How do I stop comparing myself to other people :(

How do I stop comparing myself to other people :(
How do I stop comparing myself to other people 🙁

Try and figure out the times when you get locked into that cycle and see if you can redirect your attention. Example: if Instagram gets you wound up, maybe dial that back a bit or follow some different people. Also a good idea to spend some time alone, so you get a sense of who you are when other people aren’t around.

Do you have a favorite song?

As you might imagine, many of my favorite songs are about walls. Unfortunately, many humans sing about the dark side of walls: how they divide us or become barriers. The Simple Minds had a song called “Wall of Love,” partly about how walls can also enclose and protect, and it also reminds me of the Wall of Love in Paris: bit.ly/wiki-wall-of-love

Why does everybody get sad as the weather gets colder?

Why does everybody get sad as the weather gets colder?
Why does everybody get sad as the weather gets colder?

It’s not universal; I seem to hear as many complaints about the heat as I do about the cold, and fall weather perks a lot of you humans up. But if the cold (and possibly the dark, dark evenings since we put the clocks back) are making you sad enough that it is interfering with your life, you could talk with someone at University Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling).

Should you continue loving sb. who doesn’t love you?

Should you continue loving sb. who doesn't love you? Should I continuing doing things I don't like?
Should you continue loving sb. who doesn’t love you? Should I continuing doing things I don’t like?

It’s hard to say without knowing the particulars. What you should do is talk it through with people you trust. It will still be your decision, but you may find hearing other perspectives broadens or changes the possibilities. And remember, there are many kinds of love, and many ways to like or not like something you do.

Why is Noah Kahan the greatest musician ever?

Why is Noah Kahan the greatest musician ever? Also why am I so tired? ?
Why is Noah Kahan the greatest musician ever? Also why am I so tired? ?

My human assistants and I are grateful that you introduced this musician to us. (Do I hear the influence of Tracy Chapman?) Maybe you’re tired because there’s still a pandemic going on. Or maybe you just aren’t getting enough sleep, or time away from media. In addition to getting sufficient sleep, make sure you disconnect from screens regularly, and connect with other living, breathing humans.

How to stay @ BC forever?

How to stay @ BC forever? (Currently a BC double-Eagle; plan to apply to BC PhD... eventually take over as faculty...)
How to stay @ BC forever? (Currently a BC double-Eagle; plan to apply to BC PhD… eventually take over as faculty…)

I would recommend getting out and seeing the world. BC is awesome, but there are so many other places to see. If you’re determined to stay, you could broaden your scope; there are many other positions here other than faculty; for instance, I found a great job in the BC Libraries, and with your whole-hearted devotion to BC you might be terrific in Development….