
Clearly, you’re confusing me with a dragon named Rand al’Thor. I’m flattered.
Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
I’m sorry you’re experiencing someone else’s toxic behaviors. Are you worried they’ll lash out toxically if you don’t do it nicely? If so, ugh. That’s a hard position to be in. I recommend talking to your RA, and they’ll be able to refer you to people on campus who can help.
I don’t think the sale of shells at the seashore has ever been tightly regulated, and who knows what an unscrupulous shell salesperson might try to slip you (not trying to slander Sally, though, she’s an honest vendor.) I recommend being a careful buyer; why not check in one of our guides to seashells in O’Neill Library (QL400s, 3rd floor, row 80)?
The desks themselves were taken by Facilities for donation or discard. They were replaced by bigger desks when the space was enlarged. Now more people can enjoy the view of Boston while studying. If you really miss the smaller desks and their configuration, check out the 4th floor overlooking Commonwealth Ave and Maloney Hall.
BC has an Office of Student Outreach & Support that offers LGBTQ+ programs & support: bit.ly/LBGTQBC. Why isn’t a resource center part of their services? If you join your voice with theirs, maybe together you can make a difference.
The key thing is to make sure you are getting enough sleep. I recommend the advice from the Office of Health Promotion (bit.ly/BCOHPZzz). If you’re unusually tired though, please get medical advice (bit.ly/BostonCollegeHealth). I always found participating more in class helped to keep me awake, so you might want to consider that.
I’m so sorry. It sounds like you wear a smile; that can help, to a point, to trick yourself into actually becoming happier. But only to a point. Problem: it also tricks other people into thinking you don’t need support. When, clearly, you do. We all do. Please get it. If not from friends and family, then from someone skilled in listening, like a counselor: bit.ly/BC-counseling.
I can see that working for some people and some subjects, but lots of professions have legal requirements for formal education, so that’s a thing to consider.
It all depends on so many things. What are you expecting from the relationship? What is the other person expecting? Have you been clear with each other? Can you imagine life without their virtues? Can you imagine living with their faults? Are you capable of saying, “I’m sorry, I was wrong”? And have you said it? Are you expecting the other person to change in certain ways, or are you willing to let the other person be their authentic self, and grow and change at their own pace?