I’m sorry you’re suffering. When the world tries to turn people’s intrinsic worth to extrinsic value, a person’s own sense of self-worth can suffer. I recommend spending time with friends, nature, or whatever recharges you, and reflect on how you can find a sense of purpose that’s higher than what an organization assigns to your labor and time.

… the one we danced to all night long….

Your boyfriend sounds like he is trying hard, but he probably doesn’t have the training to work with you on this issue. I recommend trying again to work with University Counseling – you could ask for a 15 minute triage phone appointment to see how they can find a way to get you to talk with someone. More info about different appt. options: bit.ly/BCUCSOptions

I’m glad you wrote to me, but I need you to contact someone who isn’t a wall and is in a better position to help you get back on track. You could start with your professors and your academic advisor and be very clear the level of difficulty you are having. University Counseling Services is also a good place to contact bit.ly/BC-counseling.

There is never any good place to kill yourself. I urge you, if you are even considering this, to reach out – you can call 2–3310 and ask to with speak with the Psychological Emergency Clinician during business hours, or call the BCPD at 2-4444 at any time or there are several other contact methods here: bit.ly/EmergencyHelpBC.

Any good hardware store sells rope. Use it safely: don’t try to support more than its max weight limit, and never put it around your (or anyone else’s) neck, even in jest.

Try and figure out the times when you get locked into that cycle and see if you can redirect your attention. Example: if Instagram gets you wound up, maybe dial that back a bit or follow some different people. Also a good idea to spend some time alone, so you get a sense of who you are when other people aren’t around.

Many are. I’m sure not everyone is. But many also stretch themselves thin financially, aspiring to fit into the well-dressed & well-traveled profile. I wish that pressure weren’t so strong.

Of course, I’ve unblocked all my exes in preparation.

Thank you! I feel very appreciated when I read all the post-its – do you know I even get marriage proposals?

It depends on how you define it, but somewhere in the range of 10,00-20,000… Here’s an explanation from the Audubon Society: bit.ly/HMBirds

Your life is valued and has purpose. Trust that, and meaning will follow.

I’m a Wall Not an Investment Advisor (IAWNAIA!) Why not join the BC Investment Club (bit.ly/BCInvest) and talk with fellow students with similar interests? We also have books to help you in the HG4000 range (O’Neill Library 4th fl, row 97 and thereabouts.)

Wishing you a very happy birthday! Celebrate!

Hands down 1989. Absolutely brilliant. Ryan Adams’ cover isn’t shabby either.

I don’t, but am always up for new things. What do you recommend?

I have neither. It seems like with you humans the fingers are more nimble and useful. But would your shoes still fit?

So many favorite colors. Today I’ll say purple.

As you might imagine, many of my favorite songs are about walls. Unfortunately, many humans sing about the dark side of walls: how they divide us or become barriers. The Simple Minds had a song called “Wall of Love,” partly about how walls can also enclose and protect, and it also reminds me of the Wall of Love in Paris: bit.ly/wiki-wall-of-love

It’s not universal; I seem to hear as many complaints about the heat as I do about the cold, and fall weather perks a lot of you humans up. But if the cold (and possibly the dark, dark evenings since we put the clocks back) are making you sad enough that it is interfering with your life, you could talk with someone at University Counseling Services (bit.ly/BC-counseling).