![[drawing of a cat/owl on a branch] meowl](https://library.bc.edu/answerwall/wp-content/uploads/2025/05/AW050525-6.jpg)
Meowl is a beautiful creature! Thank you for this exquisite drawing!
Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library
Treat it like real grief, because it is. There’s no set timetable for processing a loss, you sort of have to work through it. Talk to friends about what you miss. Do things that make you happy, even if you’re not sure they will right now. Feel your feelings and you’ll move on when you’re ready.
What are you most excited about? I’ve heard it’s good to find side-hustles based on your interest or on your time. Restaurants are often a good option, but there are summer historical tours, internships, tutoring, and all sorts of outside options like lifeguards or yard work.
It seems like this has been a hot topic on the wall lately. Remember, when it comes to privacy, walls are your friend! Roommates should arrange for some kind of signal. An old classic is a tie (or something) hung from a doorknob, but since cellphones and texts exist now, those are a good option. IOW, use such an event to prompt a conversation about how to avoid it happening again.
If you and your boyfriend haven’t discussed marriage before, I suggest you ask him what his views on marriage are and when he could see himself getting married. Suddenly sharing that you want to make a big life commitment without checking that he is on the same page is likely not to end well.
I can’t make predictions but my Italian relatives inside the Sistine Chapel might be able to answer (though they go silent during Papal elections). If you are interested in the history of how Popes are chosen, I recommend the book The conclave: a sometimes secret and occasionally bloody history of papal elections (https://bit.ly/bcl-the-conclave) in our library catalog. Major news sources like the New York Times and Wall Street Journal have good coverage of the Vatican, and there are also solid Catholic publications like America (the Jesuit Review) and the National Catholic Reporter to watch for developments.
My cousin the magic 8-ball is better at prognosticating. All I can offer is a good source: bit.ly/bleacher-nba-2025. The Knicks will know tonight whether they face Boston or Orlando if they knock out Detroit. Question: would you prefer the Knicks face potential injuries with the dirty play of lower-ranked Orlando, or lose to the clean play of higher-ranked Boston?a
The thing with friends is they’re your friends even when they’re being dumb, or when you disagree with them. Be there for them. It’s OK to comment once or twice when their partner does something disrespectful. But your friend’s only going to change their mind about the relationship when they decide they want to.
Though I agree to a point with the reply, one also needs to set boundaries. If you can ride out the last few weeks, you can find a better situation for next year. Meanwhile, if you’re willing to go there & think it might have an effect, maybe a conversation with your roommate about hurtful comments would chasten her.
At the very least you’d run into problems with the computability of real numbers.
Taking a class is a great idea if you want to learn more about something. I also agree that machines can’t solve every problem (yet).