Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Study hard but don’t procrastinate and pull an all-nighter. Get a lot of sleep the night before, and give yourself time to relax and eat a healthy brunch before your exams that will keep you full for a few hours (I’ve heard eggs are good for that!). Above all, stay calm and remember that you have a whole community here to support you and cheer you on. Good luck! The Wall is rooting for you.
Baldwin the Eagle. Doug Flutie is second.
I don’t know why. As they say, you can’t change people. But you have recognized that you don’t like their behavior. My suggestion is to take this window as a learning experience, and file it away as an example of how you will not treat people.
It happens. And it can be awkward. Maybe they or you are with someone else, there are lots of possible complications. All you can ultimately do is be honest…but remember that your having feelings doesn’t necessarily create an emergency for someone else. Love is a choice, and how you express it is also a choice.
We have some terrific parks and hiking areas near Boston; they are free or inexpensive, and with spring weather on the way, they could provide a very romantic setting. Take advantage of some museum freebies available through BC: bit.ly/MuseumPassesBC.
Great idea! Boston Common can be lovely in the Spring; bulbs are just starting to come up. In a week or two they’ll start to blossom.
Looks like someone else on the board is looking for a boyfriend, too, which suggests there’s someone for everyone. Can you find a GF for a roommate? IDK. Maybe what you can do is suggest this option: join some clubs with appealing activities. Other folks with the same interests is often a good place to begin.
The mixing of races isn’t new, just more talked about in places where it hasn’t been acceptable in the past. Regardless, I suspect it will take more than 3 generations. You should know that some people bristle when complexions are described as caramel, toffee, coffee, etc. because those terms equate skin tone with food, and there can be underlying connotations with that. As for becoming queer, the number of people who publicly identify as LGBTQ may go up as societal acceptance increases, but the overall percentage of the population is unlikely to change much. I just hope that the world keeps trending toward more acceptance of others, regardless of what makes them who they are.
Thanks so much for the generous offer! But I’m a) a Wall, and finding a sweatshirt that fits has always been challenging and b) I’m at BC, and there’s plenty of good team gear here. So, no thank you, but I’ll keep an ear out for my California cousins.
Lol. No NBA team with any hope of winning would second guess their decision to draft Zion first if given the opportunity. The dude is basically already an NBA all-star. Ja Morant had a great game and has the potential to be a great player in the NBA. But not first pick. (Also I hope Duke loses)
I would start by contacting Facilities at 2-3048. I expect that having bringing in a cat would be problematic for a variety of reasons, but you could suggest it!
If you must work in a noisy environment, the O’Neill circulation desk has earplugs; you might also be able to mask sound with music via earbuds or noise-cancelling headphones, which are expensive but really work. People have different needs for work environments, and BC Libraries attempts to cater to as many needs as it can. There are certain areas that are set aside for quiet work such as O’Neill 4th & 5th floors. Take a look at these descriptions: bit.ly/BC-oneill-spaces. Other libraries also have quiet spaces, such as Gargan Hall in Bapst, & many spaces in the Theology & Ministry Library.
I’m very sorry you’re struggling and worried. Touch base with your academic advisor for general advice about your GPA and options, and get lots of tutoring help from the Connors Family Learning Center (bit.ly/BC-connors). I’m cheering for you.
![I noticed the same person posted 12 or 13 notes on suicide/sec 12/LOA... are you alright? I mean that completely in an "I care about you" way. I see you, I hear you, and I worry it's not just for info/research but for yourself. Holding hope for you. [response1: Speak up--you matter. Stay Fearless. Always. Response2: Thank you for the kind words. Yes -- I'm alright. BC has great support & resources the Dean of Students Office, UCS, this wall, and everyone. So I do also encourage ppl reach out should they need help, and pls show great appreciation to the faculty/staff. P.S. The question are mostly about resource & policy, NOT suicide. But, still appreciate your kindness]](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/aw032219-8.jpg)
Thank you for your care and support! Your caring note has inspired this Wall to help people care for people. Many people around us are suffering silently. If you know of someone who’s suffering, put a note of care & support here for them. (No names, please, to protect privacy.) [posted on a temporary wall annex in O’Neill Library: I’m sorry, there’s no capacity to accept notes of care and concern on this blog.]
If you see that one again, tell it to drop by O’Neill Library, but please, no offense, to stay outside.
Coca-Cola? Though it is delicious, there is no safe amount to drink. It is loaded with sugar and has been linked to many health conditions including diabetes, obesity, and cavities. Water on the other hand is wonderfully healthy and hydrating. I do hope you weren’t asking about cocaine, but if you were the only safe amount is nothing – zero, zilch, nada.
You’re welcome. I hope your posts have inspired other people who need help to seek it.
It would be the same as for any hospitalization, such as for a broken bone or an acute infection. I’d stay in close contact with your advisor, who can send notices to your professors about a medically-excused absence. It would be wise to contact your professors yourself, too, when you’re able, in order to arrange ways to make up lost work, get class notes, etc.
Suffering takes all kinds of forms. No suffering is de-legitimized by social station or privilege. Gautama Buddha, who had been in line for a throne before he renounced, said suffering is a given for everyone. Christianity says much the same thing but in different words: we live in a fallen, post-Eden world. It sounds like at the moment, you’re suffering more than many. I hear you. I care about you. I believe you can get through this intense bout of suffering. Remember, anyone suffering like this has people they can talk to, such as the PEC at university counseling (call health services at 617-552-3225 and ask to talk to the PEC) or at the national suicide prevention hotline: 1-800-273-8255.
No, I don’t. I wish I did. I know it can be very hard to arrange good therapy. All I can recommend is the usual channels for referrals, or this site hosted by Psychology Today that can do regional searches: psychologytoday.com/us/therapists. Look for therapist descriptions that include specialties in the diagnoses you’ve encountered. But I’m pretty sure I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know.
