 184 strikes me as very “pretty in pink.”
Taza Guajillo Chili.
It takes a lot more than we’ve had the past few weeks. BC does have the odd snow day, but a regular New England snowstorm is generally not enough to close us down. Weeks like this I’m glad I’m not an exterior wall, for sure!
If someone you know is engaging in self-harming behavior, please convince them to go to a hospital! I will find out whether they might have a choice of which hospital in the circumstance that they are “sectioned” by an LICSW, but keep in mind that when someone is sectioned, it is because in a clinician’s professional judgment, doing otherwise would likely be lethal.
I would encourage you not to think of them as zero-sum choices. Balancing friends, family, and career can be very challenging for sure, but all bring a different type of satisfaction into your life. You may find that at different times in your life, one of those needs to take priority over the others – but that will wax and wane throughout life and is part of life’s beauty. Friends and family can support you in your career, and
You must be looking for my distant cousin, the Magic 8-Ball (ask8ball.net). I wish you the best of luck in all of your endeavors.
I’m so glad you recommended the arts as a way of understanding a concept! In my perennial enthusiasm for information, I sometimes forget that the way to really grasp something might be through literature, visual arts, or music. J贸hann J贸hannsson and Ludovico Einaudi have answers, too.
If your friends can’t respect that, there’s a big problem with them. Peer pressure to use drugs is ugly enough to begin with, without adding the risk of allergic reactions to the mix. It’s just a few days away, but I hope you can be firm about your intentions and get some agreement from them before heading there. And have a fantastic trip!
Attend the commencement ceremony. But before that you might stretch your comfort zone and go to a meeting or event that you would not normally experience. It is sometimes these small personal challenges that make a big difference in your life.
Yes, we’re aware of the pesky squeakers and are taking action, but I will alert the administration to this new sighting. I do think it’s exciting that the mousie has an interest in Asian Languages.
I am only sorry for your own sake that you spend so much time talking to a wall. (Metaphorically speaking.) I will pass along whatever information my assistants are able to glean.
Please, if you know of someone who is engaging in self-harming behavior, tell them that a leave of absence is not punitive: it is a recognition that the student needs some time to focus on healing & seek a greater degree of support
Update from Dean of Students Office: “No, in almost every instance, the Dean of Students Office and other offices on campus work with students to get them connected with the appropriate resources on or off campus and supports them through that process. BC’s Involuntary Leave of Absence Policy is only employed in extreme circumstances. If you would like to discuss this more, including the ways that staff in the Dean of Students Office support students, please contact Caroline Davis, Associate Dean for Student Outreach & Support at caroline.davis.2@bc.edu, 617-552-3470 or by stopping by 448 Maloney Hall to schedule an appointment.”
I’m sorry you’re having an unpleasant experience with the Office of International Programs. I would hazard a guess that any office that tries to arrange hundreds of students’ travel and study to countries with a dizzying variety of visa and academic requirements might have a hard time providing perfect service. If you have a complaint about their personnel or procedures, I recommend contacting them directly: oip@bc.edu.
Should you go to the Connors Family Learning Center for tutoring in a huge variety of subjects? YES! Oh, is that not what you meant? IDK, because I don’t know who Connor is & whether or not they’d like to be had by you. It’s kind of contingent on that.
My understanding is that Kairos retreat leaders are fellow students, so it doesn’t seem like there’s an issue – why not ask him/her out and see where it goes? You already know you have interests in common.
