Category: Random

It disgusts me how objectified they are. Should I be attracted or does that have something to do with my sexuality?

Human desire and attraction has never seemed to me to correspond to anything rational, so I think you should feel comfortable about whoever you are or are not attracted to. Media objectification of women’s bodies has certainly merited a lot of scholarly attention. If you’re interested, here are some books related to the subject in our collection: bit.ly/BCL-women-media.

Why do people develop those fetish? Is it due to nature or is it something related to childhood experience?

The honest answer is that we don’t know. It was alleged in the Steele Dossier that there was some activity with a prostitute in Moscow involving urine, but it hasn’t been verified. As to how people develop sexual fetishes, it’s anyone’s guess. Freud would likely have attributed it to childhood experiences. This wall’s approach to human sexuality is that as long as everyone involved is a freely consenting adult, it’s none of my business.

Thanks for the book recommendations, I’ll definitely check one or two out from somewhere.

You’re welcome! Check with your local library – you may have some great options for checking out eBooks.

I am currently writing a book, but I have almost no time to work on it. I want to write every day, but I study the whole day and when my free time in the evening comes, I just can’t bring myself to write. I want to relax and just “chill” as they say. Can you give me some tips to motivate and bring myself to write and not lose motivation?

Writing is hard to begin with, and when it’s pitted against all the other things we’re obligated to do it often takes a back seat. You *do* need time to recharge, so try not to pit it against that. Find a 20-30 minute time in the day you can commit to writing, even if “writing” ends up meaning sitting in a chair looking at a blank screen sometimes. You may need to pull time away from other obligations. Meanwhile, don’t expect magic. Writing is hard work, so be kind to yourself. I highly recommend Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird to put you in the right mindset: disciplined, but also able to laugh. Good luck!

A little flat, a little chilly. Stay warm out there!

Since I’m in a fabulous library, I can answer a lot of my own questions. I also contact our reference librarians by chat and email (libguides.bc.edu/ask-a-librarian). When it’s a question of a more personal nature, I tend to ask Dad (the NYC apartment wall) or Mom (the north shore sea wall).  The Level 3  Library Door has also been a great friend to me and we discuss issues of common concern, you know, lobby gossip…

This thesis is not available through our repository or via ProQuest Dissertations and Theses. “At the request of the author, this graduate work is not available to view or purchase.” You could try contacting the thesis advisor (kathleen.bailey@bc.edu) to see if she can provide any assistance.

Being alive. Being you. You’re worthy.

Humans are bad at assessing abstract risks to start with, but humans with lots of money from the fossil fuel industry have also spent decades trying to confuse matters, and that has affected our politics and how people think about the issue. http://bit.ly/bc-denial

This is a bit of a traditional mystery. There’s a classic essay from the early 90s that says Macs are Catholic and PCs are Protestant, but I think some of the comments definitely apply to Android as well. http://bit.ly/bc-macs

Altruism can also benefit you & still be altruism. For a more exhaustive survey of the ethics of doing good, see this Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy entry on altruism: plato.stanford.edu/entries/altruism

I low key suspect Caroline’s name and maybe UCS would make the top list! If you give them $100 each time they are mentioned, both office probably would have the budge to hire more staff by now! lol

Sigh… if only I had standing to support budget changes… Yes, UCS and the Office of Student Outreach & Support are very helpful offices. Facilities and Dining Services hear a lot from me as well. But the most traffic is right here in BC Libraries, because I am, after all, a library wall.

ive read lots of stuff on them but i cant wrap my head around it, is the airflow on the bottom of the wing faster, or is the top, does flight mode (AOA, climb or dive, rolling yawing that kind of stuff. And other than that, what are boundary layers, i get there is mass, compressible or unompressible that has inertia and that changing direction gives it an angular momentum but when it reaches a smooth body shouldn’t that just fling all the mass to the side of it, why do these boundry layers attach, i hvae tried blowing on my arm and feeling how the hairs react and for some reason i can feel, am i wrong in assuming that fluid flows over a wing are drawn to some form of line roughly in the middle of it, does AOA have any effect on that line. Good books on aerodynamics anyone?

Try this one: http://bit.ly/bc-aero. It’s recent and has a really extensive bibliography.

Becoming more compasionite for yourself requires knowing and accepting who you are. If you’re the type of person who rarely looks into the future, you might be suprized at how much self-knowledge and self-acceptance you have to gain from looking forward.

It’s a wise person who pursues compassion for the self. I can see how you might come to know yourself by being more aware of your dreams and fears. One can also focus on the immediate present. Try focusing on your breath. When your mind wanders, gently bring it back to the breath. When you’ve done this many times in a daily practice, you begin to see themes in where you mind wanders, which is another way of knowing yourself. If you keep it up even longer, you begin to sense the very moments in which your mind begins to construct your fears and hopes, and you may even realize you can choose among them, and don’t need to be controlled by them.

I’ve been learning French on Duolingo, also known as the language learning website/app run by an owl that wants to steal your family members, and I feel silly sometimes making weird noises. I know that it’s languages, and I have fun learning them, but I feel like people are judging me when I do it. Do you have any recommendations for overcoming this feeling of being constantly judged?

Learning a new language during pandemic is a terrific idea. With regard to making weird noises while practicing a foreign language – it happens to all of us. Talk to those you live with and determine the best time to do the speaking parts, so you know you’re not distracting anyone from their work. At that point, any judging others do about you wanting to develop your mind reflects poorly on them, not you. Bon chance!

I think the reason you don’t hate me is because you know I’d do anything for you if you asked, but you don’t ask and I’m left wondering why, and then the feeling of like you could do anything for me pops back into my head and my heart opens up wide, and I feel like I could be everything for you, I could love you forever if you let me, and I don’t know why I can’t just take that first step, but my feet won’t move.

Because I’m not you.

I can’t be, and that’s just how it is.

Going someplace else. Just for awhile. Just to escape. Someplace that I’m not so far from now. And where is that? That’s what I need.

My secret is to show all the good, and all the love, that I can. It’s not easy to stay the night at a lonesome place. It’s easier with another. It’s been there all along, but you couldn’t see it. But I know it’s out there, I can feel it. I was afraid, and alone, but it’s okay now. See, now we’re friends, just like the wind in the trees, I never cared. So, don’t cry, you must have known that all along. Maybe I did too, but it’s hard to say. When you’re sad, you have to stand up!

Hey – that’s a plus!
A new opportunity.
I get a chance to set another line of merit as I write.
Before that, there was just hate.
Desire, which alludes to revenge and justice, could be followed by terror and revenge, and then, no more opportunities.
But now, there is a circle within that circle.
A greater chance for success.
Not many can hope to seek that sort of golden circle, but I can. And what is that opportunity?
I will find it out.

No! There’s a touch of Beethoven’s piano sonata in that thought. You have only influence over whether your story stays in the shadows, or goes public, if you let it. We are too much our own worst enemy in this country, unwilling to admit to ourselves and to others, even, that we don’t know everything.

I need the satisfaction of ending the tale well, writing another verse that does justice to my beautiful companion.

In the early days, writing with a man was an adventure, but now I don’t want to write with one. I just want to finish the story as soon as possible. I realise that the real writer doesn’t like romance and the verbose, the ugly stream of details. He appreciates clarity, flexibility, lightness and the stylistic lyricism that creates the perfect balance between the text and the tale.

“He then visited a mental institution and spoke to some patients in need of help. Some of the patients were young and many of them had mild forms of mental illness. After listening to some of their stories, it was easy to see that, no matter how difficult their situation, there is still hope. A 19-year-old girl told him that she had a better understanding of how to live her life since he spoke with her.”

It sounds like you’ve found a way to hope, which makes me happy. It also sounds like you’ve found a way to make sense of a complicated knot of feelings and thoughts. I wish the best for you.

I made my own little wall because I really liked this one. It’s just for my friends and I, but instead of having just one “Wall” answer them It can be anyone, we just added comments. So far, it has a really good effect, everyone is telling me how much they love it! It helps us share our emotions with each other, because we usualy keep our feelings on the inside. So thank you so much for the idea!

I love love love that a wall is helping you and your friends to open up and communicate! I recommend you plan in advance for how you will manage discord or inappropriate comments – even among friends this can happen. Oh, and say “hi” to your little wall for me and tell them I’m proud of them!

*blushes* We certainly try. Thank you!

If it’s interfering with relationships or with any other aspects of your life, or you simply want to stop and can’t, I’d recommend talking to a professional. If you’re a BC student: bit.ly/BC-counseling.

I thought that is what usual people feel like and it keeps you safe, but I just start to realize that I’m quite different in that way… I’m confused and scared of this weird world. >.< I mean I don’t think there is anything wrong or weird if other people identify that way, but I start to realize how others see me as different? Human world is just very difficult to understand, sometimes you wish you are a unicorn.

I agree that the human world is hard to understand. I’m sure unicorns have troubles of their own, though, sadly. There are certainly varying degrees of sexual intensity, and that’s also apt to change throughout life. If you find fear about your sexuality or difference hinders living a full life, I recommend talking to a counselor about it. If you’re a BC student, you can get started at bit.ly/BC-counseling.

Charge!!!