I wanna chat with you

I wanna chat with you but I have social phobia. What should I do?
I wanna chat with you but I have social phobia. What should I do?

Changing formats like this is a great idea. Maybe try texting if talking in person is too scary? You could also try changing situations. Maybe a quiet place? Maybe a small group instead of a large one? Or maybe bring a friend to make you feel more secure? It’s all good. Figure out what’s comfortable for you.

Will Russia win?

Will Russia win?
Will Russia win?

It is anyone’s guess how this will end, but I fear there is very little “win” in most scenarios. I am heartbroken over the destruction and loss of life.

Why doesn’t she like me?

Why doesn't she like me? Why am I not enough for her? :(
Why doesn’t she like me? Why am I not enough for her? 🙁

Super disappointing when someone you like doesn’t feel the same way, my sympathy. There are a million possible reasons why two people don’t connect, but zero of them are a judgment of whether you are “enough”. You are fine as you are.

How to live?

How to live? Tips and tricks
How to live? Tips and tricks

I’m a Wall, and my answer would be simply to be surrounded by as many people as possible that I can support (and get to know!), which means I couldn’t be happier right now. I asked my Library helpers too and they have lots of ideas:

  • Good friends
  • Even if things seem grim, be optimistic.
  • Therapy
  • Live with wonder, humility, gratitude, and transparency. Also, love generously and be quick to forgive.
  • Laugh often, find moments in the day for reflection.
  • Keep your space tidy, learn 5-7 really good recipes, and get outside for at least an hour a day.
  • Spend time in the sunshine
  • Get out in nature any time you can!
  • Long urban walks, screen time limits on apps, send snail mail to loved ones and friends
  • Try not to compare yourself to others “When you compare — you lose” (easier said than done in a competitive environment!) Be nice to yourself xo
  • eat soup every day and eat fish every week
  • Remember that you’re the only person who has to live with you and live your life every day 
  • Say yes to lots of things. Push through the moment where you’d rather stay in your pajamas than go to an arts or networking event, or rather stay in a city you know than take that interesting job in a state you’ve never been to. I’ve far more frequently regretted the things I haven’t done than the big changes I’ve leapt into.
  • “No legacy is so rich as honesty.” -William Shakespeare, All’s Well That Ends Well, Act III, Scene 5
  • Focus on what you need to do and want to do, and don’t worry about what you should.
  • Put chips in sandwiches. 
  • How to Live : “A world of greed has no more strength / The voice of love has called my name” – yaeow
  • Live Authentically – Theran and Williams
  • Find something every single day to be happy about, or to love, or to take joy in, or to be grateful for: no matter how small or seemingly mundane it might be. Write down what that thing, or those things, are, so you can look back on them when life gets rough to remind you of what’s good about the world. It sounds cheesy on the surface, but if you make it a daily practice, it really does change your outlook on life for the better.
  • Dance like somebody’s watching, otherwise in the privacy of your own home; live each day like it might be your last but probably is not.

What are good Indian restaurants in Boston that students from BC go to? Happy Easter! ?

What are good Indian restaurants in Boston that students from BC go to? Happy Easter! ?
What are good Indian restaurants in Boston that students from BC go to? Happy Easter! ?

I have never tasted Indian or any other food so I asked my library helpers. These are their favorite Indian Restaurants in Boston (we’re not sure how many of them are frequented by BC students, but maybe you can start a trend!).

  • Vaisakhi Indian Kitchen (across from the Sutherland T stop)
    • 4 different library helpers recommended
  • Punjab Palace (Allston)
    • 3 different library helpers recommended
  • House of Tandoor in Newton! Try the Nepali dishes, esp. Momos (Nepali dumplings).
    • 2 different library helpers recommended
  • Surya Indian Kitchen N Caterers
  • Veggie Crust
  • Little India
  • Punjab Cafe in Quincy
  • Maharaja in Harvard Square
  • India Pavilion @Central Sq. in Cambridge
  • Punjabi Dhaba

Should I go to college here at BC?

Should I go to college here at BC?
Should I go to college here at BC?

I’d love to get to know you better, so my selfish answer would be “yes.” Boston College is an amazing place. I can’t judge whether it is the right choice for you. Learn as much as you can and see if your goals align with BC and whether you generally want what BC has to offer.

What’s your type?

What's your type?
What’s your type?

If you mean MBTI (Myers-Briggs), I am an ENFJ, but I have helpers who keep me balanced from other types.

Obviously you ;) winking face
Obviously you 😉 winking face

Awwwwwww…. (blush)