
If I knew what “roncall” was I could likely help. What I imagine: students in Roncalli Hall have a particular way they summon help from the constabulary, perhaps via morse code on a trombone. Am I close?

Answering questions at Boston College O’Neill Library

I asked my library friends, and wow, did they come through! Here’s what they suggested:

Hard to choose just one, although my helpers have plenty of recommendations (bit.ly/wall-songs). I definitely have a soft spot for prog rock — particularly Pink Floyd’s The Wall.

There are a variety of possible answers to that pretty basic question in a bunch of faith traditions. Maybe start with the article in the Encyclopedia of Religion, which has a good overview of approaches: https://bit.ly/bc-theodicies. If you’re looking for a more conversational answer, “When Bad Things Happen To Good People” is a classic: https://bit.ly/bc-theodicy
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The poet Alfred, Lord Tennyson thought so, and he grieved the loss of a close friend for 17 years before arriving at that conclusion. We can all save ourselves some time with his hard-earned wisdom: ” ‘Tis better to have loved and lost/ Than never to have loved at all.” from In Memoriam, A.H.H. : bit.ly/bcl-tennyson-memoriam

I’m sorry to hear about your unhappiness here. The height of the pandemic made for hard times everywhere, but it wreaked havoc on the promise of community on college campuses. If memory would give you solace, go to library.bc.edu/answerwall, and use the date selector to go to March 2020. I find it hard to read because it evokes such sad memories, but it might be validating to see how many people shared your pain.

At the risk of being a little bit of a downer, spend a little time grieving what you’ve lost before you move on to other things. Even if if didn’t work out, even if you ended it, it was still important to you for part of your life. And take the time you need–some people move on quickly, some people need a little time to figure out who they are again when they’re not with someone. There’s no “right way” for everyone, but I do like the advice someone added.
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Time heals all wounds.