Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
People-pleasing can just be being agreeable. But it can also be a form of manipulating circumstances to avoid conflict or other threats, and get in the way of thriving & relationships. If you’re a BC student, the counseling center could a good place to determine what’s going on and change habits if necessary. (bit.ly/BC-counseling)
My suggestions are: A Safe Girl to Love: Stories by Casey Plett; An Unkindess of Ghosts by River Solomon; Cemetery Boys by Aiden Thomas; Light from Uncommon Stars by Ryka Aoki; A Rotten Girl by J. Ursula Topaz. If you’d like more recommendations in a particular genre or with specific themes leave another note. Can’t wait to hear what you think.
The baseball World Series trophy was like ten feet from me one afternoon in 2018. So wild. https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/2018/12/19/5621/
If I had toes, touching them would warrant hands. If I had both, I would suppose I couldn’t, given the virtue of my inflexibility. I’ve met the flexible walls inflated every winter at Alumni Stadium. I think they can touch their toes, but only when they deflate.
Love is uncertain, so I make no guarantees. But yes, there are lots and lots of nice people here.
While both technically work, I’m partial to “San Fran.” “SF” made me think of science fiction, but that might just be because I live in a library next to the pop collection.
Life’s too short for toxic. But it’s rough out there, so maybe don’t rage quit and instead quietly line up your next thing. Good luck!
I asked one of my assistants, and they said that they try to focus on two words: “be correctable.” Try to take responsibility and accountability for your choices, apologize and seek repair, and focus on how you will do things differently moving forward. We can’t change what we did in the past, but we absolutely can decide to approach things differently in the future.
This is a deep philosophical question, that I, as a wall, feel underqualified to answer. I recommend looking up “Consciousness” in the New dictionary of the history of ideas, for a fascinating overview. bit.ly/bcl-history-ideas
The human-animal relationship has been complicated for millennia. We domesticate some, we eat others, some cultures have built spiritual relationships with animals that nourish them, some are more thoughtless, and some have forsworn eating them at all. Here’s an interesting book about that history: bit.ly/bcl-humans-animals
It’s possible to have an architectural theme for a campus without making every building look the same.
You can break up with someone at any time for any reason. Be a human about it and do it in person. You don’t need to be dramatic or explain yourself if you don’t want to. Good luck!
I’m really more a continental philosophy type than an analytical one. Allow me to recommend something like Gensler’s Introduction to Logic. https://bit.ly/4d8rjmj
That’s either a bad idea or hype. Healthy weight loss plans are slow, like 5-10% of your current weight in six months. Some suggestions: https://bit.ly/4etDwo4
Yes, but beauty (or character, values, interests, etc.), eye of the beholder, etc., etc.
Mostly bipedal?
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Yes, the Social Work Library will be moving too. But it will have windows, a garden view, and be just a short shuttle ride away.
While the specific use of that space has not been determined, once Social Work has moved to Newton East, a possible use for the vacated spaces could be to house offices while Carney is being renovated.
I’m not sure if I can help without knowing anything about you. However, there is someone who can! BC Dining has a dietitian on staff who offers nutrition counseling as well as referrals to other providers (bit.ly/BCnutrition). In the meantime, you can also view today’s menus (bit.ly/BCdiningmenu) to find nutrition information, focusing on balanced meals consisting of calorie-dense and nutrient-rich food, such as beans, fish, and eggs.
Procrastination often stems from a feeling of being overwhelmed by a task. You might try two things on your own: 1. break the task into smaller tasks. “Write the Paper” is not what belongs on your to-do list. Break it into a dozen steps. 2. Tell your inner critic–the unhelpful one–you don’t need their input right now, you’ll do fine on this task. So what if it’s not the Mona Lisa? It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece, it just has to be done. For help with task management, get an appointment at the CFLC for academic coaching: bit.ly/BC-connors
Yes. I’m a big fan of taking whatever the next tiny step is. Then maybe the one after that. This is the secret to actually getting things done.
That’s great advice! Once you complete one of the tasks, consider giving yourself a lil treat or crossing it off a list as a way to see the progress. One foot in front of the other — you can do it!
