Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
No need to apologize. Not knowing means you get to ask a question, and libraries exist for people with questions. And I must say, as the Answer Wall, I especially enjoy people with questions.
Well, my assistants called around campus, and though I don’t have an answer to “why,” I do have a clarification: BC does not offer financial aid to students who are not permanent residents or citizens. This is a decision made at levels higher than, say, the Student Services office, who only carries out policy. Federal financial aid, on the other hand, is only ever available to permanent residents or citizens. If you want to challenge that policy, I suggest garnering support from UGBC and approaching the administration.
The Wall can’t tell how to read the word suffer, so it has a couple of answers. TLDR: Dump them. If you mean “suffer” generally: Directly. Quickly. Trying to soften the blow or wait for a good time tends not to work out all that well. You’re under no obligation to stay somewhere that makes you unhappy. If “suffer” means you feel unwell the answer might be the same–but also consider reaching out to campus Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling) or Campus Ministry’s pastoral counseling (bit.ly/bc-campus-ministry), depending on what sort of advice you’d like. If you’re feeling unsafe, call BCPD
You should try to bring them along rather than “overcome” them. It is you they most care about, and their understanding and acceptance of your relationship has to start with accepting your LGBTQ identity. The process is easy for some parents and nearly impossible for others, so it is hard for me to say what will work for them. If they are into support groups, PFLAG may be helpful (pflag.org).
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Be polite when you ask. Give them plenty of time (at least a couple of weeks if at all possible). Write up a reminder for them of the work you’ve done together. Include the description of what the person or group is looking for in a candidate. Make it as easy as possible for them to do you the favor. (And don’t be totally surprised if they ask you to write a draft of the letter you want, that’s common).
Look no further than BC’s mission statement (http://bit.ly/bc-mission-history), part of which reads: “Boston College remains committed to leading its students on a comprehensive journey of discovery—one that integrates their intellectual, personal, ethical, and religious formation.”
Maybe I’m just jealous – the ceiling always seems to come out on top. By the way… the wall at the top that I mentioned – our University Librarian, Dr. Thomas Wall!
Yes, you really have to. According to the National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive and Kidney Diseases (bit.ly/UNeed2P), acute urinary retention may be life-threatening, and will cause major discomfort. If the question is “Do I have to pee right now?” rather than “do I have to pee… ever?” I’ll leave that up to you!
If you are having trouble with printing, please stop by the Walk-In Help Desk across from the 3rd floor printers in the O’Neill Library.
Maybe tell the boy about your roommate? No, but seriously. Directly, leaving no ambiguity, but kindly, such as: “I had a good time, but it just didn’t seem right for me. You’ll find the right person.” It will be awkward, and somewhat painful for the recipient, but the best course is honesty & clarity.
Let Dining Services know what you’d like to see by leaving them a comment: bit.ly/BCDiningComment. Please keep in mind that cost and how easy it is to cook for LOTS of people are just a couple of the things they’re juggling in planning menus.
Yeah, it’s been really cold. There’s some variation in answers to how cold it has to be for that, but a trusted source says under ten degrees Fahrenheit. http://bit.ly/bc-freeze.
The Career Center will reserve rooms for students as long as there is space available. Email career.center@bc.edu or call (617) 552-4769. And best of luck!!!
Sounds like a cozy plan to me. I do a variation on that during breaks and it’s very relaxing.
Everything in the Pop Collection (just to the left of me) has been suggested by library staff as current best-bets. I highly recommend browsing there.
There is at least one: Gail Hoffman in the classical studies department. I think you’ll find that she is, like most archaeologists, more meticulous & precise than swashbuckling.
Affirmations are good wherever they come from. It’s powerful to create your own affirmations, but sometimes folks are so down that affirmations from outside help to jump-start the supply from within. And sometimes it’s just nice to know and hear that others think well of you.
It’s terrible that your fear in such situations is warranted. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that. I don’t know if it’s foolproof, but attending parties with friends who have your back, and with whom you’ve made plans beforehand to avoid dangerous situations, could reduce the risks. Arrive & depart with the group. When it’s clear you’re with a supportive group, danger is less likely.
