For the Wall

What is the best motivational advice that you have gotten?

“I have learned one thing. As Woody [Allen] says, ‘Showing up is 80 percent of life.’ Sometimes it’s easier to hide home in bed. I’ve done both.” –Marshall Brickman, co-screenwriter of the film Annie Hall.

Can The Wall Write a Story?!

Hi wall!! I’m almost done with the hunger games trilogy and it was probably my favorite trilogy I have ever read! Anyway, I was wondering since I am almost done, if you could write me a story that I could read. Also if you have any book recommendations please let me know! I am into fantasy and I like to get caught in a good book! 🙂

Not many stories fit on a post-it. Here’s one of the most famous shortest stories of all time, supposedly written by Hemingway: For sale: baby shoes, never worn. | For finding books similar to one you’ve just read, I highly recommend LibraryThing, a community of dedicated readers who share their book lists. Here’s the entry on The Hunger Games: https://www.librarything.com/work/4979986

Random Adventure

Good to see ya wall! It’s been a minute since I have been here. I am approaching second semester senior year and want to know if you know of any randomly fun adventures? I’m talking random like a scavenger hunt, secret room, or any other cool little trinket of a memory I can hold onto amongst unemployment.

You can roam the world to your heart’s content on Google Earth in satellite view and street view. Add a gaming aspect to your explorations with GeoGuessr (the free version has become very limited, though). Add audio with a radio station from anywhere:bit.ly/RadioOptions.

I believe everyone has some source of good in them, yet…

of course it can be nearly impossible to say a person who has murdered babies and laughed at them has “good” in them. So, what type of good do you think lays in the midst of murderers, or people who have impacted others negatively? Also, what makes something good and something bad?

If you believe humans have the capacity to change, then everyone has the capacity to be a better (or worse) person than they once were, and shouldn’t be defined only by the worst thing they’ve ever done. It’s an open question how societies respond to destructive behavior, which is one way of defining good or bad. Once upon a time, it was commonly accepted worldwide that a nation had the authority to execute people; now that’s relatively rare, though it’s still a legal remedy in some US states. IOW, opinions differ. Here are 800 books at BC Libraries on the topic of capital punishment: bit.ly/bcl-capital-punishment

Ominous insomnia cure

As long as I can remember, I’ve had trouble shutting off my mind to get to sleep. One night, for some reason, I tried to die by willing my heart to stop. I didn’t die. But I went right to sleep. Since then, I’ve been doing the same thing to get to sleep almost every night. I’ve never slept better. I promise I’m NOT suicidal. I’m happy and productive during my waking hours. But I worry. Am I harming my psyche, could I actually induce depression or real suicidality by doing this?

Yikes – as you say, sounds ominous. I’m very glad you’re not suicidal, but since you are worried about harming your psyche (and I am, too), why not contact University Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling) and run it by them. Discuss your sleep problems, too. They may have some good suggestions for you.

Hello! :D So, my question may kinda be about something illigal…I think. Okay, there thsi guy I like, but I strongly think he is gay. And my question is: Is it right to ask for his phone to do something small (call a friend or etc.) and quickly look at his hystery on his phone and search for “pornography” to see if he watches straght or gay one?

Just to make sure he is straight. I know I can just ask him, but, well… no. If it is fine, and legal, to check his hystery, then I will do that. (I know that looking at somenes pornography hystery is kinda..you know…creepy… but I really want to be sure.) And he might as well be a maniac who deletes all traces, so then this question may be un-needed.

I can understand the urge to reduce your emotional risk, but, it is none of your business whether he is gay or not, so any sleuthing to determine that is inappropriate. Your motivation to know seems to be because you’re interested in dating him. If that is true, you should just tell him you’re interested in more than friendship, and let him respond. Regarding searching his phone, that’s a really bad idea for a few reasons. It’s almost certainly illegal in several ways. Even if it weren’t, it would be an invasion of privacy to snoop through someone’s phone for anything, much less something as personal as their browsing history. Hard to see how doing that as the first step in a possible relationship makes any sense.

Hi wall! Lovely weather we’re having, but I suppose it’s not much difference to you (not to assume; I hope that you have other trivial opening lines pertaining to your surroundings!).

I’ve been struggling a lot with my sexuality lately– trying to be straight, failing at that– and I’m just kind of afraid of being out on campus. I know I’m not supposed to care about what others think, wall, but it’s difficult when you’re already viewed as a quirky girl to slap ‘openly queer’ onto your image. I’m afraid that my friends will treat me differently, because there’s still a lot of casual homophobia floating around. I don’t want to be different, I just want to be myself, wall. How do I build up the confidence to do that? xo

You are right, the outside weather doesn’t matter much to me, but I’m very attached to a wall that cares a lot about the weather. More importantly, it’s understandable to be concerned about coming out on campus and how your friends will react. It sounds like this is new to you as well. My advice is to give it the time it needs, both to feel comfortable with whatever sexuality you decide fits you and for you to let others know. There is no deadline for doing this, and you may decide that some people never need to know. When you’re ready to start telling others, one helpful strategy is to begin with those who you think are most likely to be supportive. They can help build your confidence. Once you have a few people on your side, it is easier to start talking to more people.

With The Masters Tournament coming up, what are your predictions?

Do you think Bryson’s grip-it-and-rip-it strategy will fare well at Augusta?

It’s impossible to stay competitive in the Master’s without being able to keep up with those “grip-it-and-rip-it” shots, which Tiger Woods showed when he changed the way golf was played by doing just that. As long as he can maintain his short game, he’s got a chance. CBS Sports has some good analysis of what it could look like, hole by hole. http://bit.ly/bc-augusta.

Hi Wall, do you ever feel just so stressed and confused in your life that you don’t know what you’re doing anymore?

I’m in medical school during fine, but I feel so stressed all the time, I don’t enjoy anything

Times are tough, and med school is no picnic, especially if you’re attending remotely. I’m sorry you feel so stressed and confused. Yes, I do feel like that from time to time. I hope it’s helpful to know that feelings like that are temporary. Here’s a helpful twitter thread by a crisis doctor about hitting limits: http://bit.ly/6-month-wall. Wherever you’re at med school, I’m sure they have a counseling center. Use it. And talk to friends and family to get grounded. If there’s a way to get together with other med students, even if it’s zoom dinners, do that, too. Connections with other people are vital.

What are your limitation as a person

I exist as a collaboration between you and my library helpers. Your question is filtered through my experience and that of my helpers, and I can only speak through them. Because I have lots of help I have lots of perspectives, but never all. That’s why I try to cite my sources, so you can help assess whether I’m missing something.